DD Has To Find A New Date For Prom . . .

[Wish Upon A Star]

and prom is May 6th! The funny thing is, I'm more upset than she is . . .she said "oh well, I'll find someone to go with"

You think the kid could of broken up with her before she bought the prom bid on Monday, but noooooooooo he waited till last night and broke up with her over a phone conversation . . . .

What the heck is wrong with teens?

 

[sajetto]

What a jerk!

I'm suprised she isn't upset. That really doesn't give her a lot of time to find a new date, that is unless if she has someone in mind and didn't mind the breakup b/c of that

 

[mickeyboat]

Does his name start with a T and end with a S? Because my boyfriend did the same thing to me Junior year. I ended up not going and losing the deposit I put down on my dress.

Denae

 

[pfishgirl]

awww for DD... I'm glad she isn't all that upset....

 

[Wish Upon A Star]

I'm actually expecting her to come home from school today and say "I have a new date for prom" that's how un-upset she was . . .or pretends to be . . .very strange . . .

Good thing her prom dress wasn't a huge amount of money just in case she doesn't end up going . . .maybe we'll be able to get a refund on the prom bid . . .but I'm unsure . . .I'm just hoping for the best and that she finds someone to go with, even just as a friend, not a boyfriend . . .

 

[tar heel]

What is a prom bid?

 

[sweet angel]

That stinks, but it's good that she's not upset. Maybe she wanted to break up with him but wanted to wait until after the Prom.

I was asked to a college semi-formal when I was a senior in high school. I found out about a week before the dance from my neighbor that the dance had been cancelled. My "date" never even bothered to tell me.

 

[budbeerlady]

I dont get it? Why does she need a date? I went my jr and sr year with female friends. We had a blast. All went out for dinner first, then prom and then midnight movies and other mischief untill all hours of the morning. I didnt want to go with any guy, it was a small school and no one there I was interested in hanging out all night. I had another guy I was seeing but he wasnt from my school my sr year. (And he was a bit ummmm, older)

 

[Wish Upon A Star]

I wouldn't totally mind if she just went solo, but, the group of kids she's going with all are "couples" and they have rented a limo, etc and she'd be the odd man out . . .she'd probably have a better time if she went solo . . .but, I know she'd like to be with someone . . .

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

What is a prom bid?

 

[Wish Upon A Star]

Prom Bid = tickets

Sorry, I have always called them bids . . .I dunno why . . .I'm unique . . .

 

[WIcruizer]

There's always two sides to every story right? Maybe he had a good reason to break up with her that night. Besides that, since it obviously wasn't working out, would you rather have your daughter go to the prom with a guy who really didn't want to be there? Seems to me there's never a good time. Right around her birthday...Valentine's Day..Christmas...start of the school year... When kids breal up, they break up, and you can't really control the timing of hwen one or both of them realize they aren't right for each other. In fact, maybe the prom coming up was actually the trigger that forced this guy to think about your daughter, and realized they weren't right for each other.

 

[VSL]

You know, I'm so glad we don't do the whole 'date' thing here - not for 'dances' (we call them 'disco's') or even a 'going to the movies' date. I know Gwyneth Paltrow complained about us, but it seems so much simpler the way that it is done over here

 

[MickeysMommy]

Boys =

Sorry she had this happen but glad she is taking this in stride. Boys will be boys I guess...who can figure them out?

 

[WIcruizer]

Boys =

Sorry she had this happen but glad she is taking this in stride. Boys will be boys I guess...who can figure them out?

What did he do wrong?

 

[Kimberly]

Happened to me too for my senior prom, and my mother was more annoyed at it than I was. I really didn't mind, because I was going down to the Jersey shore for the weekend afterwards no matter what, which was the really fun part.

I ended up finding a date on the Monday before prom though, asking an old high school friend. In retrospect, she should go to her prom, it is basically the last (or second to last in my case) party your class will have together.

I would advise against her going to prom alone too, especially if all her friends are going with couples. Often she'll be left alone while most people dance, and I don't think there were ANY people single at my senior prom.

 

[Sandy V.]

I'm glad your daughter took it in stride and already has another date lined up. It's amazing how resilent they can be, isn't it?

My DD is also a senior and has been dating another senior in her class since mid-June last year. He's a great kid, treats her very well, and DH and I really like him, but every time there was a "crisis" in their relationship (fortunately, not often) I have to admit that one of my thoughts was "Oh dear - please let them weather this so they can go to the prom together. THEN they can break up!!"

Some people will think I'm a bad person for saying that, but I wanted her to have a senior prom experience, and for it to be with someone that she really wanted to go with. Singles don't go to prom at our school, although they do go to After-Prom.

Fortunately, DD and boyfriend will be going to prom together on April 22nd and things are going well (at least as far as I know!).

I hope your daughter has a great time!!

 

[ozarkmom]

My daughter just went to the prom last Saturday. One of her friends broke up with her boyfriend about a week before prom but they still went together. Several of the kids went with people that they're just friends with.

 

[Mickey527]

Oh how I remember that happening to me. A week before my senior Prom I broke up with my boyfriend. I had paid for the prom, made the most beautiful dress I had ever made (I used the same patterns for my wedding dress) and had even ordered his buttoneer. We didn't have limos for Prom way back then in 1972.
A good friend of mine said he would go with me but I decided Prom wasn't as important as many made it out to be. I wish now that I had gone, I am sorry I missed that part of my senior experience. Oh well.
Hey Wishuponastar, I live in CT and have a 22 year old son who is adorable even though he looks like he is 17. If your daughter is interested, he has a car and a good job. He is currently single. Peggie

 

[FINFAN]

So sorry...around here this situation actually has a name.... DBTD.....("debutted" )for
Dumped Before The Dance...doesn't have to be Prom...any dance will do.
My own DD called it quits w/her BF at the end of Spring Break. I have a feeling she would've done it way sooner, but thankfully she wated 'till the pictures came back from the TurnaBout dance...I think it was a week or so after she gave her BF the photos....and to be honest. I don't think he was all that heartbroken...sounds like your DD's case...she will have fun at Prom. Now things are in her control, she is able to ask anyone she thinks she would have fun with...no stress! Can you imagine if she went to Prom with him and they were not getting along, or wishing they were there w/someone else? WAY worse than going in a group or with a friend. My DD has decided that she is done "going out" with anyone..."too high maintenance" were her words. I'm thinking spring fever and free as a bird...


Pam