Do you know a lot of divorced people?

[C.Ann]

When I think of every single person I know, I would say about 35% have been divorced at one time or another (some more than once).. The rest have strong, solid marriages - lasting as long as 45 to 50+ years..

 

[wenrob]

Let's see:
Both my Mom and Dad have been married three times. Married to each other about 3yrs (DM walked when I was 2 1/2). Dad's 2nd marriage was a about 4yrs, I believe Mom's was less then a year since apparently the guy was married to someone else at the time. Dad has been married to step-mom going on 32yrs and they've been together 35. (Dad was Step Mom's 2nd marriage)Mom and step dad have been married, gosh close to 40yrs? Maybe 38-39. (Mom is Step Dad's only marriage, bless the poor guy!) So as far as the third marriage theory above, they've both beat it.

The majority of people I know have been married and divorced once, followed by the people who have never been married then you have lifers last. I have been with my DH since we were both 20 (21yrs ago) and we have been married going on 18yrs. We've had our moments but we're tighter then ever, one of those couples who grow together. Dear Sis and her DH together 18yrs and going 16 married. It's love/hate there, lol but they seem to make it work. Youngest bro divorced and is remarried though they have already separated a couple of times. Step bro is in his 1st marriage, it's his wife's second. DH's Dad was married twice, his DM married 6 times when she passed. I could go on and on. However I have a bunch of Uncles (aside from one who married and divorced the same woman twice but has been married to his current wife over 30yrs) who are all so far lifers.

As a quick aside my Grandma who was from the generation who didn't divorce said that had my Grandpa not died young she probably would have divorced him when it became acceptable to divorce.

edited to add: Meant to say all of DD's girlfriends parents are divorced some remarried but most not.

 

[marcyinPA]

I was a bridesmaid in six weddings before my own in 1993. Out of the six couples, three are now divorced. That's pretty much what today's statistics are, right?

 

[PatriciaH]

My parents and DH's parents are still together. My parents get along-his not so much. His dad cheated on his mom a few times and she took him back, but never forgave him. She still talks about it all the time even though it was 30+ years ago. Kind of sad. They have gone through a lot of crap together though (lost 2 children) so I think they don't know how to leave each other. She takes total care of him. He was the youngest of 5 and the only spoiled boy.

Only 1 of my cousins and 2 friends are divorced. My cousin no one knows what happened to the 1st marriage. She even pretended they were still together for years after he was never around at family functions-weird. She is remarried to a divorced man now. One friend, the husband cheated while she was pregnant. Found out he had been cheating for a while with different people. They even went through IVF with their first child while he was cheating-WTH? He told her he never loved her. Why bring a child (let alone 2) into this world then? One friend was divorced twice I think-she never said if she was married to her daughters father. The second guy was a porn addict according to her. She also just broke up with a third guy she was engaged to.

 

[EeyoreEma]

I don't really know many divorced people. I'm sure I know some, but honestly, I can't think of them right now.

 

[OK!]

Yep, unfortunately. I was always one of the rare kids who stood out because my parents weren't divorced. Most of my friends are divorced now, as well.

 

[HM]

I know only a few. DD''s two best friends are from broken families.

We only have had three divorces in my family tree, ever. They are all from my generation (two cousins and a sister).

 

[SunnyP4Disney]

My parents were married until the day my dad died, which was after their forty fifth anniversary. However, my sister has been married twice and my brother has been married three times.

I also know several people in the military community that are divorced or getting divorced, sometimes the lifestyle is just too hard on a family. I have been married to my husband over 13 years. But I would never judge someone for deciding to end their marriage. Things happen, as long as you try to work it out, if you are just happier apart, why stay together?

 

[waltskids]

DH's and my parents were both married 'till death did they part'. DH's sister is divorced but other than my uncle who passed away 10 years ago, that's all we have from our family. Unfortunately, we both have many students whose parents are divorced. All of our friends are still married.

 

[nikkistevej]

I knew a few until recently- now both of my BFF's are getting divorced- one is leaving her loser hubby- they have 1 kid(didn't work/drugs/cheater)and the other's hubby left her for someone else(and with 3 kids to take care of).

 

[Robinrs]

Yep, unfortunately. I was always one of the rare kids who stood out because my parents weren't divorced. Most of my friends are divorced now, as well.

When I was in the 5th grade out of 40 kids only one girl and myself had married parents!!! And that was in 1966!!

I knew I was blessed with married and happy parents, they stayed married until death, 65 years of marriage.

My sisters were all married for YEARS, my oldest sister just celebrated her 44th anniversary. My middle sister was married 17 years until she finally got rid of her LOSER husband!

All of my nieces, nephews and cousins are either divorced, never married or on second or third marriages.

 

[PRmamiDEdos]

I was EXTREMELY upset last year when I found out my sister was divorcing her husband of 13 years!! I've known him since I was 15 and he was always like a big brother to me and he's my daugter's Godfather. She said he wouldn't change. That was it. I told her she knew what he was like when she married him and then she said she thought he would change. I think there might be more to it, but I know he hasn't hit her or as far as I know, he didn't cheat on her. Meanwhile, she's now living at my mom's enjoying the single life with her work buddies.

I don't understand it either and I find it extremely upsetting that more couples are communicating or even trying. Dsis and BIL even had a huge 10th anniversary party that cost thousands of dollars. When I asked her why less than 3 years after that huge party they were seperating, she said she wasn't happy even then, but wanted to have a huge party
I still keep in touch with BIL which annoys Dsis and my mom to the fullest.

 

[BCV513]

I often wonder about cycles when talking about divorce. I have no idea if there are any statistics to back this up, but here's the story of my grandfather and his brother.

My grandparents had a wonderful marriage. They married right out of high school and were happy together for more than forty years until my grandfather died. They have five children. Four of those children have divorced, one of them twice. Only my mother is still married to her first husband (my father).

My grandfather's brother, on the other hand, had an awful marriage. He and his wife were both alcoholics, and he abused both his wife and his kids. They eventually divorced in the 60s when it was still considered taboo. They have six kids. All six kids are married, but none have ever been divorced. All six of them got married later than their cousins too.