Do you ever just want a break from your family?

[1GoldenSun]

I really love my family but sometimes I just want to get away from them. I don't just mean shopping and lunch with a friend or a night out, I mean I want serious time away--like a week.

Please tell me that others sometimes feel this way!

 

[nw6675]

I live vicariously sometimes through the solo traveler reports on these boards.

 

[DLgal]

I really love my family but sometimes I just want to get away from them. I don't just mean shopping and lunch with a friend or a night out, I mean I want serious time away--like a week.

Please tell me that others sometimes feel this way!

Sure. That's why I take a vacation every year for a week. Started it when my first born was 14 months old. He's 18 now. My husband supported it fully over the years.

 

[china mom]

No now so much as everyone is older and doing their own thing. But when the kids were younger...heck yes! I love them and all but would not have minded a vacation.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I used to but found what I really wanted was just the option to get away. When kids were little DH would take them off my hands solo for an hour right after dinner so I could take a bubble bath and clear my head. Thing is though, I never actually wanted or needed the whole hour, I'd hear everyone laughing and want to rejoin the fun.

Now a friend of mine and her spouse used to butt heads all the time. She is a solitary human who didn't know I guess until she was married a loooong time and in her 50s. Anyway she and DH nearly split over a vacation fight, and sort of did where they separated and he got his own place. Now this is where it gets interesting, they love each other and don't believe in divorce so they stayed married & committed, but now instead of butting heads they sort of date with more boundaries. I'm pretty sure things never would have gotten as far as they did if she put a she shed mini house on her property or made the basement her place. Some people just need more alone time, it's tricky if they don't realize this early in life & you can pivot but it tends to be muddy. I saw this every now and again in NYC too among people who love each other but aren't 100% compatible with all the togetherness. It's tricky but can be done, then again all families are tricky.

 

[White Cat]

No.

 

[luvnwdwgal]

From my in-laws, yes, everyday. We all live within 10 minutes of each other and they are a pain. Constantly it’s “I need this, I need that, can you do this”. It never stops and my husband is too much of a nice guy to say anything. They are so annoying!

 

[Christine]

Yes, I'm introverted so I always enjoyed some time away. I never actually go out on my own, but there were times that my husband took the kids to his parents and I got the house to myself for a few days. Loved it.

 

[luvnwdwgal]

Yes, I'm introverted so I always enjoyed some time away. I never actually go out on my own, but there were times that my husband took the kids to his parents and I got the house to myself for a few days. Loved it.

I hear you. My husband is actually going on a Scuba trip to Bonaire next month for a week. I don’t dive plus it cost enough for just him to go so I’m staying home. I am so looking forward to not cooking for a week! Being able to watch whatever I want on tv. He’s been retired for a year now so he’s always around and he drives me nuts sometimes.

 

[Travel60]

I used to hope that something would happen to me that meant I HAD to be in the hospital or at least on total bed rest for a few days....nothing bad ...maybe appendicitis or a broken leg.....

 

[NannyBeBe]

Not for a moment. I love being with my little family.

 

[leebee]

Yes. Now would be a good time.

 

[tvguy]

I know some people feel that way, I am not one of them.

I know on the Cruise Line forum many speak of how much they like putting their kids in the kids clubs and doing adult things without them. In our household during the school year when our kids were playing sports we might see our kids for 2 a day. Cruises were our time to spend all our time with our kids and hand out as friends, not mom and dad. It was great.

Live is too short not to enjoy your family while they are here IMHO.

 

[BlueStarryHat]

The family I live with-aunt, cousin and her daughter and her son, so all cousins-pretty much leave me to my own devices most of the time and when I'm downstairs with them I enjoy them, so I would have to say *now* no. However, when my uncle was alive, yes. He was a strict, difficult, my-way-or-the-highway man. I was determined to love him and I did, but don't tell my aunt that since he passed away in 2020 my life has gotten easier.

Just about all of the house rules are gone now, along with a big chunk of what gave me anxiety. I'm NOT glad he's dead, just glad I no longer have to walk on eggshells.

 

[fly girl]

Yes. I need my "me" time. I have always been that way. The introvert.

I typically get enough alone time when dd is at school and dh is at work (which is overnight typically for 3-4 days), even if I am doing errands or my side gig. However, these past 6 weeks dh has been home a lot. I mean 24/7 home ... A LOT. Oh dear Lord. I'm foreseeing the future of his retirement.

At least when I was a kid I had my own room. lol

You are not alone OP. Some people need that to recharge themselves. It isn't wrong. It's just what you need.

 

[brockash]

I really love my family but sometimes I just want to get away from them. I don't just mean shopping and lunch with a friend or a night out, I mean I want serious time away--like a week.

Please tell me that others sometimes feel this way!

Immediate family or extended? I've felt the same in regards to both lol. I think it's totally normal. I'm definitely more of an introvert and my dh is not, so that can be tricky at times.

 

[brockash]

I used to hope that something would happen to me that meant I HAD to be in the hospital or at least on total bed rest for a few days....nothing bad ...maybe appendicitis or a broken leg.....

Lol...I had to have emergency gallbladder surgery a few yrs. ago and I've gotta say the 1 night hospital stay was kinda great. I really didn't want to go home.

 

[Rogue1677x]

Not my husband and daughter, but the rest of my family, definitely. There are times when drama happens and I am striving for minimal drama in my life.

 

[darnheather]

Yes and I take them. I go for weekends with friends who live in close-by cities, we shop, eat out, and sew or play games. It keeps me sane.

 

[DoryGirl1963]

Definitely feel this way at times. It's just me & hubby but I need A LOT of time to myself & never really get much of it. I mean, how can I miss you if you never go away ?