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[mickeyminnie]

I have been trying to get myself to lose weight forever, or so it seems. I can't seem to get control and follow any sort of plan, and so it never gets anywhere. I am 223 right now. I promised myself at new years that I would be under 210 for this weekend and then under 200 for my anniversary at the end of march. I will once again make neither goal. they didn't seem to be unreasonable but I just can't seem to get started. I don't know why I sabbatog (sp?) myself continuously but I do.

I have had some success with ww historically but generally hit a plateau around 20 pounds, am doing some reading in dr phil's book, but i think he may be too unstructured, don't like the idea of atkins type diets. I feel like I need to do this myself because i need that boost of confidence. i am leaning toward going back on ww. i exercise hard twice a week in a great class but have lost the will to exercise the other days, don't know why, I always feel better after I DO

would really like to not feel like the fattest mom at the pool this summer, i have 2 kids, 3 and 6, and am 36. my dh ( well I guess d) told me my weight bothers him, that did nothing to motivate me, made me feel like i should just toss in the towel. i am tired of feeling like a failure, why can't i get this under control.

thanks for the vent

MM

 

[ZerasPride]

Hi MM,

First let me give you a big . It can be so hard to be large and want to lose the weight but lack the will and motivation to do so. You have come to the right place though! There is so much acceptance, support and encouragement on WISH.

Whatever program you decide to follow, you can be successful and seeing the inspiring stories here will fuel your desire to reach your goal.

Our stats are pretty similar. I'm 36 and a mom with 1 teen DS. My top weight was 282.5 pounds when I started the South Beach Diet on 12/1/03. I felt like this was my last ditch effort before I considered WLS (weight loss surgery) and I'm so glad this plan is working out for me! It is an Atkins-type plan and may not be what you are looking for though. I do love it and it is not only easy to follow but the food is delicious, I have tons of energy and never ever feel deprived! I have lost 32.5 pounds in 11 weeks and can wear clothes that are 1 and 2 sizes smaller than I was wearing before I started. If you decide to go back to WW, there are many here on WISH that are following that program. If you'd like to know more about SBD, I would be happy to share the plan with you too!

Whatever program you follow, just know you can and will be successful! Believe in yourself. I believe you can do it! I hear steel-like determination in your post. This is the time and this is the place - we will support each other. Please come here and post often and let us know which program you decide to follow. Take care!

 

[JCJRSmith]

Take a look at the South Beach Diet. I researched SB and Atkins before I started on SB. I chose SB because it made more sense to me. Between my wife and I we have dropped around 55 pounds since the first week of January (when I woke up this morning I was down 29 pounds since Jan 5). This way of eating works.

Think of it - what do you have to lose (except the weight)?

 

[DoomBuggieDriver]

MM; you just took the first step in posting here and asking to vent. Now you have a whole boardful of new friends just waiting to help you stay motivated. Tell yourself that this week you are going to do one extra exercise session. Don't even think about next week yet, just pick the extra day and go. Then check here-there's usually a tread "Who exercised today ...?"
Check in and it will keep you going!
Kathy

 

[kaylajr]

just wanted to tell you the people on this board are
great
i just recently started and the support from here has been wonderful

good luck

 

[luvmydogs]

Hi Sweetie, and a big hug from me, too! Welcome to WISH! It's a wonderful place where you'll find the greatest people who'll support and encourage you throughout your weight loss journey. In Oct. '02 I weighed 235lbs. I lost 110 in 15 months and have now been maintaining at 123-125 for about six weeks--WISH is the number one reason I stay motivated--I could not do this with out my wonderful WISH friends! I did not do a specific program. I'm a pain-in-the-neck-picky-eater-vegetarian, and I was concerned that being on a plan would be too structured for me. I concentrated on portion control and exercise. Many WISHers are on SBD, WW or Atkins, and I'm sure they'll give you some great info. about their programs, too! Don't be afraid to ask questions in order to decide what's best for you. At WISH, we support each other no matter what program we're on--it's the best part of being here!

I'm sorry your husband told you that your weight "bothers" him. I don't believe that by making someone feel bad about their weight, it will motivate him/her to lose. Like you said, it can just make you feel like giving up. I'm giving a big Grrrrrrrrr to him!

We'll be here for you, MM, whenever you need us. You will read some unbelievably motivational posts about people who have really changed their lives. Look at some of our pictures (Tiggerlover has a picture thread today showing how she's changed in the last year--amazing!), read some of our stories, and join us in our WISH Chat Committment or exercise threads. I think the SBD'ers have a thread, too! We also have WISH Chat on Mondays at 9pm--come talk with us if you can--we'd love to have you!

You're NOT A FAILURE! But many of us have felt the way you do at one point or another--I certainly know I have. You will find no negativity here. We support each other in all the ups and downs of weight loss and in many other areas of our lives. Whatever you need to help in making your life a healthier one, we'll be here for you! Please come by often and let us know how you're doing--we care about you!

 

[JulieK]

MM,

First I want to give you a big . I know what it's like to be over 200 lbs. and to have tried over and over to lose weight only to fail every time. This time I'm extremely motivated because my health is becoming an issue. But I admit that sometimes it gets depressing to think how much I have to lose before I'll get to a healthy weight. We just have to take it one day at a time. We have to want it for ourselves. If this is something that you want to do, you can do it! And I don't think you would be here if you didn't want it. I just want you to know that you're not alone. There are so many wonderful people here who understand. We'll be right here to support and encourage each other.

 

[kayeandjim00]

Hi MM! Just wanted to say welcome to WISH. You have gotten some great advice from the others who have posted. WISH is a wonderful, supportive place and you'll find so much encouragment! Hope to see you around often!

 

[MrsJ Henry]

Welcome ! I just recently joined the board also. I'm doing Atkins but everyone needs to find the plan that works for them.
I did Atkins a few years ago and lost 120 lbs in a year. Well in the last three years I have gianed back 70. I'm back on that horse agian and this time I'm going to lose it and NOT FIND IT AGAIN!!!!
I know the bad feelins. We all do. Since I started back up a little over a weeka ago I've felt great. I've lost 7 lbs and Atkins always gives me great energy and such a clear head.
Look into a few different plans and see what works for you. Everyone on this board is so great. I already love it and you will too. We are here for you!!!

 

[Nancy]

Welcome!

I found that actually starting to lose weight was the hardest. Once I made up my mind and started to do something it became easier and easier. This bunch of losers is a great support unit, they are nere top pick you up when you are feeling down, they don't let you kick yourself in the rear when you have a "bad" day. There is tons (excuse the pun) of support here. I don't post that often because I've been super busy, but I check in everyday to see whats going on.

 

[cinmell]

Hi MM ! Just wanted to say hello and welcome to WISH! This is a great place, you'll find lots of support, motivation and great tips for weight loss and exercise. I've had good luck with WW, but I didn't really stick with it until I started the WW program for the 3rd time. I've been doing it since July which is the longest I've followed the plan. I have also found the Walk Away the Pounds (WATP) dvd's to be beneficial to me. I feel like I get a good work out and I can do the moves. You can start off with the one mile then work your way up to the 2, then 3 and 4. If you have any questions, feel free to ask. Good luck!

 

[nativetxn]

Welcome to WISH, MM. If it's motivation you are looking for you have come to the right place. WISH is very motivating and helpful. Visit us often and participate in the discussions and you will see what I mean.

Finding the right plan for <i>you</i> is key. Find the right plan and you will be on the road to success.

I'm sorry that your husband hurt your feelings. {{{HUGS}}} we promise not to do that, okay?

If you haven't already done so, would you do me a favor and post to our WISH Challenge thread too? I use this thread to compose our member roster and if you don't post there I might leave you out. I would hate for that to happen.

You will find the challenge thread right <b>HERE</b>

Hang in there, sweetie. Take the challenge and join our WISH family, we'll be here for you always.

Katholyn

 

[aprilgail2]

Originally posted by mickeyminnie
I have been trying to get myself to lose weight forever, or so it seems. I can't seem to get control and follow any sort of plan, and so it never gets anywhere. I am 223 right now. I promised myself at new years that I would be under 210 for this weekend and then under 200 for my anniversary at the end of march. I will once again make neither goal. they didn't seem to be unreasonable but I just can't seem to get started. I don't know why I sabbatog (sp?) myself continuously but I do.
MM

I've never posted on the WISH board before but I read it on and off but since I never see anyone on here that had weight lose surgery I never join in....I know what it is like to be over 200...over 250 in fact and it stinks! I gained and lost over and over on weight watchers and just couldn't do it on my own. I wish you the best of luck in losing the weight! I had gastric banding done on March 9th and I am down over 25 pounds already. I don't advocate anything as drastic as the surgery for most people but for me it was the only way I am going to get healthy again!

 

[NikiM20]

I started at the beginning of the year at 254 lbs.I joined weight watchers and when i saw the number they wrote down i wanted to cry. I couldnt believe I had got to that point. I now post here, another couple of boards and I weigh in every week at weight watchers. My DH picks at me about paying people to look at how much I weigh and even though these people at WW mean nothing to me, It causes me to be accountable for everything. May I suggest writing down everything you eat in a day, even if its 1 potato chip, you may be surprised about how much you eat. we will all be pulling for you.

Niki

 

[Otto's Doll]

Hi MM,
glad to have you here. We will support you in whatever plan you choose... or even if you don't choose a specific plan. We try real hard to be supportive of everyone's choices, and we are all here to give a of support, encouragement, or just "been there, done that".
Welcome to WISH!

 

[Fishbone†]

Welcome!!!
Stick around here... everyone is SOOO encouraging and helpful!! It's been said before, but I'll affirm that the tips are super, and the support is stupendous!!! Plus there is representation of any and all plans - giving you a lot of knowledge and experience to draw off of.