Did Anybody See the Story About the Missing Utah Woman?

[DVCLiz]

Her husband left late at night on a camping trip with their two preschoolers - it was a Sunday night but he was "confused" and thought it was Saturday night so he stayed gone all day Monday and when he came home his wife was missing - neither mom nor dad showed up for work on Monday and the kids didn't go to daycare.

Um, if you are going to make up a story to cover how you murdered your wife, don't you think you could come up with something a little better than "I forgot it was Sunday?"

I think he's totally guilty and probably murdered her and dumped her body in the mountains - with his two little kids along for the ride.

The missing woman's father was interviewed last night and said he didn't see how the son could have done anything - poor guy, he is deluded. Who takes toddlers camping after 9pm on a Sunday night and "forgets" the next day is a work day?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Hopefully they find the body quickly. If they figure out where he was maybe dogs could locate her?

 

[Piglet]

Yeah, unbelievable - the husband must have some sort of mental problems. How does he think someone wouldn't find his story very strange????

Edited to add: I saw they were interviewing the 4 year old - hopfully the little one can provide some details, even if it is small

 

[nutterbutter2010]

I've always told my husband.... If you want me out of your life, just divorce me, and I'll be gone, but don't KILL me!! What is the deal with some people - doesn't this guy understand that his children will now grow up with a murderer for a father, and no mother???


That is of course if he is proven guilty.....

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I watched it this morning. Given the circumstances, his story is beyond sketchy.

As sketchy as a certain Orlando mom whose dd was missing for 30 days before she breathed a word to anyone.

 

[Zandy595]

I've always told my husband.... If you want me out of your life, just divorce me, and I'll be gone, but don't KILL me!! What is the deal with some people - doesn't this guy understand that his children will now grow up with a murderer for a father, and no mother???


That is of course if he is proven guilty.....

I'd be scared if I felt the need to clarify that with my DH.

 

[brockash]

I've always told my husband.... If you want me out of your life, just divorce me, and I'll be gone, but don't KILL me!! What is the deal with some people - doesn't this guy understand that his children will now grow up with a murderer for a father, and no mother???


That is of course if he is proven guilty.....

The problem with that mindset is, that's the mindset of a caring parent, who puts their childs best interest before anything else. These pieces of crap don't care about anything but themselves, and can't even realize or make their kids a priority long enough to see what something like this would do to them. Very very sad

And how horrible for the poor 4 year old being interviewed. I mean, they have to, they don't really have any other choice, but how incredibly sad

 

[Silent1CB]

Camping in Utah? In December? With 2 pre-school kids? Brrrrrrrr
RIIIIIIGHHHHHTTT! Try another story.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Camping in Utah? In December? With 2 pre-school kids? Brrrrrrrr
RIIIIIIGHHHHHTTT! Try another story.

That's what I was thinking too.

 

[MusiqChic99]

I watched it this morning. Given the circumstances, his story is beyond sketchy.

As sketchy as a certain Orlando mom whose dd was missing for 30 days before she breathed a word to anyone.

 

[Handbag Lady]

My husband's secretary did that once. (The wrong day thing, not the go out and kill your wife thing.)



She didn't show up to work on Monday. They were all worried and eventually got her on the phone around 1 pm after trying for hours. They were about to send the cops to her house.

She was mad and wanted to know why they were bugging her on Sunday to work.

 

[disney1990]

I've always told my husband.... If you want me out of your life, just divorce me, and I'll be gone, but don't KILL me!! What is the deal with some people - doesn't this guy understand that his children will now grow up with a murderer for a father, and no mother???


That is of course if he is proven guilty.....

Wow, this is the same thing I tell my DH. (It's a joke)

Everything we see a story like this, we always turn to each other and say,
"it's the husband" or "it's the boyfriend". 99% of the time it is.

But, really, it's just sad.

 

[bumbershoot]

I've always told my husband.... If you want me out of your life, just divorce me, and I'll be gone, but don't KILL me!!

Seriously. With all the murder-suicides we're hearing about the last year or so, we've had a convo about it. IF you lose your job, if you're scared about money, if you're feeling out of control etc etc etc, just TALK to me. If you are scared I'll make you pay through the nose and you're considering this, remember, I have my brother and SIL to help, just don't do THAT. It's a weird conversation to have, but I'd rather have that conversation than not...

I'd be scared if I felt the need to clarify that with my DH.

True, but do you think those killed in these situations thought their spouse was so abnormal they'd kill them? I think that anyone can crack, and like I just said, I'd rather have the convo, be open and communicative, so it's at least stated...

 

[DVCLiz]

Seriously. With all the murder-suicides we're hearing about the last year or so, we've had a convo about it. IF you lose your job, if you're scared about money, if you're feeling out of control etc etc etc, just TALK to me. If you are scared I'll make you pay through the nose and you're considering this, remember, I have my brother and SIL to help, just don't do THAT. It's a weird conversation to have, but I'd rather have that conversation than not...



True, but do you think those killed in these situations thought their spouse was so abnormal they'd kill them? I think that anyone can crack, and like I just said, I'd rather have the convo, be open and communicative, so it's at least stated...

You actually told your husband not to kill you if he was under stress?

Wow, bumber, that's intense.

 

[Inigo]

My husband's secretary did that once. (The wrong day thing, not the go out and kill your wife thing.)
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Thanks for the clarification. LOL

 

[MomofKatie]

You actually told your husband not to kill you if he was under stress?

Wow, bumber, that's intense.

People can do really awful things when under terrible stress.

One of my friends from college had a wonderful DH. They had a baby after a long time trying, and when the baby was 6 weeks old, she was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor and given less than 2 months to live. She managed to hold on for almost 3 years, and her DH was there for her, through all the treatments, surgeries, and other horrible stuff. Everyone thought he was handling things well, when suddenly one day, he locked himself in the bathroom and committed suicide with a handgun (my friend was blind and bedridden, in the next room, unable to get help. Their toddler son was in the house, too). No one had the slightest idea that he was so profoundly depressed as to do something like that.

My friend died less than 2 weeks later- she just gave up on life. Luckily, her DH didn't take his family out with him, but he did make his son an orphan at the age of 3- and killed himself right there in the house with him. I'm sure if my friend had known how he felt, she would have begged him to just leave her- apparantly, he had become overwhelmed by her illness and all it required, and met another woman he cared for at a support group for cancer sufferers' families. He couldn't bring himself to admit that he could think of leaving his terminally ill wife, so he killed himself instead.

 

[DVCLiz]

People can do really awful things when under terrible stress.

One of my friends from college had a wonderful DH. They had a baby after a long time trying, and when the baby was 6 weeks old, she was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor and given less than 2 months to live. She managed to hold on for almost 3 years, and her DH was there for her, through all the treatments, surgeries, and other horrible stuff. Everyone thought he was handling things well, when suddenly one day, he locked himself in the bathroom and committed suicide with a handgun (my friend was blind and bedridden, in the next room, unable to get help. Their toddler son was in the house, too). No one had the slightest idea that he was so profoundly depressed as to do something like that.

My friend died less than 2 weeks later- she just gave up on life. Luckily, her DH didn't take his family out with him, but he did make his son an orphan at the age of 3- and killed himself right there in the house with him. I'm sure if my friend had known how he felt, she would have begged him to just leave her- apparantly, he had become overwhelmed by her illness and all it required, and met another woman he cared for at a support group for cancer sufferers' families. He couldn't bring himself to admit that he could think of leaving his terminally ill wife, so he killed himself instead.

OK, but there are a million extenuating circumstances in your story that would make it reasonable to assume the husband might do something rash. Just a random seemingly happily married normal poster on the DIS boards - not so much. It just seemed weird to me that anyone would actually have this conversation with a spouse to whom they are happily married - unless bumbershoot has some big secrets she's not telling us about!

 

[mickeyboat]

Actually, DH and I have what I consider a pretty decent and reasonable marriage, and we have had the conversation, too. It wasn't a serious, let's sit down and talk about how far you would go if you were stressed. It was more of a sarcastic comment made while we were watching a news story about one of these incidents.

Denae

 

[mbfqueen]

I feel terrible for the kids left behind when the parents are so incredibly selfish.

 

[DVCLiz]

Actually, DH and I have what I consider a pretty decent and reasonable marriage, and we have had the conversation, too. It wasn't a serious, let's sit down and talk about how far you would go if you were stressed. It was more of a sarcastic comment made while we were watching a news story about one of these incidents.

Denae

I can totally see making a sarcastic remark - "Hey, let's agree not to kill each other no matter what, OK? Deal!" but that's not what the other poster sounded like. It was just weird, that's all.