Could use a little pixie dust

[CJK]

With Christmas just a few days away, things aren't going very well I'm afraid. I always did find Christmas time very stressful but I'm finding this year even worse. I'm fighting with family and I dissolve into tears at the drop of the hat. It's making me think about loved ones who are no longer with us. Any advice on how to get through the next couple weeks of holiday festivities? I feel like Scrooge.

 

[tater bug]

No real words of wisdom here, but lots of {{{hugs}}}. Sorry you're feelin' blue.

 

[grinningghost]

More {{{{Hugs}}}}. I know what you mean, Christmas doesn't really feel like Christmas to me this year either. I'm not exactly sure why. I hope you're feeling better soon.

 

[jipsy]

Keep everything very simple. Don't let the little things get to you. Try to do something to remember loved ones in your own way - maybe make an ornament to hang on the tree every year for them or something. Most of all just RELAX! It's almost over

Hug those you love and don't let the commercialization pressure you. The best thing I ever did was turn off the TV several years ago. I don't see any of the annoying Buy ME BUY ME! commercials anymore and it sure did help.

(((hugs))) to you.

 

[Dan Murphy]

I can only suggest you focus on the real meaning of the season of Christmas, the birth of Christ, knowing well that your loved ones, mine and everyone's, are with us forever. Certainly sad not having them here in a physical sense, but they are with us still.


Many {{hugs}} for a good season of Christmas.

 

[helenabear]

I was going to suggest what Dan said. I know I do that and it helps me get through it easier. {{{hugs}}}

 

[dandave]

It doesn't feel like Christmas to me this year, either. We moved this summer, and we all really miss our "home".
My GM died just a couple of years ago during mid December, so I'm really missing her. She was my paternal GM, and that side of the family doesn't get together like they used to.
My maternal GM is insane. Period. She'll probably try to have of all jailed during the Christmas party. Woohoo! I'm really looking forward to going home for Christmas!!

Still, I've got my boys and DH. Whenever I feel like wishing the season away, I stop myself. I don't want to miss a moment with them by "wishing it away". We try to joke about crazy granny, and I make myself think about what a great long life my other Grandmother lived. That helps me alot.

Speaking of Scrooge... Watching a Christmas Carol, Christmas Vacation, and DS #2's Christmas play at school really helped to brighten my mood.

I hope the rest of the Holiday Season brings you Peace and Happiness!

 

[CJK]

Thanks everyone for your thoughtfulness and advice. Nice to know you can count on the DIS. *hugs*

 

[C.Ann]

My Dad passed away in 1989 and I always miss him terribly at this time of year.. After his funeral though, I had my DH take the ribbon off the flowers I'd ordered for him that said "Dad" on it and every year I place that ribbon prominently on the front of our tree.. May sound silly, but it makes me feel like he's still here.. That's very important to me because I live in the house I grew up in (my Dad built this house all by himself) and a Christmas without Daddy "being" here just wouldn't be bearable for me..

Try to remember your lost loved ones in a happy way if you can.. Things they did that made you laugh.. And if it will make you feel better, go off somewhere alone and have a "conversation" with them.. I'm one of those who believe that they never really leave us and we can reach out to them any time we want..

As for family tiffs - well - that's pretty common at this time of year.. (Just had one with my sister a week and a half ago..) Everyone is stressed so don't take things too personally..

Do what will make YOU feel better for the holidays and NOT what everyone else EXPECTS you to do!

Hope you have a great holiday!
Hugs,
C.Ann

 

[Boots]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

 

[Saffron]

Awww, sometimes the holidays can be very sad. Maybe if you print out the words to "Your a Mean One, Mr. Grinch" and sing them often, you'll start to feel better. I know it makes me laugh and feel a little naughty mean, instead of feeling sad. {{{{Hugs}}}}

 

[WillyJ]

The last couple of Christmas' have been rough for me, so I can synpathize with you CJK. . There is something about this time of year that seems to bring a lot of emotions to the surface both good and bad. .

Can't offer any additional advice then the good stuff already written here, but I can offer a {{{hug}}} Take care and good luck getting through the season. .

 

[Krisu]

It's the same with many of us. We realize Christmas isn't the same as when we were younger. Especially with relatives no longer with us. I think C. Ann mentioned to do what you want to do. Stop doing things that bring on stress. If you want to stay in your P.J.'s all day watching T.V. then do it. If you don't want to see certain people, then don't. Everyone celebrates differently.

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie.