Helicopter Children?

[binny]

Ok I am not a Helicopter parent I let my kids fight their battles and dont have any guilt sending them to school, sports, or letting them go to age appropriate things.

I am a helicopter child though.

My dad died 14 years ago and I have called my mom pretty much every day since. Even when we were in different countries, it was rare that we would go more than a couple of days without talking.


I worry about her, she isnt in the best of health and she doesnt have anyone but my cousins there. I would feel much better if one of my brothers was near by but they arent. She will be moving here next Spring, God willing, and then I wont worry so much I think.
She comes to visit frequently and we go to see her several times a year. She is 8 hours away by car.

So does all of this make me a "helicopter child" ?

 

[mickeyboat]

No, binny, you are just a good daughter.

Denae

 

[Felicia]

hmmph... I have never heard of this term before. Makes sense tho!

 

[Sandy V.]

I think it makes you a loving child. Your mom is lucky to have someone to be so concerned about her welfare.

 

[luvwinnie]

I talked to my mom at least twice a day when she was here....wish I could still do that. You are a good daughter with a loving mom...nothing wrong with that!

 

[Cindyluwho]

My step-mother died about 15 years ago. I call my Dad almost every day and also email several times a week. When he first married my new step-mom she thought it was a little strange but she's used to it now What the heck, I love talking to my Dad, he's the greatest person I've ever known. He had a quad bypass 14 months ago but it doing fine now. Every minute I spend/talk with him is a gift!

 

[JESW]

Right there with you!

My parents are 81 & 86 and in the last year they have both slowed down a lot and have had health issues. We moved them closer to us a couple years back so that makes it much easier to keep an eye on them. I call them every day as I can tell just from my Dad's voice if something is wrong. (He was in the hospital 2x this year and we almost lost him the first time) I take my Mom food shopping every week and I take her out to other stores as my Dad doesn't drive so much anymore. I also take them for rides when I know they are sick of the walls in their home. I visit them several times a week and I bring the kids when I can as they enjoy their visits.

My kids are getting older (7 & 11) but now I feel as if my parents need me more. I wouldn't change it, but at times it can be very difficult being in the middle of two very different age groups.

Helicopter kid indeed.

Jill

 

[binny]

well thank you. Its nice to know Im not alone at least

I guess thats how its supposed to work eh? You start letting go of your children and your parents start to need you more. Hadnt thought of it that way before.




My mom plans on buying the house behind me ( the people that we bought this house form are living there temporarily until their house is ready we have a commune thing going on I think LOL) and there is a gate between the 2 houses. She wants to retire and just be here for us Isnt that the greatest thing?

I just want to take advantage of this time. I know life is too short to take it for granted.