Friend issues.

[Cassidy]

I have two friends.
Friend 1, and Friend 2.



Friend 1 talks about everyone, but she is still a really good friend. But like every other day we get in stupid fights because she takes things a little too far, and makes them seem like they are worse than they really are.


Friend 2 doesn't talk about people as much, but she still does. She talks about Friend 1, and they like secretly hate eachother but pretend to like eachother and I'm always in the middle of it.

Friend 1 is using one of my friends, I want to tell her but afraid she might not believe me. Friend 1 can really be a good friend, it's just kinda confusing sometimes.

All three of us always get in stupid little fights. I'm tired of it. I just want to be friends with both of them, but if I said something one person twists it.
I know, they don't act like good friends sometimes. But they can be, most of the time.

What can I say to make the little fights stop? I know friends fight, but it actually gets kinda scary sometimes.

Thanks

 

[nerdylightbulb]

You could just not be friends with either of them if they talk about so many people.

 

[XxCuriosityxX<3]

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[cecemarielove]

I know what you feel like..I have two friends, and one of them is competing to be the other's better friend and is pushing me away in the process. It's a huge mess. Anyway, in relation to you, I think it is best that you sit down and tell them, you know? It's always best to let people know what your feelings are. Who knows? Maybe they will come to their senses.

 

[cindys_castle2011]

Okay, so I don't think you should just ditch them completely.

But tell them that they're being really immature, and they need to grow up a little.

 

[life of the party]

if friend one talks about everyone , she talks about you too .

i dont think either of them are that great of friends to keep around .

life is too short for these stupid fights that are so constant in your life .

i can ttly relate , i have like NO girl friends now lmao .


but i'm judging off your short post describing only their negative traits , so i dont really know .

 

[Cassidy]

I know they talk about me, but I deal. What she says doesn't really hurt me, and nobody really believes her if she talks about a person because she lies constantly.

I talk about people, only when I'm really mad at them. If they call me a mean word, oh well, who really cares? But if they talk about my friends I get offended, I just don't show it.

I've recently started to try to cut back on the girl drama. Friend one always talks about everyone to me, and if I agree she will use it against me saying that I said it first.

I just went through some of my chatlogs for msn, and here are a few examples. I'm editing the screenames and names so you understand more. These aren't fake. I pasted them on here and just edited the names.

Friend 1: why is he so frickin off and on with friend 2?
its so annoying .
Me: whens the last time he said he liked her?
Friend 1: he said he wanted all his classes with her like 3 days ago. and then he says he doesnt like her but talks to her more than he does to me!
Me: oh..
Friend 1: Friend 2 is fake around him though
Me: i guess so..
Friend 1: idk she acts like all shy
& quiet
Me: lol.

I thought this one was funny.

Friend 1: she always keeps talking about ppl
im like shuttup
Me: lol.

I try not to agree. Even though sometimes I know it's true. It's really not worth it, the gossip. It's pointless because all gossip leads to a fight.

But I was thinking, and you don't? Jeezee. She's like the seed of drama.

 

[::Snow_White::]

It's different for everyone, but when I was in jr. high all my friends acted that way. We'd ignore each other, talk about each other, fight, yell, say we never would talk to each other again everyday. We're still the best group of friends in high school now. We literally laugh so much about how stupid we acted and how immature we were, it was just a part of us growing up. I'd give them another chance, because the friends I fought with in jr. high are my best friends today and I think we kind of helped each other grow out of it. That's just my opinion though.