Coping with a 3rd Wheel

[imukai]

My bf and I will be going to WDW in Dec, and we've invited a mutual friend.

Reason being, the bf goes to university in UK and this is a rare time that he can fly across the pond to spend time with me. He has 8 days, we're spending 7 of them at WDW.. with a friend. If his trips were more frequent, friend could wait till next time, but this is the first time in 2008 that he could come over.. so.. friend is included in the festivities.

It's a mutual friend, so it should be fun. But now here's the question. What would be an adequate amount of PDA (public display of affection) without making the friend feel like a 3rd wheel?

We're both aware that the friend will probably feel like a wheel no matter what we do (he has some.. issues?), but we want to minimize it so it's good times had by all.

We're sharing a cabin at FW, the friend will get the murphy bed. We're counting on the tv's being enough distraction to not disturb him with any .. private displays of affection.

Our main concern tho is during the days when we're out and about. How PDAish would you feel comfortable being while keeping a 3rd's feelings in mind?

Happiest place on earth! =)

 

[MOREMICKEYFORME]

I would say to keep it to a minimum...for the friend's sake and other patrons. Disney is a family place. I wouldn't want my kids watching people make out heavily and grope each other uncontrollably.
Hand holding and hugging are great PDA's, and it gets the point across to your bf that you love him.
Have fun on your trip...

 

[imukai]

LOL.. yeh, wasn't talking about backing him into a corner and ripping his shirt off.

More like leaning on him in queues, holding hands, random kiss, etc. Seen other couples do it so it shouldn't be an issue.

Was mostly concerned about how to do all this without making the friend feel awkward. This'll be my first time going in this particular situation.

 

[spiceycat]

won't worry about the friend - worry about the little kids who will be watching you and asking their parents why you are doing that.

kept pa out of the parks please.

little kids will watch adults - that is a fact.

plus of course with the security cameras even in not so public places - you are being recorded and watched.

also you are already sounding jealous - by saying the friend is the 3rd wheel - that is not being a friend.

 

[Nie0214]

I don't think that holding hands would be too much for a 3rd person to handle. As long as there is no tongue hockey, I'd generally be comfortable. It really isn't something I've had to deal with in the last few years, so I can't give a better answer. Just the fact that you are aware of it and concerned is probably enough to police yourself.

 

[mama03]

Honestly dont worry about it. I am sure by your post you will be respectful in your pda. One thing you will have to do is get alone time with your BF AND give BF and his friend time alone to go and do things on their own. Even if it is just a couple of hours. Also, you can just look at friend and tell if he is uncomfortable. But Disney has so much to do I dont believe you will even think about public PDA.