Going with my youngest but leaving the oldest behind with dad?

Alexsandra

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I am suffering from winter blues real bad. Here up in Montreal Canada we've been having one of the coldest winters ever. The cold just has not let up and I just can't take it anymore!:crazy2:

We usually take a trip around this time of year so that we can escape the winter for a week but this year, we are going to Italy to visit family in June after school is out. We've been saving up for this trip since last year.
Work has been so crazy this year and i am feeling overworked and tired. We all ski but this season has been so unbearable that it is not even pleasant to do that. We are on the hills each weekend since they have ski classes.

I tried to convince my husband to take a vacation anyway since we have enough points to fly down south but he is just not interested. He does not mind the cold and my oldest (8 y.o.) is the same. Plus my oldest has school and the only time we could travel would be during march break but flights are unreasonably expensive at that time. So I made a joke that I would head down south with my youngest (4 y.o) and leave them both behind. My husband said that was a good idea. Obviously we were all just joking around but my youngest took it seriously and has been telling everyone at daycare we are leaving. Lol.

Anyway, we got onto the subject again last night and my husband told me that I should go on this trip without him or my oldest son. He says it really does not bother him and that I look like I need a break! I think he is just fed up with all my complaining;)

So now I am really considering it. I kind of feel guilty about leaving without them but it would feel so good to get away and rest. I have never taken a trip without both kids and I wonder if it will make my oldest jealous.

This morning I asked my Mom if she wanted to join me and she said she would gladly go. She has tons of Marriot Points so we would not have to pay for a hotel. I still think we should just stay on Disney property that way we don't need to rent a car and we can enjoy Disney Transportation.

What do you think, should I go on this trip and if so, should I stay off property or stay at Disney Resort?
 
We have taken trip and have left kids behind, but never at 8. I am not sure I could leave a child that age behind. They would have a hard time understanding why they didn't get to go unless something was planned for them too. We left our DD behind when she was in the 8th grade to watch our DS preform at Epcot with his show choir when he was a senior and she is still resentful about it.
 
I wouldn't do it unless you ask your oldest how he'd feel and he says he would be fine. We left our younger two home but they didn't know anything about Disney and were still at an age where they thought grandma's for a week was the best thing ever. To me, I don't mind pulling an elementary aged child out of school...and actually I will likely be pulling my middle school age daughter out next year for a while (I am going to try to find a week where they have a day or two off so she doesn't miss an entire week).
If I were to go without my husband I would stay on site so I wouldn't have to worry about driving ;)
 
That's a tough call. I couldn't do it. My 8 year old would be crushed if I just took her sister and left her behind.
 

I wouldn't do it. I've taken trips with my kids and no husband and with my husband and no kids, but I would never leave a child that young at home while bringing their younger sibling.
 
What does your older child think? DD would have been devastated at 8, but I also would have pulled her out of school for a vacation at that age (it is much harder in middle school - I wouldn't do it now).
 
I actually spoke to my oldest about it. He doesn't seem to mind too much. He says he is going to hang with Dad and go skiing with him on week-ends but I think the guilt will eat me up while I'm there and I would not enjoy myself. Plus he might say that now but when I get back he might feel like he was left out. I think I will just try to tough out the winter and save the money for next year. Thanks everyone!
 
Unless the schools there make it impossible, take him out of school and the four of your go. I have an eight year old and he missed a week of school just two weeks ago to go to a funeral out of state. Different reason, but we have always taken the boys out to travel and they have never suffered in school for it. We did stop in high school but 2-3rd grade was easy. But to answer the question.....I would leave DH if he did not want to go, but not DS. Not minding too much is very different than his not wanting to go.
 
Or, hear me out on this, leave both kids with hubs and take those Marriott points and spend them at the Cosmopolitan in Las Vegas. You can have sun, spa, pool, Cirque, amazing dining, and even some rides all guilt-free. Vegas is the cure for the winter blues.
 
Haha, i hear you Jing! I am actually thinking of forgetting the whole trip and just taking some time off from work while the kids are at school. That way I can really rest. I think what I need most is just some me time!
 


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