My junior DD is home. We asked her to come home during the 2nd week if her extended Spring Break and then we’d watch what was happening and make a decision about going back in a few weeks. I can now say she agrees that she is not going back this semester. Her senior boyfriend is also home. His parents do not want him to go back, so he is staying put. This makes it so much easier for DH and me. Most of my daughter’s friends came home. There are a few hold outs left up at school, but every week a few more go home as things get more serious and the campus gets less fun. The permanent residents of her college town are getting very upset with the college kids who stayed because they are having house parties and congregating in groups. The school and the town police department issued a joint statement saying that any kids caught breaking the social distancing directives will be referred for school conduct violations. They are seriously cracking down. Plus all restaurants, bars, activities, gyms, and almost all student jobs are closed.
Kids still at school are starting to beg the ones at home to come back to school. One mom in DD’s friend group told her son that if they’re begging, it must not be that fun up there, and he’s not missing much. Another mom told her son he could go back if he could support himself while there, but he can’t because his restaurant job is now gone. She told him they have just enough money to stay current on his lease but not enough to cover his food, supplies and other expenses, which he usually pays himself.
As for college kids being adults - legally they may be (but that is even up for debate as they can’t rent cars or drink until 21), but most college kids are not self supporting or financially independent, so they are not truly adults. In addition sociologist classify them as “emerging adults” vs true adults. The emerging part means they still need support and guidance with decision making.
My DS23,who is financially independent with a terrific job, also came home. He lives a couple of hours away. He is now working remotely; everything fun closed where he lives; his gainfully employed college grad roommates all went home to their parents, and he was having a hard time finding food where he lives. I think the whole situation is a little scary too, so home he came.