Dr. Phil update on AJ - little boy adopted from India

[CEDmom]

I just caught the end of Dr. Phil and he had an update on the couple who adopted the little boy AJ from India and wanted to sever the adoption. I guess what Dr. Phil said to them sunk in because they've made a lot of changes in their home and want him to remain as their son. They said being on Dr. Phil was a wake up call. I don't know why someone would need to be told the way they're treating their child isn't right but if it worked then I'm happy for them. In the clip AJ looked really happy and was playing with his parents. I wish them all the best and hope AJ has a lifetime of happiness.

 

[barbeml]

Thanks for posting. I saw the original show and felt sooo bad for that poor child.

 

[sharbear]

I did not believe that things could change in a short amount of time. Call me skeptical but I think that the mother got a bunch of crap from her community. So now she's trying to make herself look better. What do they say, you can't change the stripes on a tiger.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Thanks for posting -- was this at the end of the show today? Hopefully, I can make it home to catch the end of the show.

I don't believe that she's changed, but that's me.

 

[septbride2002]

Hey Girl - this is good news and I hope is mostly true. I think this family still needs to be monitored by a social worker and should also receive ongoing family therapy.

~Amanda

 

[Brandon79]

as an adopted kid, this story made me see red! if dr. phil had REALLY wanted to give help in this situation, he'd have found a way of having the child removed from those ungrateful parents. you can't make someone love another person--no matter what! this continues to anger & disgust me!

 

[CEDmom]

Thanks for posting -- was this at the end of the show today? Hopefully, I can make it home to catch the end of the show.

I don't believe that she's changed, but that's me.

It was at the end of the show. He was doing another show about adoption but I didn't see the whole thing. DD is home sick so a Blues Clues video won out in favor of Dr. Phil. I sent her upstairs for something so I could stop the video and watch the end of Dr. Phil with the update on AJ.

Obviously, you know these people better than any of us. The mom said what Dr. Phil said was very harsh but necessary to hear and was a wake up call for them. I agree that it might have been a snow job but I hope things are at least somewhat better. I do agree followup does needs to continue. Hopefully the show will do that and maybe get them into long term family counseling if that's not already being done.

 

[Daisy Duck 5]

What ever happened with the second Amanda giving her daughter to Jack and Jill?

 

[RitaZ.]

Thanks for the update. I hope that things continue to get better for AJ and that family.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

I really didn't get the feeling that all was okay - all she said was we don't want to send him back anymore not that she loves him or is happy - I also can't believe that she was MAD at what Dr. Phil told her -

she needed someone to tell her she was being a selfish witch?!?!?

something tells me she thought she would get sympathy from the show and instead was met with hate and decided she better shape up her public face - I hope Dr. Phil is REALLY involved with what is going on!!

 

[luvmarypoppins]

I saw the show and was glad things are better, but it does appear that AJ's parents seem to be putting on a show. I agree with the other posters, if she bared all on national tv , then she has to put up with all the back lashing and etc. It looks like her love and emotions come natural for her with her biological children, but seems kind of forced with AJ. I pray one day this family will get their act together for AJ's sake. Of course, Bob can really see more into the real situation than we can. Keep us updated Bob.

 

[ericamanda01]

I didn't see the show but I was shocked by what I read on here about it. So happy to hear that he is being treated the way he deserves to be treated.

 

[twinmomplus2new]

I don't believe that woman for an instant. I truly hope some social services agency is monitoring her with that child. I have an Aunt with an adopted child between 2 biological kids, And she has NEVER treated her teh same as the other kids and we are over 30 now. Some eople do not deserve to be adoptive parents. Kids are a gift no matter how they come into your family.

AS far as the other Amanda she was not comfortable with them adopting both babies. She fealt there would be too much comparison between the two boys.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Of course, Bob can really see more into the real situation than we can. Keep us updated Bob.

If I see them again or hear anything, I'll let you guys know. As of last week, they pulled Ajay out of DS' school, so hopefully it's to spend more time with him at home and not to put him into a different preschool.

I hope something sunk in -- but I think the update from yesterday's show was them putting on a good face, not the reality of the situation.

 

[BWVDenise]

Is there a link to it somewhere?

 

[popeyeohoh]

I did not see the original show. I don't think Dr. Phil is blind. I hope he has them in counseling in their home town.

 

[dlbwright]

Daisy Duck 5, I was wondering the same thing. I hope she found a good home for her baby boy.

 

[SeaSpray]

A lot of yesterday's show angered me. As a woman who suffered through several years of infertility (I did end up having 2 biological children), it instantly brought back the emotions I had back then. I cannot tolerate ANYONE who doesn't appreciate the life of a child entrusted to their care.

That lady who already had 2 kids but was upset because her DH didn't want a third??! I wanted to smack her. I was so glad that Dr. Phil directed her attention to the children she ALREADY has, and the fact that she's ready to disrupt THEIR lives, because her DH doesn't want more kids. She seemed very unstable to me, with a lot of emotional issues. I feel bad for her 2 kids; imagine what they must be hearing at home when the parents discuss this.

The parents of poor AJ... When they aired the first show with him on it, my heart broke for him. I wanted to literally reach through the TV and grab that child away from that family.

I want to say though, that I think the poor kid has been through enough. I truly hope that witch of a mother he has REALLY is going to treat him better because I don't know what would be worse for him; to be placed in yet ANOTHER home who would be strangers to him, or for his current parents to at least try and be good parents to him.

I have to say, I didnt think that lady seemed to be the overly warm type to begin with. In the original episode, at one point she was rather sharp-talking to one of her (biological) daughters. No wonder she was such a witch to AJ.

 

[Bob Slydell]

I have to say, I didnt think that lady seemed to be the overly warm type to begin with. In the original episode, at one point she was rather sharp-talking to one of her (biological) daughters. No wonder she was such a witch to AJ.

She's not a warm and caring person, you're right on that. The one clip that was telling on the first show was her snapping at Abbi (her oldest DD) to pull her sleeves up. Anytime we were with Bobby and Melissa, she was always barking orders out to Abbi and getting mad whenever Abbi wouldn't listen (she was 2 at the time).

 

[Bob Slydell]

Is there a link to it somewhere?

http://www.drphil.com/show/show.jhtml?contentId=3062_adoption2.xml