Family meals.........

Discussion in 'Budget Board' started by CJRN, Jun 19, 2006.

  1. CJRN

    CJRN Mouseketeer

    Mar 12, 2006
    OK, curious if most people (I guess the parent that cooks), makes dinner seven days a week?

    Wondering if I'm being a "bad" parent, because on the weekends everyone is pretty much on their own in our house. I generally cook during the week, and DH makes a big breakfast for the family on the weekends, so lunch & dinner is leftovers/sandwiches, etc.

    By the way, my kids are 11 & 14 yrs old.

    Side note: my kids get 3 meals/day/7 days/wk for 4 wks when we go to camp (I'm the nurse at camp, so I live there and NO COOKING for me, but then again, somedays I am busier than working in the Emergency Dept, :lmao:
  2. Grumpy's Wife

    Grumpy's Wife Dollar Tree gal here

    Jan 28, 2005
    I cook Monday - Friday. Saturday's we usually go out to dinner but lunch is whatever you want to make yourself. I will cook a big lunch on Sunday then again Sunday night pot luck again.
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  4. Ellester

    Ellester DIS Veteran

    Nov 5, 2003
    I generally cook everyday. But my kids are much younger (8, 4, and 2). We do frequently have leftovers the following day, either for lunch or dinner. I certainly don't think you're a "bad" parent for letting your kids find their own lunch/dinner on the weekends. If anything I think it's good parenting. They should be able to get food for themselves occasionally at their ages. My dd8 will get her own breakfast some days and will even get some for her little brother (she's not usually so kind to my dd4, a little sibling rivalry I think). I say keep on doing what you're doing if it works for your family! :thumbsup2
  5. PaMom001

    PaMom001 <marquee><font color=red>Used to be good at dodgin

    Sep 7, 2005
    I cook 3 meals a day/7 days a week. The only execptions are: when my DD is at her Dad's and when she is at school.
  6. QueenT

    QueenT Mouseketeer

    Mar 22, 2006
    DH cooks, we are all thankful for that, as my cooking is a little spotty (translation - I tend to burn things).

    He will almost always cook on Mon - Thurs, my work days. I will generally cook 1 day out of 3 day weekend, he will usually cook 1, and 1 is usually fast food or whatever we grab (convenience food) out of the freezer/pantry - cereal (kids), sandwich, taquitos, tv dinner, that sort of thing.

    We are not pristine on the fast food front though; we tend to eat it for lunch some days, maybe 1x per week. Sometimes more, depending on how hectic life is.

    We rarely eat at restaurants, dh is a fabulous cook and we end up regretting the high $$ for not-as-good food. Plus he will sit & complain how he could do it better.
  7. Savsmommy

    Savsmommy <font color=green>I'm a middle lane girl<br><font

    Sep 24, 2003
    I cook M-F and then Saturday and Sunday we either go out to dinner or do take-out. My kids are little, 6 and 2.

    MUFFYCAT <marquee behavior=alternate><font color=deeppink>S

    Oct 28, 2002
    then i'm a bad parent with you. another bad parent club :rotfl:
  9. mickeymel

    mickeymel Mouseketeer

    Feb 19, 2005
    No, I do not cook a full meal for every meal every day of the week. However, no one is lacking of food. :)
  10. powellrj

    powellrj DIS Veteran

    Mar 2, 2003
    I cook at home Monday-Thursday. Friday I take DS to guitar and DH takes DD out, so we usually just eat with which ever child we have with us.

    Saturday I cook a huge breakfast. You are on your own for lunch and dinner.

    Sunday we eat a light breakfast and then a big dinner after church and then sandwiches for dinner.

    The kids that are still at home are 15 and 10, so they know what there is to eat and how to fix it on my nights off!
  11. jeankeri

    jeankeri <font color=darkorchid>I threw cartons of milk at

    Jul 6, 2003
    I cook at home, but usually take one night off during the week and one meal on the weekend. The night off is usually planned around an overscheduled evening (kids have games, travel for doctor's appointments, etc). We will go out to eat (sit down, not take out) at a restaurant near our travels. Eating out once a week makes me plan our cooked dinners better.
  12. azgal81

    azgal81 <font color=blue>I am such a big fan of color<br><

    Sep 14, 2005
    I don't see how not cooking 7 days a week would make you a bad parent. Growing up we went out to eat alot as well as had fast food alot. I also don't think having your kids fend for themselves is a bad thing.
  13. shaylahc1

    shaylahc1 Mouseketeer

    May 26, 2006
    My DH cooks dinner 4-5 nights per week. The other nights we eat take out or scrounge for something easy like hot dogs or scrambled eggs. Lunch is almost always something simple like a sandwich. The kids pick out whatever they want for breakfast, usually something easy like a waffle or a piece of toast with peanut butter.
  14. CJRN

    CJRN Mouseketeer

    Mar 12, 2006
    Thanks everyone, I feel better, especially when my 11 yr old said he remembers making his own school lunch since 1st grade! I doubt that it was that early, not until at LEAST 3rd grade. My kids are very responsible, get up on their own and get breakfast (I'm still home until they go to school). The truth is, we buy whatever lunchmeat, cheese, etc, yogurt, fruit cups that they want, and one snacky type item, and they are responsible for making their own school lunches (I think that's why they both prefer to buy).
  15. HenDuck

    HenDuck DIS Veteran

    May 11, 2004
    Dinners - I cook maybe 4-5 times a week. We eat leftovers often, so that covers the other nights.

    Lunch - I usually make lunch for DS on the weekends. DH is on his own, unless he wants a grilled cheese sandwich, which all DS will eat for lunch.

    Breakfast - the only one who really eats breakfast is DS and that's Eggos, so I don't really count that as cooking.

    You are NOT a bad parent for allowing your kids to learn to fend for themselves. When my DS becomes a teenager, I'm thinking he'll have to cook for mom one night a week! :teeth:
  16. PolyAddict

    PolyAddict Donate Life

    Mar 13, 2004
    I must be the worst parent ever!!! Let me defend myself first. DH does not cook AT ALL, NEVER EVER EVER. :furious: He does clean though. :thumbsup2 I work full time with 3 very busy girls 5, 13 and 14. :crazy: I have been suffering with Graves Disease for the last year and I am constantly fatigued because of the meds. :guilty:

    Here is comes....I cook, maybe two, three times a week and I always do breakfast on the weekends. So we probably do take out about 2 or 3 times a week too. :confused3
  17. juligrl

    juligrl DIS Veteran

    May 25, 2006
    I cook during the week. We usually end up going out on Saturday (restaurant, parents, or friends) but if we don't that's when we either order pizza or eat leftovers. Sundays are also leftover or frozen item days.
  18. disykat

    disykat DIS Veteran

    Jun 5, 2000
    I cook most of the time, but am gradually doing less as my kids get older. My 13 year old always makes his own breakfast, and usually his own lunch. My 11 year old sometimes makes his own lunch and breakfast.

    My kids don't do a whole lot of cooking yet (except brownies from a mix, etc.), but I've told them that at 14 they'll be expected to plan and cook one meal a week for the family. I'm determined my boys will know how to cook since my dh had never cooked ANYTHING in his life until he was living on his own.
  19. Louise-Montreal

    Louise-Montreal <font color=CC99CC>Vous parlez Francais, Tag Fairy

    Aug 18, 1999
    My husband is not home during the week- so my daughters each cook two meals a week. I do the clean up. I pay them $10.00 each but that is the only money they get from me. I do not pay for chores ( although they have very FEW chores) and I do not pay them an allowance.
    They decide what we are eating and they come to the grocery store to buy these ingredients.
    Works for us!!!!!
  20. Karel

    Karel <font color=deeppink>There's a little poem about s

    Jul 6, 2000
  21. MrsPete

    MrsPete DIS Veteran

    Feb 24, 2002
    I don't think it matters all that much whether you cook from scratch (which is what I do most of the time), heat up something frozen, or have take out . . . what does matter is that the family sits down together at the table to share dinner every day. Kids need that family time.

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