Can I Come Back???

[TeresaNJ]

A few months ago I was all gung ho about losing weight, joined WISH, had good intentions, and then totally lost motivation. I started a new job, had a few other stressors going on, and just gave up. I really, really want to do this, but seem totally lost at times. I flip-flop back and forth between diets, WW one week, Atkins the next, a combo of both, it's like I'm schizophrenic! I don't have a lot to lose, but could definitely stand to lose about 15-20 lbs. I don't know what is wrong with me. I have no willpower at all. Every day I say "okay, today is the day". I do good all day and then blow it at night. My husband is a gourmet cooker and my mom, who practically lives with us, is forever making "special meals" and gets her feelings hurt if I don't eat what she makes. I was very embarrassed to come back here since I failed so miserably, but after reading about everyone's successes it gives me hope. Anyone else have dieting problems like mine?

 

[LuvTigger]

Of COURSE you can come back!

My feeling about weight loss is that it takes most people several tries before they achieve success, and you took a great first step by coming to WISH. I know what you mean about other people cooking, etc. I had a hard time with that in the beginning with people giving me food, taking me to lunch, or cooking for me etc.

Basically, I just had to put my foot down and be firm (nicely) by saying, "thank you so much, I really appreciate it. Unforunately, I'm not able to eat that particular food right now because I am on a weight management program, I really need to lose the weight. I hope you can respect my situation, and soon enough, I will be able to eat that again." You get the picture.

I decided that people need to respect my right to eat what I CHOOSE to eat. People close to you will love you no matter how much you weigh, and probably don't even view you as needing to lose weight, but maybe you could explain to them that you really need to lose the weight not only to look better, but also to feel better, and to be healthier in general, and PREVENT any medical conditions. If there are parts of what your mom eats that you can eat on whatever plan you choose, then just eat those things, and have something else prepared on the side. What I used to do w/ BF's dad, also a good cook, is to make my own salad, but maybe I'd eat his vegetables or the meat in his main dish? Better yet, maybe you can get everyone else to eat the way you want to eat!

In any case, choose a plan that works for you, explain this to everyone ahead of time, and ask for their support. Good luck, and please keep us posted. You can do this!!!

 

[Tiggerkeeper]

Nope, nope, nope you absolutely CANNOT feel embarrassed about slipping up! We all have our weak moments. Sounds like the temptations at your house are big! A hubby that cooks around here that would put him in line for sainthood!! LOL! I "played" around at dropping weight but about a month ago something clicked and it has been downhill ever since.

YOU CAN DO IT! Talk to your loved ones and get them involved maybe they can gourmet up some low carb or low point food for you!!

Good luck and hope to see you around!!

Melissa

 

[imgoingtodisney]

Of course you can come back
Stick with WISH and we'll help motivate you
Think of that vaca coming up soon - you can do it

 

[Rajah]

Of course you're still welcome here!! *hugs* Hmm... maybe some of the WISHers more familiar with the various dieting options can help you find a program that will allow at least small portions of the foods your DH and mom prepare?

Are you doing some kind of exercise as well?

 

[Beanie]

Welcome back!! We are glad you have made your way back to us once again!! You will always find support and encouragement here, so jump right in!!

 

[Harley Chick]

I was very embarrassed to come back here since I failed so miserably

You've only failed if you don't come back here. When I fall off my diet, I always tell people I was just practicing for next time.

 

[ohMom]

I have no willpower at all. Every day I say "okay, today is the day". I do good all day and then blow it at night.

Oh I was totally there with you! Somedays I still fight that and somedays I keep real busy and the day is over before I realize it!

Maybe you aren't getting enough through the day and by the time evening comes you are totally starving and lose your willpower??

As for what plan, I would think what's important to you? Whether or not you want a controlled eating plan or you choose what you eat within the limits? There are probably enough of us if you post what you need in a plan to work for you we could chime in and give suggestions to try? Or lurk about some of the various threads and/or journals and see which ones are doable for you?

If you're like me up until March, you want to do something NOW and lose the weight tomorrow and be done with it. I had to realize that I needed a lifestyle plan and change that I could do forever and hang in there with it, then the weight started coming off.

I've been on WW since March - I like it because I choose what I want to eat, but it helps me portion control and set limits for the day. If I don't "eat" all my points I can carry them through the week and splurge on a treat over the weekend or whenever. I'm a slow loser, but to be honest after realizing how much better I feel physically and mentally when I stay on plan that kicks me back in gear when I start slipping or take too many days off!

 

[nativetxn]

Hasn't anyone told you? Once a WISHer always a WISHer. So, you took a sabbatical, no big deal.

Finding an eating plan that works for you is most of the battle. Pick a plan and stick with it and you will succeed.

I'm so glad to see you here again. We miss you when you stay away from WISH, you know

You can do this, sweetie. Find your plan and we'll help supply the motivation.

Katholyn

 

[TeresaNJ]

You guys are so sweet. I appreciate all the good advice and I do think that the biggest problem I have is finding one plan and sticking to it. I did WW before and have all the literature, and also belong to WW online, but I seem to lose sooo slowly on that plan. I've tried Atkins and do seem to lose more quickly, but have an extremely hard time sticking to it because I am such a carb and salt addict. Sweets are not an issue for me, I rarely eat them. But put a bowl of pasta or a pizza or potatoe chips in front of me and watch out!!! Growing up in an Italian family makes it especially hard, as carbs are a big part of our life, pastas, breads, you get the picture. You're all right though, and I'm a big girl, and I have to be firm with every one. DH was a big sabatouger, not intentially though. He loooves to cook, and everything was sooo fattening, but delicious I have to admit. He could stand to lose a good 20-30 lbs too, and now that his pants are too tight, he's decided to join me in my weight loss venture. In fact, he went shopping today and bought lots of fruits and veggies, and is making fish tacos for dinner tonight, with home made salsa. So what do you think? Should I stick with WW points? I honestly don't think I can do Atkins. I've bought ALL the WATP tapes, (of course I've only done them twice since I'd had them the past five months, LOL), so I've decided that will be my exercise plan. I just have to figure out the best time to do it. I am NOT a morning person, so the thought of waking up at 5:30 to exercise before work I don't think will work for me. I'm thinking do it as soon as I get home from work. Since I started working full time in February I've just been a mess. I just can't seem to get organized to fit everything into my life. When I look at myself I think, "you look pretty darn good for 46, almost 47, why kill yourself?" But my clothes are tight and uncomfortable, and I don't want to buy a larger size. Plus I had a total hysterectomy a year ago, and I know I'm at risk for osteoporosis, so I have to exercise to keep my bone mass. I think if I visit here every day I will be able to do it just by all the motivation there is here. Thank you for welcoming me back and not making me feel foolish.