Do you still have friends from your childhood?***UPDATE ON PG.2 I CALLED!!!

[Desnik]

Hi everyone.
I was thinking that I don't have any friends that I had from my childhood or even H.S.(I didn't go to college) That actually makes me sad. I had moved far away in the middle of my senior year and had all my childhood friends up until that point. Things happen, I moved, changed my way of life, alot and met my DH and had kids! I hear about some of them because my dad still works where I grew up and alot of the "kids" from the neighborhood actually work for him. So I get some basic info here and there.

The reason I'm asking is I was contemplating calling an old friend of mine from HS. We were really close for about 6 years. We just grew apart around the same time I met DH You know how that is, you meet "the one" and the whole world disappears and it's just the 2 of you! At least that's how it was with DH and I. I know her feelings were hurt by that and she has actually made attempts to get in contact with me through my family members. I always just ignored it and didn't have time etc, etc. I actually feel bad about that. So if you were me would you try to contact this person? Just to catch up and "touch base"?

 

[Pin Wizard]

As one who had a friend drop off the face of the planet when she met "the one"...through me I might add!...it's really lousy when people do that. Sorry...just a vent here. I'm still angry with her after all these years. I knew her since I was 4 years old. I must have been very lucky finding the husband I did. I still had my time with my friends! If he had expected me to drop them, I think he would have been the one to be dropped!

On the good side...yes, I still have GREAT friends from my childhood. Another person who I've known since I was 4, a girl I hung out with in high school, and a guy from high school. And those three are my most treasured friends! The "friends" I made later in life pale in comparison.

 

[dvcfamily41801]

Sure, it would be neat to catch up!

I have my best friend from high school and we lost touch for about 4 years. We lived basically across the street from each other but she went to college and I worked full time plus she was not a huge fan of my boyfriend (should have listened to her then LOL) But I ran into her and she was engaged to her high school sweetheart (also lived in the same neighborhood as us) and I was surprised to be invited to her bridal shower and then wedding. I got engaged right before they got married and ever since the 4 of us have been together

We even all live in the same development that we grew up in, we have kids the same age and we talk just about every day and get together for dinner and hanging out 3 times a week.

Our friendship is awesome. Its like the 4 years that we lost touch never happened.

 

[MAC3]

Me & my lifelong/best friend are still friends since we were 2 yrs old. There is some distance between us which prevents us from spending the time that we would like to spend together but we can see each other 3 x's a yr and pick right up where we left off.

She knows me and loves me for who I am and I am Blessed to have her in my life.

She is a true friend in every sense of te word!
Lisa

 

[Snowwark]

I hope you give her a call, Desnik! Tell her what you told us, that you're sorry you didn't respond to her at the time. Hopefully she'll understand, and the two of you can re-build your friendship. If you don't try, you'll always wonder.

I feel VERY fortunate that DH and I have a circle of friends that we see regularly, that we've known for over 30 years. I can't imagine not having them in our lives.

 

[cabmom]

Great topic! If I were you, yes I would make the contact and explain to her what happened to you.
I have 2 sets of great friends(I'm 35). One set is from elementary school, we get together at least 2x a year for dinner. The other is from high school and we tend to see eachother more often.
I joined up with classmates.com and rekindled some friendships that were acquaintences in high school.
Go for it, it's worth a try!
Marilynn

 

[Cindyluwho]

I've had the same best friend since 2nd grade, we're now in our 40's. We went our seperate ways after high school but we've kept in constant touch. She moved out of state about 10 years ago and although we don't see each other but maybe once a year, we still talk on the phone. Our favorite time to talk is the end of the month. We grab our stack of bills that are due the 1st, sit down and yak, yak, yak until all the checks are written, in their envelopes, etc. It's a perfect time to catch up and take your mind off all that money that's coming out of your checking account!

 

[browneyes]

I keep in contact with 2 of my high school friends (actually, we've been friends since we were 8 yo), I haven't seen them in awhile. I see their parents often though. I have a friend I've been friends with since I was 13-14 yo. She's my SO's cousin (she introduced me and my SO ). I see her often.

It wouldn't hurt to drop your friend a hi. You may not become close friends like you used to be, but I bet your friend has wondered how you're doing.

 

[helenabear]

I am fairly good friends with two of my childhood friends. I moved when I was 8 and I have known both of these since then. It was kind of cool that we all spent NYE together

Over time I have lost track and reunited with some friends from middle school on up and truthfully I would love it if an old friend tried to contact me again I don't think it would hurt anything to do try!

 

[whirlsy]

You know when a friend is a true friend when you can call them after years of not hearing from one another and just pick up from where you left off from. Me and a friend from High School did this about 3 yrs ago and we talked for two hours on the phone and we didnt miss a beat. As for worrying about ditching her for your SO I am sure she may have done the same thing now to someone else so she will understand. People need to let go of negative things to be happy I hate reading where someone is hanging onto bad feelings that happened so long ago. LET it go!! I have a cousin who refuses to forgive someone for hooking up with a guy and stopped hanging around her. I say go for it. I have 5 friends that I grew up with and we still go out to lunch or dinner at least once every few months and catch up.

 

[Disney845]

YES!!! Definitely you should try to contact her.

My two closest friends I have known forever it seems. One since Kindergarten and one since about the 6th grade.

The Kindergarten friend and I were very very close in HS, but our friendship dwindled senior year when I had a HUGE falling out with a third mutual friend (she cheated with my boyfriend ) and my friend also left school before the end of senior year. We had a little contact off and on, but then completely lost contact. Years went by and I moved across the country with my ex. When we broke up I moved back "home." I was there less than a week when I received her phone call. At first I was somewhat suspicious (ex had taken great lengths to badmouth me to just about everyone we had known, and was wondering if somehow it had trickled to her and she was calling for some dirt) but that wasn't the case at all...in fact she had struggled with the decision of whether or not to get into contact with me (after hearing, through the grapevine, I suppose, that I was back). You have absolutely NO IDEA how important our rekindled friendship has been to me in these last 9 months. She was a lifesaver to me. I really didn't know any one still around here, and without her I would have been monumentally lonely and depressed. Our schedules don't mesh well (she works a 8-5, I work varying shifts and go to school full time) but we get together whenever we can, sometimes that may be a couple of times a week, other times a few weeks go by because we are so busy, and we tend to play phone tag a lot

The 6th grade friend and I were very close, even after we had started college and were going to separate colleges. We didn't keep in contact too much throughout the year, but every break we would get together and see each other. When I found out I was moving across the country with ex I tried repeatedly to get into contact with her, finally resulting in calling her mother to get in touch with her. I found out that she had rather abruptly left school and was traveling the country. Her mother gave her my message the next time they spoke and she got into contact with me, but as she was transitory we couldn't keep in contact. Her mother often ran into my uncle and she would keep me informed on my friend's whereabouts. About a year ago she moved to Italy and just recently (nov.) moved home with an Italian husband!!! We hadn't seen one another in almost 2 years, but it was as though our friendship hadn't even taken a break. We get together often and talk every couple of days on the telephone. Her husband is great too, a welcome addition to our friendship!

You should definitely try to make contact. Oldest friends are, in my opinion, the best ones you will ever have. They know your history, knew your troubles with your parents, or about the cute guy in 3rd period who asked you to a dance. You have a history there that can not be replicated. The worst thing that can happen is that she may blow you off as you did to her, in which case you will possibly be able to see the hurt she may have felt, but I doubt very much she would do that if she has tried repeatedly in the past to get in touch with you. Good Luck!!

 

[CEDmom]

I'm still in contact with a few childhood friends although it's mostly just through Christmas cards. My suggestion regarding your friend is to send her a letter expressing how you feel and that you'd like to get back in touch. Tell her you'll call on a specific day and then do it. This way it allows her a little bit of time to sort through how she feels. We all did dumb things when we were young mostly in the name of love. As we've grown up we realize how silly they were. Go for it, you'll only end up regretting it if you don't. Good luck.

 

[CindyLouWhoo]

My best friend Amy and I have been friends since third grade. Amy is like my second sister! We still do everything together - and it helps that we only live five minutes from each other. e have been through it all togther I feel very fortunate to have maintained this friendship for so many years! Our kids are even like cousins! I would encourage anyone who is considering rekindling an old friendship to do so You can never have too many friends in this world

 

[DocRafiki]

Old friends are the best! There's nothing like being with someone who knows the real you, including the way you were before career/education/status/relationships/tragedies/etc changed you.

I talk to high school friends almost EVERY day on a message board. Some of them I've known since '84 when I started Jr High. I visited one in Denver this past summer and one in New Orleans just last month. I'm hoping to visit one in Boston this year. I'm pretty sure I have more friends from high school than any other segment of my life. (It doesn't exactly suck to have friends all over the country, either!)

I was not in contact with most of them for a period, and then we caught up again. Some of them were only acquaintances in HS and are now good friends. There are still a couple that I have tried to contact who have never responded. Even though they snubbed me, I still would like to hear from them.

Hopefully your friend will realize it's silly to continue to judge someone based on how they behaved when they were 17 or 18. (Well, I understand SOME things are beyond repair, but this doesn't sound too major.) You shoud do it!

 

[SeaShelley]

I have one friend from my childhood that I keep in touch with.....you all know her as Mermaid02. We met 25 years ago in the 5th grade! We don't see eachother as often as we'd like, but thanks to the DIS and PM's we can keep in better touch.

We've been through a lot together, but by far our best experience was our Disney Wonder Cruise in January 2002!!!

Love ya' Pori Pan!

 

[Lewski709]

A few. It is so hard. We've all grown apart and have different lives. Everything is so busy. Some live in different states and we do the best we can. Some I see once a year, another maybe 2 x's a year. Some I wish I could see more.

 

[Serena]

Call her.

 

[Mishetta]

Warning ~ long post!

Oh, I just loved reading everyone's stories!! Okay, here's mine....

Had 2 really great friends since 1st or 2nd grade & they both lived down the block from me. We are now in our (near) mid 40's & we've never lost touch. We have not seen each other since I moved away from NY back in 1975 but we've either called or written all these years! We are now all married with young children (we all either married late or started kids late in life). My one friend still lives in the same house she grew up in. My other friend has moved around a bit since becoming a doctor.

Guess what???!!!! This may be the year that we reunite!! We are tentatively planning to meet at WDW in December with our families!! I'm so excited, I may burst!!

Also, I moved to the Detroit area during my H.S. years & made some pretty special friends. In my 20's I moved to the west coast & still kept in touch with my "special friends' in Detroit. Then in my 30's I moved back to the Detroit area & picked up with my "special friends" from H.S. as if no time had ever passed between us. They were in my wedding party & have been there for me for years now! We're all still pretty close & we see each other as often as life permits. My one friend lives about a mile away & she helped me sooooooo much when my Mother was dying. She cared for my children, straightened my house, brought over food, just so incredible. I don't know where I'd be without my good friends. I love them so very much.

Now in answer to your question...YES, by all means, go seek out your old friend. If there is nothing in common any longer, than you'll just have the memory of meeting them later on in life. If it seems like no time has passed between you, then it was meant to be that this person would be a lifelong friend!!



Good luck!

 

[catsrule]

Oh yes! My best friend and I have been friends since we were 3 years old!

 

[onecoolmama]

I dont have any, except my DH. But to be honest...I didnt have time to keep up with any of them. I have a HUGE family and we are extrememly close. My aunts and cousins always have parties, meet for lunch, exchange gifts...we are very close. I just didnt have time to keep up with the others.

I ran into a friend at the mall, we had a falling out in HS, and I was like..oh we should exchange numbers and get together...I had two kids and she was pregnant with her first...but she was still mad I think. Oh well, her loss. I was just thinking about my Middle school friends...I LOVED that group. I just lost contact with most of them.

I have a really good group of friends now...we are all in the same positions in our lives and while they are a few years older then me 6-10, our kids are all the same age and we go out all the time. Maybe I missed out on keeping these people around..but like I said before...my family comes first and there are sooo many of them that I just couldnt keep up with the others.