My Mom got to the point where it was getting more difficult for her to pay her bills, she was getting money orders at the bank and driving all over to pay them in person, or mailing in the ones she couldn't drive to. I tried for years to convince her to let me open a checking account for her and I would take over the job of her bill paying. She finally took me up on it, and I went to visit her at least once a week and she would have ALL her mail on the dining room table waiting for me to go through. Much of it could be thrown away, and I would explain to her what each one was, and then throw them away. Bills I would take home with me to pay.
In October 2015 she moved to a local nursing home (after yet another fall, and having a slight stroke - the nursing saw she had some dementia too) and I had her address changed to mine so now ALL her mail comes to me. Thankfully she doesn't get too much "junk mail" anymore, and almost never has a bill I need to pay (except for her care at the nursing home) so there isn't much I have to deal with. I have given her nursing home address to her friends and family, as some people like sending her cards now and then, but everything else comes to me.
Those who are talking about having to clean out their parents' homes, I had the task of doing that for my Mom when she went to the nursing home. I spent 6-8 weeks going up there almost every weekday afternoon. It was hard to know where to even begin! And I mostly did it all by myself. It was hard to know what to save (she said she didn't want anything!), what to donate to Goodwill and what to throw out. It was too cold at that time of the year to have a yard sale, and I'm not sure I could have handled seeing strangers buying my parents' things, so donating to Goodwill was actually easier. DH came up a couple times to help with bigger things, and then the day we finished cleaning her apartment out our kids/grands came to help load up the furniture and "one more load" for Goodwill. The kids did divide up all of her furniture, to that helped a lot. But I do have a dozen (or more) large plastic totes full of things that I saved. Dishes (some from my grandmother/her grandmother too, aunts, etc.), photo albums, other mementos, antiques, vases, etc. etc. And there were boxes and boxes of greeting cards. I remember spending one afternoon sitting on the floor of her living room going through the boxes. I saved many of them, some were cards that had belonged to my grandmother that my Mom had saved, but did throw some out too. I just couldn't keep EVERYTHING.
The hard part is now when Mom asks for something she remembers from her apartment. Most things I can find and do take to her (she especially requests photo albums) but there have been a few things that I know went to Goodwill and I have to be honest with her and tell her that was an item I didn't save.
Or there have been items that I really don't even KNOW where it went, if it did go to Goodwill or if one of the kids/grands took it.
I remember being so GLAD when the job of cleaning out her apartment was DONE and we could turn the keys back over to the landlord. I need to get MY OWN HOUSE in better order, so MY kids don't have to go through so much STUFF when I either have to go to a nursing home or pass away.
I know it will be hard to part with some things, but I just don't want them to have to go through everything like I did.