Do you consider this rude? (Kind of Long)

[Kimickey]

I have two children. DD is 5 and DS is 4 months. DH works nights, so in between the hours of 10pm and 6am (when I leave for work), I'm home alone with our children.

Last night after dinner I bathed the kids and put them to bed, it was around 8ish by the time they were completely knocked out. DS had been sleep for about an hour before. After they were in bed, I helped DH clean the kitchen, make lunches, iron, make bottles and basically just get settled down for the next day. So it's about 1030 before he and I accomplish everything. DH heads on to work and I head to bed. Thirty minutes later I get a knock on my door. So I jump out of bed in a panic, thinking something happend to DH on his way to work or it's an emergency in general. I look through my peep hole and of course it's dark and all I see is a person standing there with an eye mask over their eyes. (you know the ones that help women with bags under their eyes). I say who is it and it's my cousin Ruth. Ruth is 16, has her drivers license and is getting ready to graduate from HS. So now my blood level is through the roof because it's 11pm I'm home alone with my kids and my cousin who lives 40 minutes away from me is knocking on my door. Panic now set in and I ask her what is she doing in my area this time of night. Now get this...











She is stopping by to drop off tickets for her catilion this coming Saturday....AT 11PM AT NIGHT. Did I mention that already? My panic now turns into anger. Her mother which is my uncles wife is on her way up my steps and here Ruth and I talking and belts out, before I see the whites of her eyes "Kim were you asleep". Now what do you think, it's 11pm, ALL of the lights are off in my house, I have two babies that are asleep, and I have to get up at 5am to go to work. "No, I'm up giving myself a home manicure and pedicure". Yes, I'm alseep and so are my children. I then ask again politely what is going on and where are they coming from this time of night. They were coming from another Aunt's house who lives about 10 minutes from me and thought they would stop by for a spot of tea and drop off the tickets. Hello, this could not wait until Monday, Tuesday, or maybe Wednsday DURING THE DAY, WHILE THE SUN IS SHINING OR MAYBE SETTING???

My aunt then has the nerve to get mad at me, because 1. I never carry cash around with me, so I could not give her the money at 11pm. Plus DH and I do not keep cash in the house. For no particular reason, we just prefer to use our debit/credit card for everything. 2. Because I question her daughter as to why they are knocking on my door at 11pm to give me tickets for the catilion. (I would have asked her mother, but she was still walking up my steps). I ask if they are coming in because I'm now tired of having this conversation with my door wide open. My Aunt storms off and and just says, give me a call tomorrow.

And BTW they never called to see if we were up or if anyone was home. The last time we heard from them was March 15th regarding the catilion. DH has seem my uncle since then, and nothing was mentioned then either.

Am I wrong for being upset?

Flame if need be.

 

[Harley Chick]

I think anyone who comes by without calling, regardless of what time of day it is, is rude.

 

[gymnasticsmom68]

Do you consider this rude?

ABSOLUTELY!!!!

 

[Jolie C]

I don't like visitors or phone calls past 9:00 at night, so YES, it was really rude!

 

[Bob Slydell]

11pm on a work night, with all the lights out and it looking pretty obvious that everyone's in bed?

Ummm, yeah, it's really rude.

 

[poohandwendy]

Yeah, it's rude and also very weird.

Why on earth would they be doing this at such a late date and such a late hour? Sheesh.....Proper planning prevents pissing people off.

 

[Beth76]

definitely rude! I can't imagine ringing someone's doorbell at 11pm unless they new I was coming.

 

[aesalsa]

I know that you don't need another person telling you this, but, "How RUDE!"

 

[CamColt]

No flames here...that is incredibly rude. I for one think anyone who shows up uninvited is rude, but at that hour, knowing you have small kids, OMG, Id be steaming!

 

[HoneyPooh]

VERY rude. Especially since they know you have children who will be in bed by that time. Some people have absolutely no manners.

 

[Serena]

Rude, rude, rude.

 

[kild]

In case anyone hasn't mentioned this yet (Icouldn't remember reading it anywhere) that was very rude! They probably wouldn't speak to me for a while after I let them know how wrong they were.

 

[faithinkarma]

yep, rude.

 

[missypie]

I do not open my door after dark to anyone unless I am expecting them.

One time I was 9+ months pregnant, my husband was not home, my mother was with me (awaiting the birth) and I had two kids under 3 in bed. The doorbell rang at 10:15 pm and mom and I didn't answer it.

It turns out that is was my husband's brother who was briefly in town, dropping by unannounced. DH jumped all over me for not going to the door (we don't have a peephole). No way was I answering the door that late at night when I was expecting no one!

 

[FonFon]

If you don't call first, and ASK if you can come over for XYZ reason, I'm not answering the door.

I had a friend who I explained this to SEVERAL times, who liked to come over anywhere between 9 and 11pm, just invite herself in to "hang out". My dog will bark at a leaf falling a block away, so I'm sure you can imagine what happens when there's a knock at the door. The "friend" would just stand there and continue to knock.

LOL, needless to say, I vote for rude.

 

[Lynn CC]

Teenagers that age like to sleep-in on weekend mornings!!!!
If your kids are up early why not give her a little ring so your oldest can say hi, because they didn't get to see her the other night at 11PM

5AM sounds good to me

 

[minniecarousel]

Not that you need another person to agree with you, but THEY owe YOU an apology!!

 

[iamsorcerermickey]

quoted by Lynn CC:

"If your kids are up early why not give her a little ring so your oldest can say hi, because they didn't get to see her the other night at 11PM

5AM sounds good to me"

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I was thinking the same thing.

 

[Robinrs]

I'm with Lynn, 4:45 I'd pick!

BeYOND Rude!!! In my world anything short of the end of the world you'd BETTER not call or come to my house after 10pm!! My Mom would answer the phone "WHAT'S WRONG??????!!!!

 

[luv2nascar]

rude and if I didn't think the doorbell would have woke the children up I wouldn't have answered it