disney junky
BWV
- Joined
- Dec 16, 2004
DW and I have completely different views on this.
At times I do, and it really irritates me.
Not at all. I have a pretty bad memory, so I just don't remember a lot of the past. I think this is a healthy way to live.
My mother COMPLETELY dwells on the past and it is so annoying and all consuming for her. She never lets anything go. She is constantly depressed, angry, and resentful.
No. I try my best to learn from my mistakes and then move on. Rehashing the past is a great way to end up depressed and miserable and angry at the world.
I don't think having a pretty bad memory is all that healthy, actually? My MIL is suffering from her loss of memory capabilities. We are getting her tested for all kinds of serious issues.
Just wanted to clarify what I said earlier...
I know some people who tend to dwell on stuff that happened 40+ years ago. As in, they bring it up a LOT. It's usually something that they're angry about, feel they've been wronged, and the person who they feel wronged them has been dead and gone a really long time. And it's over stuff that doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. I'm not talking horrible stuff here. Just petty stuff.
The horrible stuff? Go get help from a therapist and mentally process it and emotionally deal with it and then use it towards something good in your life.
But the petty stuff? Get over it. Don't dwell on it. Otherwise, it will eat into your soul and turn you into a mean, grumpy, cranky old fart.
I dwell on the present. I just can’t escape it.