It's a shame that Disney had to institute this policy for V&A. Some children know how to behave and others don't. The problem is...the parents don't seem to always know their childrens limits. DH and I always took our children to upscale restaurants ( and now our DGC) They knew what a treat it was and were definitely on their best behavior. It's sad that this has been ruined for all.
Yes, Palo is 21 and up on the cruise ship, but the difference is... childcare for kids over 3 is free. It is also more accessible.