With all the normal stress of the holidays. This year DH's family is torn in about 5000 ways. His Mom & Dad divorced this summer, last christmas they were seperated, but the divorce made it "final"....had to add...NOBODY saw this coming..DH bought a house 20 minutes away, left for work, sent DMIL a FAX stating he was moving out etc.....was very hard, as the 3 of the boys and DMIL DFIL owned a family business......
DD's are still asking questions, that DH and i are unable to answer.. DH's family is Italian, and was once a VERY close family. We did everything together, had picnics every weekend at in-laws house, at the pool etc...
DD6 has been questioning it the most. She has asked "where is papa going for christmas".."wont he be lonely" "why doesnt he want to be with us?"...etc... DH and I have tried to answer as best we can without a lot of detail....it's causing problems with her in school, and at home, because she is really stressing over this whole holiday/family thing...she's crying at the drop of a hat...
DFIL calls today, and invites himself over for dinner on Tuesday. I say "DH is doing inventory at the store this week, he's probably going to be fairly late Tuesday...." So he says "Okay 5pm okay with you?"...*** ????
DBIL and his wife- er...ex wife...er...I dunno what to call her...are also seperated, they are doing the 7 day with mom 7 day with dad deal with their kids....their kids are just as screwed up as the rest of the grandkids, and even more so now. DBIL and his wife seperated 1 week to the day after In-Laws...uugghh...
DSIL has decided she is cooking christmas day....no big deal, except for the fact that all of us go to DMIL's on christmas day..have done so every year...Not normally a big deal to miss it, but with the screwed up year, and the kids fearing that everyone is going to abandon them, wouldnt you think you'd want them to be with the family?
DSIL is angry because she doesnt feel "welcome" at DMIL's house as she use to....well, what do you want DMIL to do? You threw out her son, he pays all your bills, he pays you childsupport on top of those bills, he has the kids normally 21 out of 30 days in a month, and all you can do is complain because you have no money? ummm, GET A JOB????? GEEZZZ if only.
okay Rant off...sorry!
Brandy
DD's are still asking questions, that DH and i are unable to answer.. DH's family is Italian, and was once a VERY close family. We did everything together, had picnics every weekend at in-laws house, at the pool etc...
DD6 has been questioning it the most. She has asked "where is papa going for christmas".."wont he be lonely" "why doesnt he want to be with us?"...etc... DH and I have tried to answer as best we can without a lot of detail....it's causing problems with her in school, and at home, because she is really stressing over this whole holiday/family thing...she's crying at the drop of a hat...
DFIL calls today, and invites himself over for dinner on Tuesday. I say "DH is doing inventory at the store this week, he's probably going to be fairly late Tuesday...." So he says "Okay 5pm okay with you?"...*** ????
DBIL and his wife- er...ex wife...er...I dunno what to call her...are also seperated, they are doing the 7 day with mom 7 day with dad deal with their kids....their kids are just as screwed up as the rest of the grandkids, and even more so now. DBIL and his wife seperated 1 week to the day after In-Laws...uugghh...
DSIL has decided she is cooking christmas day....no big deal, except for the fact that all of us go to DMIL's on christmas day..have done so every year...Not normally a big deal to miss it, but with the screwed up year, and the kids fearing that everyone is going to abandon them, wouldnt you think you'd want them to be with the family?
DSIL is angry because she doesnt feel "welcome" at DMIL's house as she use to....well, what do you want DMIL to do? You threw out her son, he pays all your bills, he pays you childsupport on top of those bills, he has the kids normally 21 out of 30 days in a month, and all you can do is complain because you have no money? ummm, GET A JOB????? GEEZZZ if only.
okay Rant off...sorry!
Brandy
With everything going on in your family, it's hard enough for an adult to comprehend everything, so I can't imagine what the kids are thinking. Just hope everything works out for this x-mas!
