Are you the type to hold grudges?

[Disneyland1084]

Or do you let it go if someone sincerely apologizes to you? I don't hold grudges, but I often have trouble "forgetting." I know it's not good, but it's a problem I've always had.

 

[lulugirl]

A sincere apology goes a long way w/ me. Life is too short to hold a grudge IMO.

 

[noodleknitter]

I don't hold grudges, but I use to. It was a sad way to live. I think that most people have issues with forgetting about being hurt by someone, though.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

Depends on the situation. I try not to, but I'm a sensitive person. Once something is said, you can apologize, but I still know you said it. And I have a good memory.

 

[ducklite]

It depends on what the situation is/was.

I have a few people who have apologized to me over a situation, *probably* sincerely, but I continue to not speak to them. Anyone who could do what they did, apology or not, is not a person I never want to be around again. Period.

My business partner is going to apologize to me today, whether he knows it or not. He did something yesterday that pissed me off. I'm sure he didn't mean for it to come out like it did, but it was inconsiderate and he'll apologize. Or I"ll make his life hell until he does.

Anne

 

[Jeanny]

oh yeah I do!! I can remember even the little things that have hurt me!!! That's one of the reasons I've "stepped" away from my brothers and don't bother with them any more. I'm a better person for it now.

 

[Stitchfans]

Afraid, I am a person who holds grudges. If I don't have closure, then yes, I can hold a grudge forever. Often you find people who will not say sorry and continue on like nothing has happened.

 

[JoyG]

Or do you let it go if someone sincerely apologizes to you? I don't hold grudges, but I often have trouble "forgetting." I know it's not good, but it's a problem I've always had.

That is by far my biggest personality flaw. I am a grudge holder...and it goes against everything I believe in...I truly want to forgive people, but I do struggle with the forgetting part.

I've had a few really big hurts in my life from people close to me (who hasn't?), and whenever either of these people do something else that they need forgiving for, it is such a huge temptation to tie it in with the other things they did.

I don't want to be a grudge holder, I'm still working on it, but I'm not where I want to be yet.

 

[Luv'sTink]

Depends on what the grudge is for. Usually I forgive and forget but there are two times I can't. I am not really angry over them I just don't trust those people any longer.

 

[jodifla]

Oh, yes, I hold grudges. Not against anything little, but on the big stuff, you bet.

 

[dcentity2000]

I wish I didn't, but I do



Rich::

 

[mommaU4]

Depends on what the grudge is for. Usually I forgive and forget but there are two times I can't. I am not really angry over them I just don't trust those people any longer.

Totally off topic here, but I saw your ticker says you are taking your first trip to WDW in 5 days and I just wanted to say I hope you have a great time!!! And I am so jealous.

Okay as for grudges, I try not to. I know it's in a person's best interest to forgive and forget, but sometimes that's easier said then done.

 

[Disney Doll]

For small insults or arguments, I wouldn't hold a grudge.

But for something big, I would hold a grudge. It's a bad trait, and not one I am proud of.

 

[PirateKitty]

Unfortunately I do. But I don't let it consume my everyday life. Depending on the situation, I'll give a second chance for someone to redeem themselves, but I have yet to see success in that area.

 

[KikiFan]

I don't, only because I work really really hard at it. I truly believe that holding a grudge against someone, only hurts me. So everyday I take time to clear out grudges and petty ( or not so petty) gripes. But it's really not easy for me. My natural inclination is to hold on to them for dear life. Not something I'm proud of..

 

[tiggersmom2]

For small things or things that happen on the internet.....nah, I never hold grudges. For large things or family members that do very, very hurtful vindictive things....yeah - those grudges are there till the day I die.

I think of it as a "protective mechanism", they will never get the chance to hurt me again.

 

[letterdavidman]

I don't, only because I work really really hard at it. I truly believe that holding a grudge against someone, only hurts me.

Very well said, KikiFan!

I know it's very hard to let go of a grudge, because it feels like, if we do, we're being weak or taken advantage of. But the truth of it is, when we stay mad at a person, or we have feelings along the lines of "I can't freaking stand that person, they drive me crazy--AARRGH!", that person holds a quite considerable amount of power over us.

Best to remember: the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference.

 

[mommy*RN]

I think I'm like the OP. I try not to hold grudges, but I find that I don't forget bad things too easily. I used to hold grudges, but after my mom died I saw how short life is and learned not to sweat the small stuff. I also find that getting things off my chest helps A LOT! I have a pretty good relationship with my dad and have many a meaningful conversation with him about things that are bothering me whereas in the past I would have just held it against him and let it boil inside me. I hope as more times passes and the older I get I can start not letting things bother me too much...

 

[markandtrish]

I can forgive, but I dont forget. I would like to forget, but it just doesnt work out that way.

 

[summerrluvv]

Depends on the situation. I try not to, but I'm a sensitive person. Once something is said, you can apologize, but I still know you said it. And I have a good memory.

Exactly how I feel!