Help! My DH has discovered Facebook.

[EllenFrasier]

Okay, so he's a little slow. I have been on facebook for a while. I don't have 300 "friends" just a few people I went to school with, worked with, etc. Dh sent me a friend request when he first signed up, but I didn't approve it. I don't have anything to hide on there, I just thought it was not necessary that we be friends on facebook when we see each other all the time and email and text already.
So anyway, last night he was on facebook for 2 hours! Chatting with somebody he either went to school with or worked with, something like that. The part that was driving me crazy is he kept telling me everything the other person was saying! Finally, I told him that I was trying to watch the movie I had started watching and then he stopped telling me, but he kept laughing out loud and making other verbal gestures....ugh, I think I created a monster.
On one hand it was good to see him laughing with a friend as he doesn't really have that many friends. One of the guys that was in his wedding, someone Dh went to school with, told Dh that we should get together when the weather warms up. I haven't seen this guy since the day we got married - that was almost 25 years ago. The man is not married, does not have a girlfriend, etc. I think Dh and this guy should just go out and have a drink or something and catch up. I wouldn't know anyone they were talking about and would be bored to death.

 

[bdcp]

Okay, I don't get why you didn't accept your DH's friend request. Sorry, but if my DH didn't accept mine, I'd be suspicious (of course he would never do that so I have nothing to be suspicious of). Other than that, I don't see the problem. Just tell him you prefer he go out with his friend without you. Otherwise, I don't get the problem with face book.

 

[Scurvy]

Okay, so he's a little slow. I have been on facebook for a while. I don't have 300 "friends" just a few people I went to school with, worked with, etc. Dh sent me a friend request when he first signed up, but I didn't approve it. I don't have anything to hide on there, I just thought it was not necessary that we be friends on facebook when we see each other all the time and email and text already.
So anyway, last night he was on facebook for 2 hours! Chatting with somebody he either went to school with or worked with, something like that. The part that was driving me crazy is he kept telling me everything the other person was saying! Finally, I told him that I was trying to watch the movie I had started watching and then he stopped telling me, but he kept laughing out loud and making other verbal gestures....ugh, I think I created a monster.
On one hand it was good to see him laughing with a friend as he doesn't really have that many friends. One of the guys that was in his wedding, someone Dh went to school with, told Dh that we should get together when the weather warms up. I haven't seen this guy since the day we got married - that was almost 25 years ago. The man is not married, does not have a girlfriend, etc. I think Dh and this guy should just go out and have a drink or something and catch up. I wouldn't know anyone they were talking about and would be bored to death.

It's new to him. I think it's fairly normal for someone to be especially enthusiastic about things like this when they are new. Once the initial excitement about it wears off, he'll probably stop spending so long on there at a time and trying to read you the things people say. If you don't want to go when he gets together with his friend, just bow out and encourage him to go out for a guy's night without you. If he doesn't have many friends, it sounds like this might be a nice way for him to reconnect with people and strengthen the friendships he does have.

I can't imagine turning down my husband's friend request. We don't interact much on there, especially since we're often in the same room when we're checking Facebook, but since we're friends we see the things we each post, and can both be part of the conversations on there with our mutual friends. As bdcp said, it probably would have worried me if my husband had declined my request (though actually I was on there first, so I suspect he actually sent me one once I convinced him to start an account). But if that's what works for you, then it works for you.

 

[LuLuO]

Okay, so he's a little slow. I have been on facebook for a while. I don't have 300 "friends" just a few people I went to school with, worked with, etc. Dh sent me a friend request when he first signed up, but I didn't approve it. I don't have anything to hide on there, I just thought it was not necessary that we be friends on facebook when we see each other all the time and email and text already.
So anyway, last night he was on facebook for 2 hours! Chatting with somebody he either went to school with or worked with, something like that. The part that was driving me crazy is he kept telling me everything the other person was saying! Finally, I told him that I was trying to watch the movie I had started watching and then he stopped telling me, but he kept laughing out loud and making other verbal gestures....ugh, I think I created a monster.
On one hand it was good to see him laughing with a friend as he doesn't really have that many friends. One of the guys that was in his wedding, someone Dh went to school with, told Dh that we should get together when the weather warms up. I haven't seen this guy since the day we got married - that was almost 25 years ago. The man is not married, does not have a girlfriend, etc. I think Dh and this guy should just go out and have a drink or something and catch up. I wouldn't know anyone they were talking about and would be bored to death.

I don't understand why you didn't accept his friend request. I would be miffed if my DH didn't friend me. And I really just don't understand what the actual problem is.

 

[Handbag Lady]

Some of the funniest conversations I've seen on FB are between married people.

 

[Angelhalo]

I don't understand not friending him.

 

[wdwiala]

Sorry, there is something wrong with your relationship if you feel the need to keep him off your Facebook when you let 300 other "friends" free reign.

 

[handinpocket]

Sorry, there is something wrong with your relationship if you feel the need to keep him off your Facebook when you let 300 other "friends" free reign.

Ditto. All of my friends are friends with their spouses on FB. If you have nothing to hide, why would you care if your spouse was your friend.

 

[DVC-Don]

My wife is my best friend, even on Facebook.

 

[doxdogy]

Add me as another poster of why you ignored your DH's friend request.

 

[Magic Mom]

Sorry, there is something wrong with your relationship if you feel the need to keep him off your Facebook when you let 300 other "friends" free reign.

The OP said she didn't have 300 friends, just a few. But I agree that she should friend her husband. I would feel really awful if my husband wouldn't friend me.

 

[Eeyore5]

Some of the funniest conversations I've seen on FB are between married people.

So true. Especially when it is fairly clear they are in the same room or next room over.

 

[Tinker-Bee]

I wish my husband would get his own facebook. Many of his friends are my friends and he will reply to their posts under my name. We have actually had alot of fun and laughs with this. So, add me to the ones wondering why you wouldn't friend your husband.

 

[BeefJerky]

Add me too.

 

[SaraJayne]

Why in the world wouldn't you friend your husband?

From reading some of your posts, I get the idea you really don't like him much.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I think DH being on mine & me being on DH's is a pretty powerful deterrent against other people doing or saying anything overly stupid and we never even talk to each other on there. Like you said we prefer to communicate privately but still.... to each their own but count me as another person who doesn't get it.

 

[katesorad]

My DH has a Facebook and my friends love annoying him on it.. I love it!!!! It's pure entertainment.

I also don't get why you didn't accept your DH's friend request. It's not like you have to use Facebook as an alternate form of communication. You can still talk face-to-face!

And go easy on him! When my mom first got Facebook, she called me from her house and started freaking out about how awesome it was. It was cute.

 

[horseshowmom]

I have to agree with the others. My husband would really wonder why I hadn't accepted his friend request, and I would feel the same way. I don't get it either.

I do understand why you would rather your husband and his single friend get together without you though.

 

[smb6]

I agree with everyone else- accept your dh friend request. Even if he does not say anything- I would imagine he has to have some level of concern and/or ill feelings about you not accepting his request. Just because you are fb friends does not mean you have to communicate on there....

 

[lustergirl]

My wife is my best friend, even on Facebook.

I agree with this-hubby isnt on facebook but if he was, we would share our space together