Facebook - Cleaning House

[Madi100]

I just wanted to let everyone know that I am cleaning house today on Facebook. In light of recent things that have happened in our community, I've let Madi know that I will be checking her FB friends on a regular basis, and I must know all of her friends (or she must be able to tell me locally how she knows them). I've decided it's only fair that I follow that same rule. So, I'm deleting people that I don't know, even if I can assume they are DISers. However, there are times when I don't know a real name with a user name. So, if I delete you on Facebook, I'm sorry. Request me again and include your user name.

Thanks. Nicole

 

[DVCsince02]

Good for you, Nicole. You can't be too careful, especially with your kids.

I've been getting many friend requests lately and we have XX number mutual friends, but I have no idea who they are. I sent them a message back asking for their DIS name and they have no idea what the DIS is. So, I ignore their request.

Some have other interests in Disney and are Disney fans also, but that's just not enough for me.

This is also a good time to remind everyone to check your privacy settings. Especially on photos and personal information.

 

[sjsjbrook]

I have to say that I too only add people I know. I do always feel bad when someone who is a dis fan adds me and I say no to. I say no to people I know who they are but don't want them going through my pictures.

 

[mommyceratops]

I have been getting 2 to 5 a day and I have been saying no to most of them. If I don't really know you then I say ignore.

I have also slowly been going through and double checking on people and deleting some.

Some are just weird!!

 

[Annette_VA]

Good for you. I need to do the same. I've gotten to the point now that if people don't include their DIS name in their request, I automatically ignore the friend request.

 

[mommyceratops]

I am continually amazed by the people that do not have privacy settings on the page. There are a lot of teens at our school that do not have blocked pages and that just makes me feel sick sometimes.

 

[DiRTyBuNNy]

I just wish Facebook made it easier to remove people. I feel like cleaing out my friends list takes forever.

--DB

 

[Cyrano]

I will not be offended if removed from anyone's list

 

[DVCsince02]

I just wish Facebook made it easier to remove people. I feel like cleaing out my friends list takes forever.

--DB

Maybe it's operator error?

Click on your profile page, then click on the total number of friends you have. This brings up everyone in a long list (pages of them). Just click the X to the right of their name and POOF, gone.

 

[mainegal]

My partner, the man I live with in "real life", gives me a hard time because I spend too much time on the computer and not enough time with "real" friends.

He may be right, but darned if I am going to let him know that!

Many of my Facebook friends are on my "Disney" list. They are mostly people from the DIS boards or they are podcasters. I try to only have as Facebook friends the DIS people whose real names I know and I expect to meet in person in December.

I value Facebook for allowing me to get to know people before we meet in person.

And I totally "approve" of cleaning out "friends"!

 

[Madi100]

Lyn, a lot of my DIS friends are my real life friends. They've gotten to be that important to me. I'm glad I have the Internet to communicate with them.

 

[Dismom+two]

I totally understand that!! Teach by example....or something like that!!

 

[OKW Lover]

I've been doing some housecleaning too. If I've inadvertently deleted some of my DIS friends, just send me a friend request with your DISboard name.

 

[mainegal]

Lyn, a lot of my DIS friends are my real life friends. They've gotten to be that important to me. I'm glad I have the Internet to communicate with them.

I think that is so cool!

My thought was that to be a "real life friend" I would need to meet up in person more than occasionally. And that here in Maine, I am too remote from the rest of the country for meet-ups.

But, upon further thinking, maybe "in-person" is not fully necessary for friendship.

Just thinking...

The point that my partner has been trying to make to me is that I (and we) need to be spending time cultivating local relationships. And he is right that I am on the computer too much! (But don't tell him!)

 

[Disneybridein2k3]

Good for you, Nicole. You can't be too careful, especially with your kids.

I've been getting many friend requests lately and we have XX number mutual friends, but I have no idea who they are. I sent them a message back asking for their DIS name and they have no idea what the DIS is. So, I ignore their request.

Some have other interests in Disney and are Disney fans also, but that's just not enough for me.

This is also a good time to remind everyone to check your privacy settings. Especially on photos and personal information.

I agree completely. I had my phone number listed but recently removed it. It all seemed so innocent when I first started out but after the numerous changed FB has made to privacy (or lack thereof), I just don't want to put that info out there.

 

[MelissaFromRI]

There must be something weird going on at Facebook.
I too have been getting several "weird" friend requests everyday

 

[Dodie]

I mentioned this in chat last week. Over the past couple of weeks I've been getting TONS of Facebook friend requests from people I don't know or recognize. I purposely didn't include myself on the DISers on Facebook thread because I have no desire to add to my friend list just to up the numbers. If I know you (not necessarily have met you in person, but feel that I KNOW you here on the DIS), that's one thing. If you're a podcaster I have never heard of or a person who won't respond to my request for a DIS name or gives me a DIS name I've never heard of, I'm not adding you. Even if it says we have "38 friends in common" and those friends are all DISers, I'm not accepting it if I don't actually know who you are.

I cleaned house last week myself, Nicole. All-in-all, a wise thing to do I think.

 

[mommyceratops]

I think that is so cool!

My thought was that to be a "real life friend" I would need to meet up in person more than occasionally. And that here in Maine, I am too remote from the rest of the country for meet-ups.

But, upon further thinking, maybe "in-person" is not fully necessary for friendship.

Just thinking...

The point that my partner has been trying to make to me is that I (and we) need to be spending time cultivating local relationships. And he is right that I am on the computer too much! (But don't tell him!)

I have often found my Dis friends are nicer and care more than my "real" friends. Makes you redefine what a friend is. In fact I like my Dis friends more.

 

[wishspirit]

I have often found my Dis friends are nicer and care more than my "real" friends. Makes you redefine what a friend is. In fact I like my Dis friends more.

I agree, and I haven't met many Dis people yet!

I don't blame you for doing a clear out, I did recently too!

Sorry if I deleted anyone, but unless I recognise the name/ give me the board name, I'm not adding you!

 

[sau418]

I clean house every now and then as well. My criteria also includes those who I have friended and they are not active at all. Example, many of my classmates from high school and college have pages and will friend other classmates, but then never post anything or respond to anything. Even though I know who these people are, I still question their motives if they just want to see my information and pictures. I also clean out my photos every so often.