Baby Name Question

[ronandannette]

We do call her by her given name. We love it and get a lot of compliments on it. We do call her by the diminutive form of her name, as well, and all of my extended family calls her by the diminutive primarily. In fact, I can't really think of anyone but DH and I that regularly call her by her given name. We didn't intend on her being called by the diminutive, but it's kind of what stuck. My SIL and brother both call her by the diminutive as well n

Here's a thought...when baby "Gwen" comes along it's likely people will get in the habit of calling your DD by "Gwendolyn" in order to distinguish them from one another and you love that name, right? Sounds like a win...

 

[quandrea]

I wouldn't expect a sibling to pass on marrying someone with he "wrong" first name. But I do find it odd that a sibling would purposely use the same name as my child.

OP, I would hold my ground if she later comes up with a plan to have you use the full version of your DD's given name "just to make things less complicated....... If she uses the name she will be the one responsible for the complication, so let her find her own way to solve it.

I agree with this. I think it's a pretty passive aggressive act on SIL's part. Again, she will look bad in this situation, as SIL looked bad in mine. As a pp said, "Sheesh. Find your own name." Ahh the joys of extended family.

 

[mom2rtk]

I am glad my husband married ME- even tho I had the same name as his MOM-LOL

But I'm guessing that if you were choosing a name, you would have not chosen the same one as his mom.

 

[jrmasm]

I agree with this. I think it's a pretty passive aggressive act on SIL's part. Again, she will look bad in this situation, as SIL looked bad in mine. As a pp said, "Sheesh. Find your own name." Ahh the joys of extended family.

No, passive/aggressive would be if the OP's sil talked the OP out of using the name and then used it for her own child at a later date.

Find your own name? No one owns a name. That's ridiculous.

 

[quandrea]

No, passive/aggressive would be if the OP's sil talked the OP out of using the name and then used it for her own child at a later date.

Find your own name? No one owns a name. That's ridiculous.

I didn't say find your own name, a previous poster did. I do however think it's silly that a sister in law and brother cannot manage to find a name that is unique in the family. While no one owns a name, obviously, what I find ridiculous is that SIL and brother bring about needless confusion by selecting thing the same name as the OP's daughter. And I stand by my original statement that those actions are passive aggressive.

 

[TAX GUY]

It was asked, but never answered..... what IS the oh so unique and coveted name?

Is your name Beyoncé and your husband Jay-Z? Or maybe Kim K and Kanye?


For what its worth, I'm a junior so I share the same name as my father. We also share the same name with LOTS of cousins and uncle's too.

OP, you mention you have a small family of about 12 and have only shared 1 name thus far. Does SIL come from a big family or one that has shared names and thinks its not a big deal?

 

[jrmasm]

I didn't say find your own name, a previous poster did. I do however think it's silly that a sister in law and brother cannot manage to find a name that is unique in the family. While no one owns a name, obviously, what I find ridiculous is that SIL and brother bring about needless confusion by selecting thing the same name as the OP's daughter. And I stand by my original statement that those actions are passive aggressive.

You agreed with 'find your own name' in your post.

As several posters have said, this situation exists in their families and it's no big deal if cousins have the same name. It's not uncommon. And not passive/aggressive.

 

[Gracie09]

eh who cares. My family has 6 Pauls and 3 Christines. We manage just fine when we are altogether. Its just the way it is. You don't own a name.