Facebook vent....

[iwrbnd]

This is something I always tell people. There is nothing private on the Internet and once it is out there it is out there forever. Even a fully private profile isn't actually private because it sits on a public server. Breaches happen, mistakes happen, and policy changes happen that make private things public.

If you wouldn't want your mom, boss, perspective boss, or future children to see it don't post it anywhere.





And that is a whole different set of problems. I never hide behind a screen name, which is why I make sure I have a link to my real life persona in my signature. There are forums I go to where you must provide your real identity to join, and that is shared as part of your information.

I hate when people hide behind anonymity. I am not afraid to have controversial points of view on things but I never hide who I am when I have those views.

You know what? I always agree with your posts! (But, then I'm hiding behind anomymity here! Oops!)

 

[Traveliz]

Wishful thinking, but I'm hoping that Facebook turns out to be a "flash in the pan" and will either die down or disappear entirely.. Every day I get emails from people requesting me as their "friend" on Facebook - even though everyone knows I have zero interest in being involved with it..

The worst though was when someone I knew from back in my teens was able to track me down through another persons Facebook page and was able to obtain my email address and private phone number from that person.. Grrr..

So many people just don't think before they give out personal information about others.. If I wanted to be in contact with everyone and anyone, I would be on Facebook!!

I know some people really do enjoy it - but they also have to remember that not "everyone" does..

So you have a Facebook account? Because people can't request you to be their friend on FB without it - unless it's just a general email to you personally asking you if you are FB.

Liz

 

[FireDancer]

So you have a Facebook account? Because people can't request you to be their friend on FB without it - unless it's just a general email to you personally asking you if you are FB.

Liz

I think the email she was talking about was outside of the Facebook universe. Lets say you and I are Facebook friends and I know that in real life you know C.Ann. I can ask you via Facebook if you can get me C.Ann's email and you give it to me.

That is what I think she meant, not that she was contacted via Facebook by this person.

 

[Handbag Lady]

Oh, come on people. Facebook is for FARMING.

 

[DarthKTrava]

Oh, come on people. Facebook is for FARMING.

I guess I'm one of those 5 people who DON'T farm on there.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Oh, come on people. Facebook is for FARMING.

 

[Jolly Ole Bert]

"I wish people would get back to using Facebook for what it was originally created for: stalking your ex's to see how fat they've gotten since high-school." -Bill Maher
Gotta love Bill.

In all seriousness, I do agree with what one of the pp's said about not posting anything on FB that you wouldn't say in front of your mother, or employer. On my FB page, I do tend to get very political at times and use the site to go back & forth over the issues. But I try not to post anything that would be unwise if my boss were right there reading.

 

[C.Ann]

So you have a Facebook account? Because people can't request you to be their friend on FB without it - unless it's just a general email to you personally asking you if you are FB.

Liz

Nope - no Facebook account for me..

I think the email she was talking about was outside of the Facebook universe. Lets say you and I are Facebook friends and I know that in real life you know C.Ann. I can ask you via Facebook if you can get me C.Ann's email and you give it to me.

That is what I think she meant, not that she was contacted via Facebook by this person.

I receive them this way - as well as from people who know me, but don't have access to my email address - until they obtain it from someone else who does have a Facebook account..

 

[MinnieTink]

I don't have FB. I do not like FB. That's just me. All the FBers can do what they want without me... However. The information that people put up there is ridiculous. I have a SIL who I used to be quite close to. It seems like every piece of news or info we talk about is placed on her FB page. How do I know? Some of my friends are her FB friends and call me and say, "OMG why didn't you tell me about blah blah blah?". I have something going on now in my life that I would like to have her support but I don't want it on FB.

I'm with you C Ann. I wish it would die already but that ain't happenin'!

 

[Foxhound3857]

I used to be like that. I used to vent in journals on LJ, on Furaffinity, on Twitter, etc. It's pointless. Sure, it's possible to have good friends over the internet, but mostly you're writing to people who don't even know you, who are complete strangers to you, who usually don't have time to listen to silly personal rants like those. What's the point then if you're not writing to anyone who knows you or cares about you?

It can be a bit more personal on Facebook since you can't duck behind an internet alias (a fake name, maybe), but it's the same situation, you're venting mostly to people who have never met you face to face, and thus to most people nothing said can be taken at face value. And getting internet sympathy for things like this is one of the most superficial and almost condescending forms of "love and respect" a person can gain, in my opinion. It means nothing. You're trying to gain pity from people on the internet, hundreds, possibly thousands of miles away, most of which you'll never physically meet in the course of your life.

Personally, my gripe with Facebook is going onto someones page, seeing they have 2,897 friends, and wondering..."What in the hell?" Then it hits me, that most people on Facebook, and Twitter, and LJ, see one comment written by one another, start chatting on AIM, and all of a sudden they're the best of friends, even though they've never met in real life. It's kind of like Furries, a fandom I was part of once upon a time, but not anymore. They find one another, internet chat for a day, and declare themselves soulmates for life. I know that's not what EVERY furry does, but I've seen extreme examples of that, and it's pretty scary because of how realistically possible it is, to believe that some people in this world have such low self esteem that they could turn to things like that.

So yeah, I feel you Hermosa. Venting is one thing when you want to get something off your chest or when something really bad happened and you need to release, but when you do it just to garner sympathy from "alleged" friends and complete strangers...that's just sad.

Sorry if I sound cold in this post; it's just the way I see things.

 

[PixieDust32]

I would never post about family drama on my Facebook page.

Ditto I never do, nothing at all, we take care of that behind our doors, you can control what you want to share

 

[rie'smom]

It's bad enough when people share personal things on the DIS which is anonymous. It stuns me when I see the personal things people post on Facebook where you are out in the open.
My friend told me that one of her acquaintances was actually texting from the emergency room. She had to rush her son in because he wasn't breathing well and this woman was making it all about her. Amazing
I guess with all of the reality shows plus Jerry Springer, Oprah, Dr. Phil, etc. people feel perfectly normal not having boundaries.

 

[S. C.]

I won't put anything on fb that I wouldn't put on a billboard!!

Oh, come on people. Facebook is for FARMING.

 

[Claudia1]

I guess with all of the reality shows plus Jerry Springer, Oprah, Dr. Phil, etc. people feel perfectly normal not having boundaries.

Awesome insight. ITA.