Help my girlfriend broke up with me!!

[paintballer]

ok my girlfriend of about one day broke up with me because are parents don't agree with it.

she is 17 and i am 14 we both don't care about the age differnce because we love each other but i don't know what to do i am kinda deppressed but i have no idea what do do so if anyone has any advice i will love to hear it

 

[wilmabride'sdaughter]

Aww im so sorry to hear about that.

It's pretty harsh that she is letting the thoughts of your parents affect your relationship. But are you sure that's the only reason she broke up with you? She may just be using this as an excuse.

I'm just trying to think of all the possibilities

I think you should talk to her tomorrow. I mean really talk to her and both of you come to a compromise. I'm sure it'll probs be a misunderstaning.

Let us know how it goes. If ever you need to vent or just chat my PM box is always open.

 

[Smiley.Socks]

Im so sorry to hear about that Hun.

 

[paintballer]

thanks and i know it is are parents that stopped us she said her mom found out and said to end it but i really like her and we will be friends for ever no matter what we promised each other

 

[acesupercoolme]

Well if I was a parent I definitely wouldn't allow it!
Your in what, grade nine?
And she's in grade twelve then I guess?
You're still a child, she's pretty much an adult.
That's just wrong...
And when she turned 18, if you gus did anything sexual, that would be statuatory rape, and she's be a sex offender for the rest of her life.
That's just creepy...

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

Well if I was a parent I definitely wouldn't allow it!
Your in what, grade nine?
And she's in grade twelve then I guess?
You're still a child, she's pretty much an adult.
That's just wrong...
And when she turned 18, if you gus did anything sexual, that would be statuatory rape, and she's be a sex offender for the rest of her life.
That's just creepy...

I agree.

 

[acesupercoolme]

I agree.

I like your signature, it's pretty funny.




And if you guys are gonna say that relationships aren't all about sex, well I already know that, but in grade 12, theres sooooo much pressure on you if you're a virgin, and if she won't have sex with you, she'd probably have sex with someone else.
So it's probably a good thing that you're not dating her anymore.

 

[VolleyballQt07]

Well if I was a parent I definitely wouldn't allow it!
Your in what, grade nine?
And she's in grade twelve then I guess?
You're still a child, she's pretty much an adult.
That's just wrong...
And when she turned 18, if you gus did anything sexual, that would be statuatory rape, and she's be a sex offender for the rest of her life.
That's just creepy...

I totally agree.

I'm kind of going through the same thing but I'm not 14. I'll be 16 in March, my boyfriend 18 in January. We've talked about that too...with my parents and stuff. But they're ok with the relationship so we're ok.

But yeah your parents obviously thought different. I really don't blame them for making you guys break up. And no offense but you can't really say you loved her. You dated for like, what, a day? It takes a lot longer than a day to "love" someone........

 

[Shelton123]

I like your signature, it's pretty funny.




And if you guys are gonna say that relationships aren't all about sex, well I already know that, but in grade 12, theres sooooo much pressure on you if you're a virgin, and if she won't have sex with you, she'd probably have sex with someone else.
So it's probably a good thing that you're not dating her anymore.

I was just going to post that. She realizes she will turn 18 and be able to have sex with guys who are older. It's harsh, I know, but when your at that age most people think about sex all the time, so she can't be thinking about love.

 

[3mtn-kate]

I'm all for age not mattering in a relationship but this is a little extreme. I mean I think that feelings are feelings no matter how old or young you are but I get where her parents are coming from.

You really are a little young and she is a little too old. I am sorry that her parents were like that though.

 

[acesupercoolme]

I totally agree.

I'm kind of going through the same thing but I'm not 14. I'll be 16 in March, my boyfriend 18 in January. We've talked about that too...with my parents and stuff. But they're ok with the relationship so we're ok.

But yeah your parents obviously thought different. I really don't blame them for making you guys break up. And no offense but you can't really say you loved her. You dated for like, what, a day? It takes a lot longer than a day to "love" someone........

Whoah, I totally missed how he only went out with her for a day the first time I read that.

Yea, so I totally agree with you, you can't really love after only going out with them for a day...

 

[Disney.Ears]

You're 14, and she's 17?! Hello! I completely agree with your parents.
And you went out for a day...OMG. It's really not the end of the world hahaha.

Find someone closer to your age and take it slow before you say you love them already. xD

 

[KitKat_Tink]

Quite honestly she might have asked you out as a dare or prank...unless you've known each other for awhile...Alot of girls are mean. Not All...

But you were only dating for one day...One day isn't even DATING. It is oh I like you you like me lets be a bf and gf...

She's 17...She could get more guys her age...Never think its normal for a 3 year age difference until 16 or 17 and then it would be 3 years older...

 

[Axel]

I don't blame either of you guys' parents!

When you're that age, the social pressure to have sex and whatnot is outstanding. She would probably have had a lot of pressure on her to sleep with you and whatever. I know I can feel it and I'm not even dating anybody!

And really, you can't say that you're "in love" with somebody after you've dated them for only a day.

My advice? Put your big boy pants on and get over it. Date somebody your own age who will face the same social pressures as you. You wanna date somebody older once you're past 18, be my guest. Until then, don't put somebody's future at stake.

 

[Sparx]

i'm like a month away from seventeen. i'm a senior in highschool.
i have little to nothing in common with freshmen, and i really wouldn't feel comfortable dating one, because they're so much younger and there's such a maturity level difference.

 

[minniesBFF]

i'm like a month away from seventeen. i'm a senior in highschool.
i have little to nothing in common with freshmen, and i really wouldn't feel comfortable dating one, because they're so much younger and there's such a maturity level difference.

I agree. I'm 17 and I could never see myself dating any of the 14 year olds. Their maturity level is so much lower than mine. And that's saying something because I can be pretty immature at times.

But, I don't know your maturity level, so I can't judge you on that. But, you say you've only been dating for a day? That's not very long at all for you to develop "love" for someone. I think you may be overreacting a little.

 

[Shelton123]

Yeah I'm 13, in 8th grade, and I could NEVER date a 7th or 6th grader. There is such a maturity level difference. Well I end up dating girls 2 or 3 years older because I am more mature (or so the older girls say). Heck, my first girlfriend in 5th grade was a year older and we lasted for 7th months (then she moved to Estonia).

 

[paintballer]

ok thanks guys

 

[GoofysOnlyGirl]

i'm like a month away from seventeen. i'm a senior in highschool.
i have little to nothing in common with freshmen, and i really wouldn't feel comfortable dating one, because they're so much younger and there's such a maturity level difference.

I completely agree. I mean the freshmen are nice and everything but I would NEVER think about dating one. Girls mature faster than guys anyways for the most part. She is turning 18, legally going to be an adult, and probably either a) going to college next year or b)Starting to work live on her own next year. Either way, it is a HUGE step from being a freshman.

In other words I completely agree with both of your parents. If I ever told my mom that I was dating a freshmen she would literally laugh in my face and then wonder if it was April Fool's day. I don't even know what she would do about it since its never going to happen.

I really am sorry that you guys broke up, just try and see it from your parents point of view. I do believe you geniually LIKED her. I wouldn't call it love though at all. Try asking someone your own age out. :]