Have You Ever Grounded Your Teen For Life?

[dmslush]

DD14 (Sparx to all of you disers!), being a typical teen, has been grounded pretty much until futher notice. I'm thinking for at least until she is 18 and no longer my responsibility. LOL! So, what is the longest that your teen has been grounded for? What do you ground them from? She started out grounded from everything except what she needed for survival. I have been making her earn things back. She has earned the telephone and the tv at this point, but no Computer (which is why is has been slow on the dis LOL) or going out.

 

[Serena]

My daughter was grounded for life several times. Her normal response was "yeah, whatever". Not to my face, but I know those eyes.

 

[funhouse8]

I gounded mine on Monday for life. Well tonight she was in the School play and everyone was going to the diner after and I know i shouldn't have but I let her go. I wanted to be strong but ..................

 

[funhouse8]

by the way dmslush I'm not sure what your daughter did but she always seems so sweet whenever I read her posts. I get the same thing people always tell me how sweet & quiet mine is. Well they should have seen her on Monday.

 

[dmslush]

by the way dmslush I'm not sure what your daughter did but she always seems so sweet whenever I read her posts. I get the same thing people always tell me how sweet & quiet mine is. Well they should have seen her on Monday.

She is a wonderful kid.. but like all kids, she messed up and has to learn her lesson. Hopefully, sometime before she is actually a legal adult, she will be able to post here again. LOL, I occassionally see her walking back and forth around me while I am reading the dis LOL!

 

[icebrat001]

I was wondering what happened to her, it has been slow.

 

[drakethib]

My mother used to ground me for life at least once a week ........

 

[JennaTX]

I don't have teenagers yet, but I already have that thought, but I think that at 6 and 3 they are a little too young to be grounded for life (especially since they haven't been grounded yet!)

The longest I was grounded as a teenager was about two weeks, but it didn't last that long. My parents always gave in. Saying that, though, I say stick to your guns, it sounds like you are doing good with making her "earn" back privileges. My parents did not do me any favors by letting me get away with things!

 

[Shutterbug]

Okay what did she do?
Enquiring minds want to know

Personally I was never grounded as a teen...not that I was a goody two shoes...I just never got caught

 

[RitaZ.]

My friends laugh when I tell them that the only thing I haven't removed from my son is oxygen.

Whatever she did, you're on top of things and I'm sure she'll shape up quickly. Isn't parenting fun?

 

[georgina]

My teens have been sent to their room for a few hours, but I have never felt the need to ground them. The worst thing DS does is ignore me when I ask him to do something, which results in him geting kicked off the computer for a set amount of time. DD is sometimes nasty to her little sister. I'm sure my time is coming, but so far it hasn't been bad.

 

[Meezers]

I've tried grounding the kitties....but they just ignore me and climb on the bed and sleep anyways

 

[crz4mm2]

For Life? HEck no! Do you know what that will do to YOU!!!!!????? Talk about punishment for the PARENTS!!!
Seriously, I had to ground DS many many times when he was younger. DD, thankfully, was a much easier child.
I feel for you. I really do.
Grounding was much harder on me than it ever was on DS.....

 

[Planogirl]

As far as I know, I'm still grounded. My father grounded me for life when I was 16 and he never lifted it. Of course, he's no longer alive and I'm married and so on so maybe I'm OK now...

 

[Marseeya]

I agree with crz4mm2 -- I'm not that nuts! I'm counting down the days until DS is 18 and you think I want to ground him for life? Forget it.

I try not to make unrealistic threats like that because he'd never take me seriously otherwise. He takes things very literally and to the letter of the law, so I have to lay out exactly what's going down. For example, he'd be grounded for a week with no television, no computer, no video games, no cell phone, no home phone (yes, have to mention them both). I have grounded him to the house with privileges for longer periods of time. Mostly I let him earn his privileges back one by one. I've found out the hard way that if we don't do it that way, he feels as if he's got nothing to lose and he really goes overboard. He's bipolar, by the way, so we're not talking normal teen.

Sparx, if you're reading this -- fess up, girlie! What did you do? We all want to know what a sweetheart like you could possibly do to get in that much trouble!

 

[Cindy B]

My 5th grader (who isnt even a teen yet!) has been grounded for three weeks.

The three weeks is because he had three weeks to do a school project and never did it in the assigned time and never told us about it. He was sneaky.

This means that all activities up to December 18th have been cancelled.

 

[ADisneygirl]

My parents never grounded me. They would get mad, fuss and fume a few minutes, then send me to my room to "think about things". I guess looking back I wasn't really ever doing anything wrong enough to get in major trouble. I was a good girl.

I've never grounded my own kids either. When they were little I sent them to their room, but only for a short while. Funny, you say you don't want to turn out like your own parents, but in many ways you do. It can't be helped. I am glad I've been blessed with pretty well behaved kids.

 

[Keli]

Oh my, I am so glad my dd is past the punishment stages! Grounding her used to drive me crazy. I absolutely hate it when I can't do something I've been looking forward to and it took all the strenght I could muster to ground my dd and make her cancell plans with friends/bf's etc. I'm such a softie inside, a real pushover.

 

[trappednabox]

She is a wonderful kid.. but like all kids, she messed up and has to learn her lesson. Hopefully, sometime before she is actually a legal adult, she will be able to post here again. LOL, I occassionally see her walking back and forth around me while I am reading the dis LOL!

She's having dis withdrawl

Sparx is a great kid & she's always senseable, so you're obviously doing somthing right!! I'm sure she'll be back before you know it. 3 years of being grounded is a REALLY long time

 

[dmslush]

Well, the way it works with her, is that she is grounded UNTIL she earns 100 points. She can earn 5 points a day by doing her chores, and she can earn extra points here and there for doing things like cleaning my car

I won't tell what she did, simply because she posts on these boards also and I don't want to embarass her.. well, embarass her anymore than this thread already will LOL! She didn't do anything criminal, but she just one small bad decision that snowballed into something bigger. She isn't hurt, and no drugs, alcohol or breaking curfew were involved. This is the first real trouble that I have had out of her, which for a headstrong child like her, I think is pretty lucky. But, I felt the need to really let her know that she has got to use her noodle and not be influenced by those snot heads around her.