- Dec 16, 2004
DW and I have completely different views on this.
I don't think having a pretty bad memory is all that healthy, actually? My MIL is suffering from her loss of memory capabilities. We are getting her tested for all kinds of serious issues.Not at all. I have a pretty bad memory, so I just don't remember a lot of the past. I think this is a healthy way to live.
My mother COMPLETELY dwells on the past and it is so annoying and all consuming for her. She never lets anything go. She is constantly depressed, angry, and resentful.
Just wanted to clarify what I said earlier...No. I try my best to learn from my mistakes and then move on. Rehashing the past is a great way to end up depressed and miserable and angry at the world.
I've always been like this. I am only 41. It's not a neurological issue. I just tend to be surrounded by people who have HYPER DETAILED memories. Like, my mom is 70 and can remember actual conversations, in detail, from her childhood. That's bizarre to me. My husband is borderline autistic and he can remember every one of our dates when we were dating, what I wore, where we went, what we ate, etc. That is not normal. My son has Pi memorized out to like 500 digits. He did that when he was 9.I don't think having a pretty bad memory is all that healthy, actually? My MIL is suffering from her loss of memory capabilities. We are getting her tested for all kinds of serious issues.
This is my mother. 100%. She is STILL going on an on about relatives who have wronged her that have been DEAD for years. What is the point of that? My gosh. Let it go already.Just wanted to clarify what I said earlier...
I know some people who tend to dwell on stuff that happened 40+ years ago. As in, they bring it up a LOT. It's usually something that they're angry about, feel they've been wronged, and the person who they feel wronged them has been dead and gone a really long time. And it's over stuff that doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. I'm not talking horrible stuff here. Just petty stuff.
The horrible stuff? Go get help from a therapist and mentally process it and emotionally deal with it and then use it towards something good in your life.
But the petty stuff? Get over it. Don't dwell on it. Otherwise, it will eat into your soul and turn you into a mean, grumpy, cranky old fart.