depressed college student

[Tiggeroo]

I'm getting him to see a dr. Am trying to get an emergency appointment near his school tomorrow. Just trying to decide how to deal with him being away from home, possibly depressed, and possibly not getting to sessions. I pay enough tuition to control pulling the plug and bringing him home. That would be a very tough call to make. I'm also considering whether to call the gf and room mates to see if they are observing any problems. But I don't want to make college kids responsible for my problems, however they would be in a better place to see.
The sleep med he is on is a mild anti-depressant. He is feeling a bit better and attributes it to sleeping but it could be the effects of the anti-depressant.

 

[noodleknitter]

You are doing good! I wouldn't call others unless there were huge concerns. Glad it is an anti-depressant given for sleep. You are right, it may be helping.

 

[Lynn CC]

From one mother of a college sophomore to another.

I would talk to him over Thanksgiving (is he coming home)? See if he changed his future plans and doesn't know how to tell you. Or maybe there is another root of the problem? Try to find out, let him know he can tell you anything and you will stand by his side, you want to see him happy, and you don't want to lose him etc.

Going to see his regular physician is a great idea, they have ways of getting help for patience, ASAP!

I wouldn't call the roommates, GF etc. Sometimes they like to be very private at that age and he may resent you for going to his friends behind his back. I know your trying to help him, but he may not want anyone to know he's depressed.

A lot of colleges have special programs and help for students with ADHD, my nephew is also a sophomore. He goes to a state college that has a great program and he's doing fine. They closely monitor him and tailor his academic courses for him, they make sure he will succeed there.
When he was applying they only applied to colleges with strong disability programs. If your DS is looking into transferring you may want to search those colleges out.
I know how worried you must be, I feel for you and what you and your DS are going through. I think at this point (if it were my son) I would go camp out myself at a hotel by his school until I could bring him home over Thanksgiving so I could talk with him on a daily basis face to face. Would that be a possibility? Especially if your worried about what he's going to do, it may make both of you feel better?
I'm not trying to tell you what to do, just trying to help.