WonkaKid
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Apr 2, 2009
I've been an incorrigible extrovert for my entire life. It's only in recent months that I've come to realize fully that the way I interact with introverts (and/or, perhaps, folks with social anxiety) may cause them stress because, to them, social interaction is hard, draining work. To me, it’s like a drug. The more I talk, the better I feel and then the more I talk. It’s a self-sustaining process. When I’m crabby, talking with other people helps to cheer me up and gets my endorphins flowing, even at low doses. Most of the time people respond to me positively and I make a good impression - like when I engage complete strangers at DL in conversation. (sometimes I make suggestions to newbies or give them tips on best attraction strategies). But it’s become increasingly clear to me that some people may suspect that I’ve been drinking or ingested illegal substances when I talk so much. I neither drink nor do drugs.
I always presumed that all people – extroverts *and* introverts – love good conversation. The truth is that’s not always so. Side note: a close friend once said to me “Don’t presume that just because someone’s a performer that they’re also an extrovert. The two don’t always go hand-in-hand.” So: human interaction can sometimes be tricky because of differing interaction styles. But know that when I bump into you somewhere and I engage in conversation, it’s because I’m genuinely interested in what you’ve been up to, how things are going and what you have to say. It’s like a cup of coffee to me. (i don’t drink coffee either and have always joked that I love everything about coffee except for actually drinking it ;-)). Does anyone want to share their thoughts on talking with strangers at the park or anywhere else? A number of you have introduced yourselves to me at the park. Was that hard for you? Did my communication style stress you? I look forward to insightful replies .
I always presumed that all people – extroverts *and* introverts – love good conversation. The truth is that’s not always so. Side note: a close friend once said to me “Don’t presume that just because someone’s a performer that they’re also an extrovert. The two don’t always go hand-in-hand.” So: human interaction can sometimes be tricky because of differing interaction styles. But know that when I bump into you somewhere and I engage in conversation, it’s because I’m genuinely interested in what you’ve been up to, how things are going and what you have to say. It’s like a cup of coffee to me. (i don’t drink coffee either and have always joked that I love everything about coffee except for actually drinking it ;-)). Does anyone want to share their thoughts on talking with strangers at the park or anywhere else? A number of you have introduced yourselves to me at the park. Was that hard for you? Did my communication style stress you? I look forward to insightful replies .
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