shep, I'm so glad you asked this question. I've been wondering the same thing. It's really hard to stop, but I don't think I need to continue when they're adults (unless were we exchanging gifts; it shouldn't be one-way any more). Besides, I never get a thank you at all (I send them money - they live far away). Darn, I should have stopped at 18, but it's too late now! minnie, I was thinking the same as you - until they get out of college (sure hope they don't become professional students!) Here's my problem: one is three years older than the other. Do I really stop giving to one while I'm still giving to the other? Or keep it up until they're both out of school. Another complication is that I think my sister may continue giving to them. If I stop I'll be the bad aunt! Oh well.