I know someone in a similar situation who has severely limited both his own and his wife's career growth. It's kind of sad but everyone has to make their own choices I guess.
It would still be inappropriate and they would likely put male teachers in that class?
I don't care if this is tame for Reddit. Or where it got reposted. The act of posting it on social media in the first place is a line I wouldn't cross. I'm 100% on the bride's side on this, but she loses some of my sympathy by putting it out there to become fodder for the rest of the world.
Hmmm, I have not observed that, but -- yes -- your point is valid.
Sorry for the confusion. Didn't mean to imply anything. I want to say directly that if a teenage boy were to touch and kiss his female teachers, the situation would be taken care of swiftly. Maybe even removed from the school.
If it is even real (I tend to think some of these stories are made up for shock value), I do have some sympathy for her. She was reaching out for reassurance and support. Her family doesn't deserve her respect or privacy.
Well said.
I am not an autistic expert, but I think the issue is due to the sister's mental capabilities she cannot be " taught" appropiate behavior. I am sure there is autism theraphy that helps in this, but its not like you are doing with a normal person asking them to change their behavior. I am with the Bride on this. It's HER day in the end and it seems like her sister will severly impact her day, not just for her but for the guests, husband too.
We'll have to agree to disagree on that. Reach out to people you actually know for reassurance and support, people who know the situation. Friends. No need to post it online for support from random strangers.
I was thinking something along these lines too. Not all cognitively disabled persons have the same abilities. Some are extremely limited in certain areas no matter how diligently and lovingly they have been taught/trained and parented.
It seems like some here just don't grasp that. Many have never known such an individual IRL and are apparently influenced by tv and movies portraying people with cognitive/neurological deficits as being intellectual savants who are all quirky but utterly charming. While this recognition has blessedly served to humanize a whole segment of people who historically were devalued, shunned or maybe even feared, that portrayal does not in any way tell the full story. Not at all.
Yes, of course - that is the bottom line of this particular situation. But the discussion has broadened - that's OK, right? Specifically here the sister (IMO) should be left with an alternate care-giver during the wedding and I personally would do so in a heartbeat. The posts stating her behavior is the way it is because of a lack of teaching/training though - those miss the mark.
Your students are very fortunate to have access to such high-quality interventions and supports. It's important work you're doing.
Personally there is a difference between recognizing limitations of someone's cognitive abilities and recognizing when that has gone beyond seeing a limitation and instead enabling with an "it is what it is" mentality. Purely going off the reddit post the parents have taken on the enabling and "it is what it is" mentality that everyone should just simply accept the touching and inappropriate behavior without complaints you just deal with it.
