Can I cry and vent?

[jamsmom]

Okay, many of you may remember that last week, Jim (SO) decided it is over with us. He says that I can stay until my business is proftable where I can move out. Well, I know he will have to refinance to get me off the mortgage. So, I will be here while I am saving money.

He has been cordial, but that is about it. He went up to his cousins Saturday night- came in at 6:30AM!!! He could have at least called because I was worried.

I know I may not be a beauty queen and I have gained 20-25 pounds in the last 8 years. (I weigh 135 and am 5')....but it hurts so much that I have spent since 1994 with someone like this.,.....

On top of that, my son who lives with my parents is worried about me and also being a toot to them. He has stated too many times lately that he thinks his Grandma would be happier with him dead. That is SCARY to hear a 12 year old say that. My Mom is suppose to call his psychologist tomorrow. She thinks he is saying it for attention. I know from experience that if you say it....you have thought of it!!!

Sorry for the pity party. Life SUCKS right now. Sure hope the astericks insert themself.

 

[helenabear]

Big {{{HUGS}}} to you Carol. First of all, I am 5' and I sure wish I weighed 135!!!! Don't let that get you down. Second, is there any reason why your son lives with your parents? (If you said before, I don't recall) Is it possible for him to live with you? Hang in there and cry if you need to {{hugs}}

 

[SuiteDisney]

(((hugs))), Sweetie. I'm sorry you have to go through all this.

 

[ltldeb]

Carol, I am so sorry you have to go through this. I also am 5' and weigh a tad over 135 lbs. There's nothing wrong with that. Please feel free to cry all you want. PM me if you would like to chat. {{{HUGS}}} to you.

 

[Cthia]

I am so sorry your SO has decided to end the relationship.

{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}.

You will meet someone who will appreciateand love you for who you are. Too bad he doesn't see that. They always think there is something better on the other side not realizing what they have in front of them.

 

[Pooh93]

{{HUGS}} I'm sorry life is so hard for you and your son right now. Things will get better. It might take awhile, but they will. Come here anytime you need to vent.

 

[CEDmom]

I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time. Please try to remember that it's what's inside the package that really matters not the outside wrapper. Take care of yourself.

 

[Saffron]

Sometimes things happen that seem so very painful at the moment, so hurtful, but in the end, turn out for the best. It doesn't matter what you look like, what your weight it like, it only matters who you are and where your heart is. Everyone who spends anytime on the CB knows where your heart is. You're a very loving person Carol, and you deserve someone who will return that love, ans someday, when you least expect it, you'll find him. Try not to be down on yourself. Hold your head up and realize that you are loved by many, not only in RL, but here on the DIS.

I hope your son is just needing attention. I'm glad your mother is on top of it.

 

[Serena]

Carol, {{{{{hugs}}}}}}

I wish I had some advice. My situation may be similar, but I'm just going day by day.

Like Saffron says, it doesn't matter how much you weigh or how pretty you think you aren't. That has nothing to do with it, trust me on that one.

 

[Mishetta]

I wish I could offer some words of comfort. I know this must be a very difficult time for you. I also know that things will get better & you will be a much stronger person for it too!

Many {{{Hugs}}} being sent your way.

 

[dandave]

I can't say anything that these folks haven't said. Hugs to you!

 

[browneyes]

How tall and how much does Jim weigh? He sounds like a putz.

I hope your ds's psychologist can help him soon. {{hugs}}

 

[Miss Jasmine]

{{{{HUGS}}} I'll be saying a prayer for you and your DS tonight. Is there any way you can go and visit him? Please think about it. I know it's not easy starting a new business but the two of you need each other right now.

And please don't get down on yourself. We all can find something we are not happy with ourselves about. Don't try to come up with an excuse for your SO's decision. It's time to take care of you.

 

[Planogirl]

Don't blame yourself for this situation. Just hang in there and take care of yourself first. And then see to your son. It will all work out given time.

{{{{Hugs}}}}

 

[JasonLyons]

Im sorry, I missed your other post about this, I hope your husband gets vd from a fat single girl, unless of coures you get back togeather, in that case he deserves another chance.



hang in there

 

[WDWLVR]

Carol,

Don't know what to say other than try and hang in there. I'm a firm believer in everthing happens for a reason - even though when it is happening it doesn't make much sense.

{{{HUGS}}} headed your way and here's hoping that a brighter, better future comes your way soon.

 

[Tiggeroo]

I'm so sorry. If at all possible you should leave, even if it means a one room apartment. But, from your post I gather you are on the deed. Technically then you own the home too. Also this is a long term relationship. You should possibly seek legal counsel. He may owe you some financial recompense for the house. Also, you may be considered a common-law wife. Oh, and don't take his crap. You should sit home and worry while he spends the night out? Don't think so. He should decide he is bored, but he gives you permission to remain in your home a little longer. Don't think so.
Sometimes I wonder again why I like men.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Carol, Trust me on this one...You're much better off without him! Things will only get better!!! As for your son. I don't know the circumstances of why he is with your parents but maybe his place should be with you. That said, I offer hugs to you. I know how scary change can be...I've been there. You will blossom!!!

TC

 

[Mishetta]

I think Tiggeroo has a point here. Maybe you should seek legal advice! You're probably in way better condition than you think. He probably knows that he'd owe you something otherwise why would he be offering for you to stay in the house until your business pans out! Hmmmm... something good is going to happen for you. Go see an attorney girl! I think all of them give you some free advice.

Good luck!

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

So many people have already expressed what I was thinking. You are a beautiful person, don't worry what is on the outside, just the inside, that is what truly matters. Please cry and cry and cry, it is good to get it out. Sending you many hugs and prayers.