help! How do you get someone to leave!

[tiggger1]

OK how do you get someone to leave!

My best friend had her dd on the 29th..her mil was there the day she was born. MIL sister was also there. They stayed at my bf house..The aunt stayed for 3 days the MIL was only suppose to stay a week. My BF ended up in the hospital for 2 days because of high blood pressure and while she was there the mil caused problems for bf family （bf lives with her brother and sister)She got mad when BF mom stayed in the hospital to watch the baby.. She told 27 year old brother he needed a curfew and asked 28 year sister if she ever heard of proactive, when she said she used it, the mil said..too bad it didnt work huh...needless to say she is making everyone miserable.

well she was supposed to go home yesterday after her dd40 and sister came up to visit the baby for the day. For whatever reason they didnt come down yesterday and are coming tomorrow. they are thankfully staying in a hotel but told bf they dont know how long they are staying could be a few days, could be a WEEK!

BF wants quiet family time and cant do that when she is entertaining mil and relatives..the mil likes to be in charge and is very rude, the sister doesnt like it when she isnt the center of attention and will throw a fit...yes she is a 40 year old women...

I told her to tell them they can come by on a set time due to the baby's schedule..like from 3-5...but she said she tried that already but they just dont get it.....

I told her that I would pick her up and she could hang out here but she would rather just relax at home...


any ideas

 

[Uncle Remus]

Set the house on fire?



j/k, I offer my sympathies.

 

[SplshMtn99]

Time for husband to stand up to his mom & tell her to go home.

 

[SHAYMARAYSMOM]

Time for husband to stand up to his mom & tell her to go home.

Time for DH to man up and tell them to leave

 

[Goofycampers]

Time for husband to stand up to his mom & tell her to go home.

I agree he needs to stand up to his family. She shouldn't have to deal with crazy in-law stuff after giving birth.

 

[Serena]

Yep, he needs to be her hero. Kick mom out.

 

[tiggger1]

Time for husband to stand up to his mom & tell her to go home.

yeah, unfortunately I think he tried and she ignored him...he doesnt really like his family...they treat him like he is stupid and they ignore him alot..his sister threw a fit when she wasnt asked to be bridesmaid in the wedding, so bf added her. Then she came here and didnt like the attention bf was getting and complained of chest pains and spent 3 days in the hospital( they couldnt find anything wrong and tried to discharge her and she pretended to pass out and she ended up with a psych consult). she then proceeded to call everyone at the wedding whose number she had multiple times. She also called the reception hall when her brother didnt answer his phone to complain that she was bored and wanted company..

 

[MAKmom]

Time for husband to stand up to his mom & tell her to go home.

 

[freckles and boo]

GET OUT! works. She can always apologize later and blame it on exhaustion or hormones.

 

[Scurvy]

Husband: "Well, Mom, it's been so nice to have you visit! You've been such a help and we appreciate it. I think now it's time for us to start settling in with our own family routines (or I think we've tired BF & baby out and they need rest, whichever he thinks will work best), but we will see you again tomorrow afternoon (or at Thanksgiving/Christmas/next weekend/ next year/soon/whenever he wants her to come back)."

MIL argues, throws a fit, and says she want to stay.

Husband: I'm afraid that won't be possible, but we'd love to see you (insert some time in the future here).

And if she keeps overstaying her welcome, just say "No". If they don't let her come over to begin with then she can't stay too long.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

They both need to step up and tell them to get the heck out of their house, then lock the door and not answer it. I wouldn't put up with that. Thank goodness when my MIL does come to visit, she has to stay in a hotel, cause she ain't stayin with me.

Suzanne

 

[Cindyluwho]

This is going to sound really harsh but if these new parents don't have the "ahem" to throw the folks out, then they're not going to be very good parents to their child. Grow a backbone for god's sake.

 

[rie'smom]

Your friend and her husband need to handle the situation.
She needs to tell him.
He need to tell them.

 

[Mom2Nick]

Time for husband to stand up to his mom & tell her to go home.

Yup! "Hey mom - Thank you SO much for staying with us. You have been a really great help. But you have done enough and it's really time for us to get settled into an every day life routine. I would love to take you to lunch tomorrow to show you how much I appreciate it and afterwards I will drive you home"

Not that hard to kiss *** and get rid of your mommy at the same time.

 

[JodyLynC]

My DH said to his Mom "You need to leave." She complained, but DH stayed firm. She left.