DISers tired of apologizing?

[maddhatir]

Not sure where to post this- b/c it really DOES have to do with the "regular" DIS posters here, the resort and restaurant forums etc.....and not all of us go to the community board (I have read, many are afraid to venture over there! ) With THAT said:

I have read some posts lately from people who are tired of being "attacked" for everything they say on the boards.........

Are you tired of:
apologizing?
starting your post "no flames, please"
using IMO- or IMHO- (it should be understood-of couse it is YOUR opinion- b/c you WROTE it!)

AND we just KNOW when you have to insert some of these to your posts:




I KNOW this is a "discussion" board- I do not need any lectures! (this pertains to my post- BUT maybe some of you had to actually start your post with this phrase also! )

 

[Glendamax]

I understand what you mean about apologizing. But, most of the time, if I think I am going to offend someone, I simply dont reply. I skip it.

The one time I did not apologize was on that thread about Disney hiring a bi-lingual princess and people started saying some REALLY ignorant stuff.
(that I should not hope to see a princess that looks like me someday because they are all White and Disney should not have to cater to certain groups of people) I believe that some people think "discussion" board, means "debate". That's not what I come here for. Nor do I think is the intent of this site. But the "debators" are out there.

Final Answer: On subjects that I DO feel I want/need to respond to, and I don't want to hurt anyone, I do apologize at the beginning - and no, I'm not tired of it, because I don't do it that often.

 

[the Fidge]

Firstly, Madhattr this is very important!!!!! where did you get that pic of Mr Depp, mama like, mama want , mama must have!!!! PLEASE OH PLEASE SHARE THAT WITH ME!!!!!

Ok, next thing, if I get a response inside that angers me, I practice something important restraint of tongue and pen! Go back a few dyas later and hope someone with some gently method ahs responded!

For me I don't worry about it as I am already tan and can't get burned!

This forum is like life there is all kinds some good some bad, so I stick with the winners with a winning attitude life is too important to me to give any energy to those without a good outlook.

i have way too much laundry to do......... and put on a happy face.....

lifes to short not to spend dancing!!!!!

 

[maddhatir]

Firstly, Madhattr this is very important!!!!! where did you get that pic of Mr Depp, mama like, mama want , mama must have!!!! PLEASE OH PLEASE SHARE THAT WITH ME!!!!!

Ok, next thing, if I get a response inside that angers me, I practice something important restraint of tongue and pen! Go back a few dyas later and hope someone with some gently method ahs responded!

For me I don't worry about it as I am already tan and can't get burned!

This forum is like life there is all kinds some good some bad, so I stick with the winners with a winning attitude life is too important to me to give any energy to those without a good outlook.

i have way too much laundry to do......... and put on a happy face.....

lifes to short not to spend dancing!!!!!

I dont usually apologize- b/c I dont think people really make a post intentionally thinking they are going to offend anyone when they post it (OK weel some of us dont! )-- I think some people are just too sensitive and I see a lot of apologizing and fighting on the boards- I try not to get in the middle and yes, I do skip over a lot of it. But of course you have to check in every so often to see how nasty it got!

as far as my pic- you are more than welcome to right click on it and save it for yourself! you can even add it to your siggy, I dont mind at all!

 

[byoung]

No apoloqizing here.

 

[lgp1]

No apoloqizing here.

Nor here.SORRY Byoung for using your post.

 

[BeautyNBeast]

Unfortunately, on a internet chat board, there are always going to be people who attack others, and that you feel you have to apologize. These people are strangers, so I try not to let anything bother me with what is being said. Some people like to stir up trouble.

 

[sunny_]

In my very humble opinion , I have been a part of several message boards in my life and they all (unless they are private and you hand-pick the members) are chock-full of drama. lol. I have days when it drives me nutty dealing with everyone being offended and the debates and I have other days when the absurdity of it all makes me laugh. Sometimes I get caught up in the drama, but usually I bite my tongue (or glue my fingers to the desk) and don't respond....

This is just my opinion, IMHO. Sorry if it offends anyone - no flames please! NOt stirring the pot! LOL - just kidding!

 

[Brooknwdw]

I don't usually post on really hostile threads simply because most of them don't involve/interest me. I think some posters get wayyyy too bent out of shape about a handful of subjects that seem to keep cropping up...

This is the only discussion board I have ever done, I found it when planning my first trip.

Here is something kind of funny though...I think my very first post was about putting five people in a studio at Boardwalk Villas! It was totally innocent, and boy did I ever regret it....one of those breaking the rules subjects that I did not know anything about, being new!

The boards I visit most are the budget board, resort boards, and theme park board. I have learned alot on the budget board.

 

[Miley Cyrus]

10 people ignored me before because I posted a one line sentence... and i'm serious. These people had 5 posts... SO ANNOYING

 

[maddhatir]

Here is something kind of funny though...I think my very first post was about putting five people in a studio at Boardwalk Villas! It was totally innocent, and boy did I ever regret it....one of those breaking the rules subjects that I did not know anything about, being new!

OH don't feel bad- one of my first posts was about people offering up their seat on the bus........but I AM NOT going THERE anymore and I don't want to hear about it here!

 

[Alex2kMommy]

It's easy to read more into a post than may actually be there. I think it's because you don't know the other poster and you can't read their body language, only the words they've chosen to convey the comment. You also bring your own life experience in as you read it. People also feel much more free to say what they please in an anonymous environment, hence the more inflammatory statements and less politeness.

I used to frequent another parenting site and discussion board, but backed off because every single topic turned into a stupid debate about SAHM v. working mom and got ugly!

This site tends to be more restrained, though I have seen many posts that were not. Some people seem too eager to think the worst of one another instead of giving the benefit of the doubt, or asking what they meant. So I'm staying out of the 'train wreck' ones, and putting in my two cents on others only when I feel there's something of value to add.

 

[maddhatir]

I don't usually post on really hostile threads simply because most of them don't involve/interest me. I think some posters get wayyyy too bent out of shape about a handful of subjects that seem to keep cropping up...

You never know though when they may turn hostile!

I was reading a thread a while back about a pet fish that got nasty (well, not the fish- but the thread! )

Can you imagine!

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

i can say i'm sick of apologizing myself. i've been attacked quite a few times on here for no apparent reason. last time it was because i said i wore my bathing suit top to the parks. honestly...find something else to complain about that's more important.

 

[maddhatir]

i can say i'm sick of apologizing myself. i've been attacked quite a few times on here for no apparent reason. last time it was because i said i wore my bathing suit top to the parks. honestly...find something else to complain about that's more important.

YEAH! Like getting a fish for a pet! Now THAT really pi$$es me off!

 

[394mm493]

You never know though when they may turn hostile!

I was reading a thread a while back about a pet fish that got nasty (well, not the fish- but the thread! )

Can you imagine!

I can imagine... I've lurked for quite a while, and while I'm not a daily poster elswhere either, I feel much less conspicuous about posting on other boards (TGM, DW Trivia, etc). I've had the post typed out on Disboards quite a few times and then just cancelled out instead of posting rather than face the flames.

In fact, I might just hit cancel right now... Wait, wrong button...

 

[maddhatir]

I can imagine... I've lurked for quite a while, and while I'm not a daily poster elswhere either, I feel much less conspicuous about posting on other boards (TGM, DW Trivia, etc). I've had the post typed out on Disboards quite a few times and then just cancelled out instead of posting rather than face the flames.

In fact, I might just hit cancel right now... Wait, wrong button...

That wasnt so bad was it?? .....so far!

 

[tinkwannabe2]

There's currently a debate on the DDP board about when is an okay time to use the little popcorn man emoticon... and they're not kidding, people are getting mad at each other.

 

[394mm493]

That wasnt so bad was it?? .....so far!

Thanks for taking it easy on me.

Just to be safe I think I'm going to drift on over to the freebies thread before somebody turns on the heat...

 

[HayGan]

There's currently a debate on the DDP board about when is an okay time to use the little popcorn man emoticon... and they're not kidding, people are getting mad at each other.

Well, I will take responsibility for that one (sort of)

People come to the DIS to learn about ways to make a Disney vacation special. Whether it be tips on saving for the once in a lifetime trip, finding the perfect ADR (and how to make it), how to best utilize the DDP, what kind of tickets they should buy, what the best resort for their family is, etc. Sadly, to many posts (such as the popcorn one mentioned above) are being used to incite controversy or belittle others who aren't "as in the know". The post in question was the first response to a valid question from a relatively new DISer. If the popcorn poster had read the question instead of just replying with the popcorn smilie, they could have seen that it was an easy question to answer. But no, a level of sarcasm had to be the first response. What was the point of the ? It did nothing but serve as indication that the thread might turn bad. It was completely pointless and unnecessary. It created controversy where there was NONE! How are responses such as those helpful No wonder so many newbies are quickly turned off and afraid to ask any questions. It really is becoming very sad and frustrating!

I used to be frequent visitor to the CB board but I felt I needed to take a break and put things into perspective. Now I try to stick more to making my (and others) Disney vacations more magical

Whew, sorry to be so long winded!!! Just had to get that off my chest