forgive me while i have a rant

[Deedee]

Does anyone else hate loathe and detest their next door neighbours as much as me. Since they moved in three and a half years ago we have had problems with noise from them. Well today they have just started a war i received a letter from the environmental health about me being noisy! I have apparently banged on the wall and been abusive to them, ok last friday i did bang on the wall because she was being very noisy and told her to keep it in her own house. have phoned them up and put in a counter complaint about them, i have also been intouch with our local counciller and he is going to do something about them. She is so loud doesn't know how to shut a door bangs everything off our wall they argue and fight 11, 12 oclock at night he slams doors and throws things in temper shaking our house. Every other word is the F word and we are supposed to listen to this in our own home!!. Has anyone else had problems and could advise us on the best thing to do about them. Sorry it is so long but i have to vent my blood pressure is off the scale

 

[mandymouse]

OMG, rant away, I am lucky to have lovely neighbours, but can imagine it would be awful to have neighbours from hell. Good luck with you counter complaint

 

[Funniebunny]

We have a problem with the neighbours children. They are totally unsupervised and keep running in our back garden. I saw them the other day throwing pebbles (from my back garden) to each other right near my car. They also loke to play tennis using the side of our house. They know they are doing wrong too, when I pull onto my drive they will run away and hide. My Fiance has had a word with their Dad and he said that he has told them not too but they are kids and they don't listen ggrrrrr! Why can't he keep them in his back garden rather than ours.
I think if I see them doing it again I'm going to get them to clear up the mess themselves, they need to learn respect for other peoples property.

 

[AlanUK]

Does anyone else hate loathe and detest their next door neighbours as much as me

I've just spoken to our neighbours and they were a bit upset and couldn't understand why you loathed them so much

Seriously though you have my sympathies it's not nice to feel intruded upon in your own home, which is meant to be your sanctuary away from the world

The only thing I can suggest is to keep a dairy of all the incidents with dates and times. Try not to retaliate by banging on the wall etc and just remain as civil as you can. This will give you the greatest chance of success with the Environmental Health department and will prove vital as evidence should the case go to court.

 

[Minniespal]

You have my sympathies, it can't be easy having noisy neighbours. We are lucky our neighbours have three children and a dog and they are so quiet.

 

[vicky1bfc]

You have my full sympathy.Been there and got the t shirt on that one..
Lucky ours have moved and we now have nice neighbours.The ones before though we bad to the core,so i can fully understand where you are coming from.

They both liked to drink alot and spent most of there time in the pub,Leaving there dog barking and barking all day and night.
I was telling them nicely one early morning while i was 7 months pregnant about there dog barking all night and he said he was going to kick the **** out of me. I ran in and he came round trying to kick my back door down.Dh much have heard what was going on and got out of bed and ran downstairs.In the end i had to call the police as know way i was letting dh out the house with the neighbour in that state.

 

[Deedee]

OMG Vicky i thought they were bad. I know for a fact he is frightened of me that is why they took the cowards way out and sent the letter. He knows i know something about him that could crush their little world if i tell her what it is. Unfortunately for him it will come out because it is a small part of the noise problem that i have to logg.

 

[cazzie]

I sympathise with you I am sitting here typing listening to the thumping of my next door neighbours music. She has two children who I don't think she can talk to as she is forever screaming at them, I have said to my hubby maybe if she turned down the music she wouldn't have to yell so much. When her kids are in the garden they throw their stuff over the fence (which is over 5ft) I did take it round and give it her back once but now I am collecting it as I don't see why I should give it back until they stop throwing it over. It's not just toys it's stones I just hope that they don't throw one injuring the dog as she loves to lie on the grass. When she moved in she dumped all her old stuff (fridge and carpet etc) outside the back gate there was a load of stuff like you wouldn't believe and so I complained to the environmental health and they got it shifted. At the moment there is a freezer stuck outside her front door with other rubbish. I don't suppose for one moment she is a bad person just thoughtless of those who live around her.

 

[Frances999]

I hope you can get this sorted out Like Alan said, your home is supposed to be your escape from the rest of the world and it's horrible if your neighbours are causing so much grief.

It's times like these when I really appreciate that we live completely by ourselves - although it's isolated at least it is quiet!

Hope you get it sorted soon....

 

[natalielongstaff]

our neighbour is deaf so we can hear her tv a lot but on the plus side she cant hear the noise we make

i hope you get this situation resolved i can imagine who annoyed you must be

 

[SammieG]

I used to live upstairs to a very deaf old dear (who was also nasty and a nosey neighbour!). She had her TV up so loud that I couldnt hear my own.

However, despite not being able to hear very well on my first day in my lovely new flat, she said to me.."I can hear you going to the toilet".. OMG that was enough to freak me out that I couldnt even go for a wee in my own house without fear of her banging on the ceiling!

She also complained that she could hear my shower every morning!

I was glad to move away from her a few years later!!

We also had a similar incident to Vicky with one neighbour in our last house.. they had weird comings and goings in our little sleepy street that we were convinced they were drug dealers. Anyway one day, the guy knocked on the door at 10pm completely stoned out of his head, asking if the restaurant was still open.

My husband explained that we were just a house and NOT a restaurant, but he wouldnt accept it and started pushing his way into the house.
My husband is a big strong, 6ft 4 guy and fortunately he was able to kick him out before calling the police, but if I had been there by myself I wouldnt have managed it!

When they moved out of their house the next occupiers found hundreds and hundreds of house keys stashed away..
nasty..
I sympathise with you.
We are waiting for our neighbours to arrive in the new house next door and are told they have two very large dogs.. (and they are out at work all day).. I hope that the dogs dont bark all day whilst they are out! eeek!

 

[Cyrano]

Thankfully neighbours of ours keep themselves to themselves, but I've been there with problem neighbours. Not great. Make sure you are not drawn into anything. As Alan says keep a log of events.

 

[Miffy2003]

I had neighbours like this once. It is dreadful and you feel like your own home is being intruded upon.

Mine used to play extremely loud music until 2, 3 or 4 o'clock in the morning most nights. They mistreated their children (I won't go into that now) and their dog was never cleaned up after and unfortunately the look and smell of two year's worth of dog poo meant we could no longer use our back garden. They left sofas, bags of rubbish and goodness knows what else out in the garden too.They often held screaming arguments with all sorts of offensive language.

I have to say we did nearly go down the environmental health route but didn't as I discovered that we would have to declare this to the purchasers of our home should we ever move. Instead we just moved (and it was hard enough to sell our house anyway due to them and we lost money because of it). Just be aware of this when you go through the council / environmental health.

Luckily my neighbours now are lovely. I thank my lucky stars every day.

 

[JohnnySharp2]

We moved into our current home just over 5 years ago, in that time I have spoken to the neighbours on our left about twice.
Just do not get on.

We live in a detached so noise is not a problem, it's a nice newish estate and we are proud of our home and look after it.
Our neighbours on the other hand are like 'the burbs' - if you have seen the movie, let's just say it could do with a lick of paint.

The other week the bloke left his jacket on his front lawn (although it hardly resembles a lawn), and the jacket was there on the grass for nearly a month, any piece of litter that they discard is usually left lying around, unless it finds it's way onto my property when I (like most normal people would do) stick it in the bin.

Don't get me started on the 3 christmas trees that have been in their back garedn for the last few years, I mean take them to the refuse tip - dear me...ok, calming down now.
I am fortunate to have a nice home, but like you say 'you cannot choose your neighbours'.

 

[wideeyes]

When I was at my parents we had neighbours who where really horrible however they moved away and the new neighbour is hardly at home..at my house where I live the neighbours are mostly retired people..It is a very quiet road.

 

[wils]

How awful I have been lucky so far with no real problems with neighbours.

I would agree with the keeping a diary bit making sure everything is timed and dated

Sorry you have (and so many others here have/had) this problem

 

[wifey]

OMG you have neighbours exactly like ours they too argue until 2am, can't shut a door normally and EVERY conversation is shouted (I don't think they've heard of "indoor voices") they burn letters in the back yard. Drive a car with an out of date tax disc, work weird shifts and expect her daughter to spend most of the day in bed (she will be 4 soon).We've lost track of the number of times we had to bang on the walls when they play music, they don't hear anyone knock on the door it's that loud!! You have my sympathies just remember you are not alone, in cases near us our local council has left monitoring equipment in properties to determine who is doing what when and how long for and how loud so hang in there you may get rid of them yet !! Wishing you some peace and quiet.Keep that Diary, fill it in for 2 months if need be , and you have evidence to show if needed.

 

[Deedee]

Thanks for all your well wishes i know it is no concellation to you all but it helps to know we are not the only ones in this situation. The good news is they have gone away this morning for a week. Very convenient for them timing wise don't you think!!! My DH who usually will not do anything about it has said they have underestimated us and we will get this sorted, fighting talk at last. They are now going to be frightened to breath incase i hear it, everything will be logged and reported. They have made one big mistake.

 

[Netty]

Deedee, your council will have to act upon this, as said before log everything down, the council will help you. get other neighbours who have seen/heard anything to write a letter of complaint as well.
We had horrible neighbours for about 5 years- they were in their early 60s and she would sunbathe topless in the garden and he would be in his thong! (pass me the sick bucket) they would put the tv on loud and then it would be on full blast when they were watching euro trash... they did go away for 6 weeks and left a radio blasting in their back room,i got that sorted though.
they eventually moved ..and were replaced by the family from hell, single mum with 4 boys,2 dogs, she would go to the pub and the boys would have all their mates around and play games such as jumping out thetop floor bedroom windows. we sold our house and now live in a detached and our neighbours and the street are lovely!

 

[Pawpaws]

I've been through hell as well - the woman next door had her kids on drugs because she said they were all hyperactive - believe me, she should have looked at her own behaviour! When I first moved in and was talking to her, she would smack her kids across the face if they dared to try and get her attention, she would say about what time of the day I would vacuum, that she didn't want us to get double glazing until after she did, that the Close had arranged to have the Millenium Party on our joint bit of front garden so the tree in our half had to come down (no-one else, the other side found out, had heard of a Millenium Party, unfortunately they found that out after we had been talked into letting her husband chop it down - she just wanted it rid of so that there wouldn't be any blossom on her part of the lawn in the spring).

What else... constant parties until 3am, doors being slammed as soon as we turn the lights off at night, piles of cat-you-know-what plus the litter put over our flower borders, verbal abuse when I cleaned the front windows (haven't cleaned them in 3 years!) .. and this in a decent area on a newish estate. She told me that when the house was being sold by the original owners, if she didn't like the look of the viewers she would get the kids to make as much noise as they could. She told the whole street just how much furniture we had moved in, she kept asking me to babysit and look after the house when they went away the first couple of years, but wouldn't return any favours..and the list goes on!

I complained to her once about a party and she said we ought to move to a retired peoples complex (we're in our early 40s and are definitely NOT boring!) and that it was a shame we didn't have any social life (we do but choose not to have all-night parties at home, that, stupid me, would keep her kids awake!) It did make me ill a couple of years ago - but now after my next exams we're just finishing off decorating before we put it on the market , hopefully one of her friends will buy it! And I found out the best way to cope is when we're kept away at night, wake them up in the morning at 5.45am!!!!! It's took five years but I think she's finally learnt! Unfortunately my grandparents have written diaries about their noisy neighbours but once the diaries are handed over there's peace for just a couple of weeks then it starts up again so I don't think it's worth complaining officially. I just wish some people would be fair to others instead of very selfish. Sorry, rant over!!!! I'll be back to my usual chilled-out self in a minute!!!!