General Poll about WWYD Parenting

[OceanAnnie]

When reading the WWYD threads do you find your answers are generally more strict, more lenient, or totally different than the answers you read?

Poll coming.

**Disclaimer**
This isn't in response to any one WWYD thread in particular.

Also not judging anyone's parenting style. Just curious as to opinions about people's parenting style after reading others. I know some threads I have read have given me pause.

ETA- I think it's a hard question. I find I am more strict in some areas and more lenient in others. But overall, I'm probably stricter than I thought when looking at some of the threads.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Other of course.

I try to take into account what the poster is saying about their situation. Sometimes I am strict and other times lenient. Depends what it is.

 

[MerMom60_94]

I voted other as well. On some threads I find I am more strict and on others I am more lenient. I wonder how much is generational since I am an older parent. Also, I think it is easy to say what we would do in theory on some of the situations posted. Reality and theory don't always match up though. A lot depends on the kid(s) too. I can only answer in terms of what I would do with my child and maybe based on my experiences when I was younger and I don't always care to give details as to what those experiences are if you KWIM.

 

[Reddy]

I'm more strict but I have two non-verbal austic boys so I think I need to be to keep them happy.

the couple of parenting that I have read - 17 boy shutting door with girl - I couldn't trust my son to understand why I would want the door open or shut - I think he would want to do what parents are afraid of happening but wouldn't understand what could happen.

the 7 year old pushing a 14 year old - teachers had always had to be close to my boys so I'm not sure about that one - I do wonder if the 14 year old needs help since she is messing with a 7 year old (kinda think she is bullying so she did need something)

 

[LuvOrlando]

I think I'm sort of average but that's not an option so I did other.

 

[Magpie]

I'm generally less strict, but that doesn't mean I think other parents are too strict. I think I just got lucky somehow and managed to spawn two really easy-going, reasonable, sensible kids.

With different kids, I'd probably be a different kind of parent.

 

[luvmy3]

I voted other because it really depends on many factors. I am strict in certain areas and lenient in others so sometimes I totally agree with the OP and sometimes I don't.

 

[tiggersbombed2]

Other of course.

I try to take into account what the poster is saying about their situation. Sometimes I am strict and other times lenient. Depends what it is.

Yup.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Other of course.

I try to take into account what the poster is saying about their situation. Sometimes I am strict and other times lenient. Depends what it is.

It definitely depends on the situation.

Overall, I think I am more strict, I guess in the "parameters" department. The funny thing is I had thought that was "normal" but after reading a bunch of the parenting threads, I'm seeing maybe it isn't.

No big deal. It's our normal. It works for us. Just as other styles work for other families. It has been kind of a surprise though to see the different styles of parenting.

 

[Mickey'snewestfan]

I picked different, but I feel like I'm a more of a mixture.

On one hand, I think my expectations of my child are pretty high. For example, in the thread about the 7 year old and the 14 year old, I agree with the OP that it was reasonable to expect my 7 year old to walk away, ask for help from a teacher, and avoid using their hands. I can think of lots of other examples where I felt like many people here are saying "Oh, you can't ask that at that age" and I know that for my particular child he often was ready to be asked to do that thing.

On the other hand, I don't particularly believe in punishment as a behavior management technique. My kid is quite well behaved, and I think the last time he was punished was a 5 minute time out 4 years ago when he was 7. I've never grounded him, or taken away TV, or really punished him at all. If he does something I don't approve of, we talk, I reinforce family values, I make my expectations clear, and he doesn't do it again. Some of that is that I have an easy kid, but I also work as a behavior specialist with some really challenging kids, and in the end I find that the same thing works, although more slowly, with them too.

 

[LaraK]

I'm old as dirt and my parenting is a little old fashioned. I was old as dirt when the kids were born, so they were doomed from the womb.

 

[Planogirl]

I'm pretty lenient but I do keep an eye on things. My philosophy is that I watch for signs of problems and as long as everything seems OK, I won't be strict.

 

[Acklander]

I guess I'm mixed. On the one hand I tend to give my kids more freedom to do what they want/make decisions for themselves; but on the other hand I give my kids more responsibilities at a younger age so I have more expectations than many others. The important part is, I'm comfortable with my parenting style and DH and I are in complete agreement.

 

[DisneyScraps]

I am strict but loving. My DD has every thing she needs she is well privileged. I give her everything but I require and I always have, that she is respectful and behalves. No talking back, no eye rolling (she tried it and 3 days later she completely stopped...kind of crying UNCLE)

I have never once raised my voice to my child. I don't spank. i have never said one word to her that is disparaging. I never talk to her in anger, My daughter knows there is a consequence for the actions. She actually likes how I parent because she knows where she stands. I am creative with my punishment, maybe write a paper on good manners, she might lose TV or be grounded. It's usually whatever currency is important to her.

I am considered strict my some people that know me but my daughter usually blows everyone away by her manners and her confidence. I really think that my child needs structure and the strictness. It's not everyone. Some days it's the hardest thing I do but I know that I need to do that for my daughter.

My closest friend won't discipline her child. He is one of the most badly behaved children I have ever met. He comes to my house and he behaves because he knows that I won't put up with it. So how come he can behave for me but not at home. It's starting to cause problems at school for him, she recently confided in me that he never gets invited anywhere and they call lots of people for play dates and no one ever calls them back. I know why. I have tried to gently tell her but she can't do it. Things like he still uses a bottle and he is almost 8. He screams if he doesn't get what he wants and then he gets it. I have seen it over and over.

So that is 2 ends of the spectrum.

Lisa

 

[wdwmom0f3]

I voted other because sometimes I am strict and sometimes I am lenient.It depends on what it is. My children know my rules and they know how I feel about everything because I am very open with them, and I have always been that way. They know what I will approve of and what I will not before they even ask for something, or for what ever they have done. (Sometimes this will bite you when they are hiding something)

I do find threads here about parenting very interesting because some things I have not been faced with and it's interesting to see what others think. I have learned a lot, and for that I am thankful.

My main problem with parenting threads here is that I do not like it when other parents, including my self most recently, get hammered for their parenting style or for the way that they handle certain things. I find that rude. I think it's best to be respectful as you voice your opinion. If you can't be respectful then let then you should let it go. Every child is different and what works for one may not work for the other.

If people are posting here needing help, try to help them, don't slam them.

 

[roscoepc1]

I said "other" simply b/c it seems to depend on the topic here. In my area, I am considered fairly strict. I'm "old-school" when it comes to what I expect from my kids as far as manners, behaviour etc.

But, depending on the thread, around here, sometimes I come off as completely lenient! Maybe b/c I don't believe in wrapping our kids in cotton wool or bubble wrap?