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[pat9283]

Hi all, I hav'nt posted for a while but I have been around. Ive got a few little problems that I thought you could all help me with. First of all has anyone got Doreens number, Ive got to ring her in 2 weeks to book my wedding but I've lost the number she gave me And also we've got a bit of an issue with the guest count! We were planning to have the wedding pavillion and I know ur only alowed 18 ppl (Does this include the bride and groom?) At the moment we have 19 guests, not including the me and DF (however, 2 of them are 18mths and 10mths old so I don't know if they count, Do they?) Im so confused, please help! I need to know so that I can find another venue if needed. Thanks in advance for any replys this gets! Oh and by the way Im having an intimate wedding.

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

Doreen's info from an email I received from her when I started my planning and booking....

Doreen M. Diehl
Escape Wedding Coordinator
Disney's Fairy Tale Weddings
Phone: (407) 566-6548 (8-259)
Fax: (407) 566-2723
doreen.m.diehl@disney.com

I'm not having babies or small children at my wedding, so I can't help you on that... from what I've read on this board, they do include the babies in your guest count, but I would get the official word before trying to figure something out.

The 18 guests does not include the bride and groom. So it's actually 20 when you include yourself and your DF.

Again, I hope this helps!

Wendy

 

[pat9283]

Thanks for your speedy reply. I might e-mail her and ask about the wedding count! Thanks again

 

[hiwaygal]

The guest limit for an Escape (intimate) wedding is 18 guests + bride and groom (for a total of 20). And children and babies are included.

You might consider having Disney childcare come and sit the little ones during your ceremony so their parents can still attend.

ETA: The only venues that have "guest restrictions" due to space are Sunrise Terrace (at Wilderness Lodge) and Sunset Pointe (at the Poly). You are limited to 8 guests + bride and groom (for a total of 10) there.

 

[pat9283]

Thanks, the reason Im asking is Im sure I read on another thread that they will sometimes make an exception for a small child (well baby really) I guess I'll just have to ask disney themselves. The 2 babies are part of the wedding party. One is my sister and the other my nephew. (Flower girl and pageboy) I guess if I really have to I can ask someone to volunteer to not go to the ceremony, There's a few of my sister's partners going who may not mind..... I'll have to sort this out soon, I cant afford to upgrade the whole wedding for one person! Oh the stress!!!! LOL

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

Pat9283~ DF had the same problem in the begining with cutting the list. He absolutely had to invite so and so. Well, now that we've cut it down to 18 and had discussions with those people, we've found that some just can't make it and we've had to talk to others. So it's actually worked out quite well. I'm not sending out our invitations for awhile, but we already have a good idea of who's coming and who can't make it. It makes planning, especially for an escape wedding, a bit easier. The invitation will just be more of a formality with lots of Disney info included...

 

[pat9283]

Thanks, the trouble is I have a big immediate family and this means that everyone who is coming is close family, I'll write a list of our guests so that u know what I mean LOL

ME
DF
DF BROTHER, KEV- BEST MAN
DF BROTHER, ALAN
FUTURE SIL- LEIGHANNE-BEST MANS GF AND MOTHER TO PAGEBOY COREY
DF MOTHER
MY MOTHER
MY FATHER
MOTHERS PARTNER
FATHERS PARTNER-CANT HAVE 1 WITHOUT THE OTHER
MY SISTER, KAYLA-MAID OF HONOR
MY SISTER, JANINE-BRIDESMAID
JANINES PARTNER, CHRIS
MY SISTER, CHERYL-BRIDESMAID
MY SISTER, NATALIA-FLOWER GIRL
MY SISTER, NADINE-FLOWER GIRL
MY SISTER, ASHANTI-FLOWER GIRL
MY BROTHER, CONNOR-PAGEBOY
MY BROTHER, JORDAN-PAGEBOY
MY NEPHEW, COREY-PAGEBOY
MY BROTHER, MARTIN
MY BROTHERS GF, SAM

So you see it's not easy to cut people out, we have no friends coming as it is, only close family. And I just realised it's 2 people too many!!!!!!! Ahhhhhh. There's no way they will make an exception for 2 people, Oh no! Stress!!!!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

We set out letting everyone know that significant others weren't really invited. I know it's really hard and sticky. We've only received push back from one guest who has said that she won't come if her fiance can't come. But we're not family/friends with him. Just her. EVERYONE else has understood this and hasn't had a problem. So, I'm of the mind that if she doesn't want to be there for us, we don't want her there (not to sound b*tchy... but I've NEVER made someone else's big day/event/wedding about myself and what I can or can not do) Even DF's sister who is my MOH is not bringing her significant other.

If your parents' partners have been an intergral part of your life I can see having & wanting to include them, but if not perhaps they can leave them behind or they can come to FL & just not attend the ceremony? That would be your 2???

Good luck! I know it's hard and difficult and challanging.... I hope you can work it all out.

 

[pat9283]

Thanks for your kind words and help, Im in even more of a pickle because everyone has already booked to come to FL and because we're all from england, is a big deal! My DF is saying we should uninvite my fathers partner (because they live far from us and I dont really know her that well, and to be honest Im not sure I like her) and my sisters partner. But that means my mothers partner and my brothers partner are still allowed to go, this would'nt go down well I dont think because I dont really Know my brothers partner all that well either (I've met her a few times but they also live far away) And my mother is practicaly forcing her partner to go because he is Iranian and has lived in britain for 10 years but with all the recent terrorism stuff that has gone on he is paranoid that they will take one look at him and judge him and single him out and stuff. The recent press about a 7 year old boy being stopped in FL international because his name matched the name of a known terrorist didnt help, He obviously was'nt the right person but he was questioned and delayed for hours, Mum's partner is worried that a similar thing could happen to him and it would ruin the holiday. I understand but I think he would be ok, he's an honest guy with no criminal record or anything. But Back to my point (sidetracked LOL) He doe'snt want to go that much (because he's scared he'll ruin it an stuff)and if I uninvited dad's partner, I'd have to uninvite him, which means he would have just paid for a holiday he did'nt really want to go on and ended up not seeing the wedding he was there for in the 1st place. I know if I uninvited both, it would cause some animosity because I do see mum and her partner alot because they live close by. And my father would'nt be happy if Mums partner got to go and his never even though they have all paid to come. Sorry about the rant LOL Im not even sure if I understand what I just wrote! LOL

 

[Tabetha]

If it were me, I'd keep the guest list as is, and have the babies left with a sitter in the room. I know they're part of the wedding party, but they're babies. They'll get over it. lol.

Just think - no babies crying during your ceremony.

 

[Skylarr29]

Sorry but I am pretty sure the babies count.


We are only inviting 'and guest' to people who have been in a relationship more than a year, live together, or are engaged... no reason to have a ton of guests that we hardly know. The when the couple breaks up we will look back like what? LOL

 

[pat9283]

Both really good points I think I might have to go with the sitter idea because all the couples have been together for a while. I do want the little ones in the pictures though, with them being blood relatives and stuff..... oh the dillema.

 

[pat9283]

I got an e-mail back off Doreen today and she said that the guest count is definatly 18 people! so Im still at square one really, I have to decide who to leave out! It's gonna b tough, wish me luck! Ive changed the venue to The Yacht Club Gazebo, I was looking for a venue that could fit more people and I fell in love with it! The thing that kinda anoyed me though is the fact that if I was having a custom wedding the Gazebo can accomidate 100 people. But for an intimate, it can't accomidate more than 18. But there is no point in me paying all the extra to make it a custom, for just 2 more people. I know Im just ranting but BooHoo!! It would make things alot eaisier!

 

[hiwaygal]

The size of the venue and the number of guests it can accommodate has nothing to do with the guest limits for an Intimate wedding. Disney sets the guest limits.

The wedding pavilion can probably hold close to 200 people.

The gazebo is, IMO fairly small. Your guests will not fit "in" the gazebo. They will sit outside the gazebo on the "lawn" area. At Sea Breeze Point (which is considerably larger than the Gazebo), your guests will sit under the roof of the structure there, and be able to be closer.

The only two locations truly limited to a specific number of guests because of size are Sunset Point (at the Poly) and Sunrise Terrace (at Wilderness Lodge) and these are really small areas.

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

I understand the boo hoo-ing. Every so often I want to boo hoo about why I can't just do this one little thing, or get a little extra this or that. THEN I REMEMBER I purposely choose the intimate wedding to 1. hold down expenses (i'm doing very, very few add-ons) and B. to keep it simple. It makes me happy that I'm have an intimate ceremony and a nearly top notch meal for my wedding day with just my very closest! Try to find your silver lining in the situation. I hope it works out for you with a minimum of ruffled feathers from others.

 

[pat9283]

It does look like it will work out after all, the two people who I will have to exclude, I think will be ok about it (fingers crossed).