couples question inspired by "Fast Forward"

[kristilew]

Ok, I've gotten hooked on the new show "Fast Forward." I don't think it's much of a spoiler to say that the main couple expresses their love by saying the opposite.

The second scene in the first show, the guy finds a note that says "you're a crappy husband, I hate you" and he responds by saying "I hate you too" in a really loving tone. When they are scared, she texts to him "I hope I never see you again." And when they are having relationship stress, he asks if they are ok, and then they both "confess" to having talked to a divorce atty, which completely reassures them of the opposite.

So, that got me thinking. Is this a real thing? Does anyone do this in their relationship? Or is it a "tv thing?" I've never known anyone who did this, but maybe it is private? Or maybe it is a silly tv thing.

Your thoughts?

 

[AmazingGrace]

Not to that extreme, but my dh and i mess with each other all the time. He keeps threatening to trade me in for a younger trophy wife and i tell him that he couldn't find one that would put up with him and we go back and forth like that. It's our love language.

 

[minkydog]

I dunno. It doesn't seem like a good idea. Kinda like calling each other names,like Dumbo, Fat-Tail, Fluffo, or other equally demeaning names. Sooner or later, the reciever is bound to get tired of that game and start taking the words to heart. Feelings are going to be hurt and misunderstandings result.

I just don't see anything good coming of "teasing" about divorce attorneys,
saying I hate you, you're a terrible spouse and I hope i never see you again. Where's the love in that? They might say they don't mean it, but I believe that sometimes people try to pass off real feelings as a joke, because they don't want to say what they mean. If you love each other, say it. Don't play silly Opposite Day games! nothing good come of it.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

It's not the same, but my DBF and I joke about our (nonexistent) "other significant others" sometimes. For example, when I think I told him something that I actually didn't, and I say I'd swear that I told him, he'll say, "No, must have been your other boyfriend." And vice versa. For us, it really is a reassurance.

 

[Becky2005]

To an extent I have a wacky husband though.

A statement that has been known to be said in our house is "I hate you with every fiber of my existance" -- which is *so* opposite of what it means when it's said. I'm sure it's a quote from somewhere since 99.9% of the things said in this house seems to be quoted. I just don't know where it's from (yet).

About the only time it gets said is when someone is being a bit over the top whiny and in response to a goofy "You don't love me (because I'm not getting my way)...(pout, pout, I want you to give in)" done basically with flair so that usually garners the "I hate you...." response with equal over the top flair, so it's pretty obvious it's completely sarcastic.

It's done between us & sometimes my oldest but never the little ones because they wouldn't get the sarcasim. My DD has very much picked up my DH's very sarcastic type of humor, so her saying it fits.

It's never done in anger though. Then again, I grew up that whenever my dad called, we always told my mom it was her boyfriend calling.

OK...maybe I'm just warped but it works for us (so far anyway).

 

[shortbun]

We've always said, 'you're the mean one' when we really meant, 'that was so nice of you!' or 'thank you!'

 

[KimR]

Not to that extreme, but my dh and i mess with each other all the time. He keeps threatening to trade me in for a younger trophy wife and i tell him that he couldn't find one that would put up with him and we go back and forth like that. It's our love language.

We do the same thing, although not in public because if anyone who didn't know us overheard it they'd think we hated each other! We do it in front of the kids, too, and they think it's hysterical because they understand we're just joking. But it's nothing really over the top and there's no chance of hurt feelings because the things we say are so far away from the truth - that's the whole point of it.