Brand New Ex Wife NOT HAPPY!

[DawnCt1]

A friend of one of my son's recently divorced. He wanted to keep the marriage together and was heartbroken when his wife filed for divorce. Even though there were no children, it was contentious. She has to continue paying her part of the mortgage until the house sells. He gets to live in the oversized house that he built but he has to pay all of the other bills. It was a very equitable, right down the middle division of property. When the house sells, she will get her share. The divorce was final last month. Arrangements were made for her to drop by this past weekend to pick up some 'stuff' in the house. He borrowed a brand new Mercedes hardtop convertible from one of his friends for the 'occasion'. When she showed up and saw the car she was so angry that she screamed every word not fit to print. The neighbors were all outside. He said nothing, just smiled. She screamed that here she was "living with her parents and sister in a five room house and he is living in a big house and driving a Mercedes". His response? "My parents bring me food! " She drove away with both hands "saluting". He was heartbroken over the divorce but is getting over it.

 

[Mermaid02]

Thank God there were no children involved!

 

[sunnyday123]

wow, he doesn't sound bitter at all.

 

[MizTink]

sometimes it's the little things that make us happy.......!

 

[raysnkaysmom]

 

[yeartolate]

The both sound very mature.


Not.

 

[OK!]

Well, I thought it was funny! IMO, it's not really any different than making sure you look damn good when you know you're going to run into an ex, especially if you were not the one who wanted the relationship to end. I know it always made me feel a little better when I could tell the ex was wondering whether or not he'd made a mistake.

 

[MizTink]

ok so Free4Life11 must be a guy, right?
well, even if not i don't see what was so horrible.

 

[LindaR]

Wow. How immature. And you are proud of this.....why???

 

[SCHBR'smom]

I think its kinda funny

 

[Robinrs]

Wow, they sound like immature materialistic fools.

 

[mtomlin66]

Well, I thought it was funny! IMO, it's not really any different than making sure you look damn good when you know you're going to run into an ex, especially if you were not the one who wanted the relationship to end. I know it always made me feel a little better when I could tell the ex was wondering whether or not he'd made a mistake.

I totally agree. I haven't been in that situation, but can imagine that it was probably a matter of pride....reminding her that it was her choice and of what she left behind. I applaud his ingenuity

 

[DawnCt1]

The both sound very mature.


Not.

She certainly wasn't. He always was. He is one of those kids that was 'born mature'. He worked full time when he was in college, graduated on time. Went to grad school, worked full time then. Was his own contractor for his own house, which he built by the time he was 25,doing much of the finish work himself. I would say that this is the only "immature" thing he has ever done. Maybe that is why it strikes me so funny. It was totally out of character for him.

 

[DawnCt1]

Wow, they sound like immature materialistic fools.

Why? Its not his car. In fact, he didn't even mention the car. It was just sitting in the drive way.

 

[DawnCt1]

I totally agree. I haven't been in that situation, but can imagine that it was probably a matter of pride....reminding her that it was her choice and of what she left behind. I applaud his ingenuity

Exactly. The worst thing he said, was "My parents bring me food".

 

[disykat]

I totally agree. I haven't been in that situation, but can imagine that it was probably a matter of pride....reminding her that it was her choice and of what she left behind. I applaud his ingenuity

I agree. It seems a rather tame, harmless way to get a little dig in. Why not? I'm sure it helped him in his recovery to see her true colors shining through.

 

[micki7337]

If that's the worst thing he says or does to her then I she got off easy. I think it's pretty funny. I wish you had said he could pay her out of her share when he re-finances. It would just about kill me to do all that work and then lose it because of her.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

GOOD FOR HIM!!!!!!!

 

[kellydizfan]

He really didn't do anything wrong. It is actually funny. She just assumed it was his. It was her mistake to assume it was his. Good for him. It is a shame that he will be loosing the house he built because of her. I know a family to which the husband lost the house because of the xwife and it had been in the family for many years - it was his grandmothers & grandfathers house. She didn't deserve a penny of that house. She was not worthy of it. It has been up for sale twice since the x-wife made him sell for her half.

 

[goofyernmost]

So few divorces can be perfectly civil no matter how good one's intentions are. My X and I tried to settle everything amicably and for the most part we did. There are always little things that creep up that cause problems.

In my case, my wife left after 29 years, just up and left. No real explanation, just a note saying "I have left". During the course of the process I discovered that she thought that she had been the breadwinner and money provider throughout our marriage. I couldn't understand how she could have felt that because except for a couple of months within that 29 year span, I was always working full time. She stayed at home with the kids for a number of years...I guess she felt that there was a money tree out back that was supporting us.

Anyway, that was a hurtful thing to me. It was insulting and, above all, it was in error. She is now broke...living in section 8 housing, nursing a 14 year old car...she took with her from the marriage...and just barely getting by. I have a comfortable home, a nice car, a steady income, I travel and every chance I get, immature or not, I flaunt it. I know it's mean but it was mean when the shoe was on the other foot as well. I think it is natural to try and show that the world still goes on after divorce. We don't know the history of that relationship, but the reaction of the woman kind of says it all.

As the old song says..."Thank god and Greyhound she's gone!"