Are people from Seattle really this snobby?? (longgg)

[KarenAylwood]

Ok now I'm from Upstate NY born and raised. I was an only child, maybe I could have been considered spoiled: I love shopping, clothes, Disney, etc. However I've had values instilled in me that involve being relatively thrifty, and also being kind to others. I also went to a summer camp w/ people from all over the world (some very rich) and I had friends from all over and appreciated their differences. It's not like a grew up on a farm and don't know how to deal with "city folk".

I went to school in VA and decided to live here permanently. My DBF of 3 years has a best friend in his med school who has a GF who just moved out here for him. We'll call her GF. They are both from Seattle and my DBF's friend is one of the nicest guys ever. So his GF is very anti living here. Has never given it a chance but hates it outright and refuses to try to adapt. She moved in January and STILL hasnt' gotten a job- is living off of daddy's money and borrowing money from her BF (about $1200 from him alone is the total we're at now). But despite not having an income, she has no qualms about buying $700 exercise equipment or $200 jeans. Even made her BF move to a new apt when she got here because she didn't like the old one (he had also done two weeks of work on it to make it nicer for her).

She has been here for three months- still talks trash about the city (I LOVE living here) and talks about how Seattle is so much better. Last night was her bday and she really TOOK THE CAKE this time. It was an entire night of "snobbery."

Said there's no good restaurants in the area, nothing to do, no good shopping, etc. I grew up with Friendly's, sleepover parties and shopping at Macy's or JC Penney's. She complained about how our Nordstrom (which we don't even HAVE anything LIKE in NY!) has crappy customer service, etc when she felt like she was recently treated bad there (wanted to get something altered and didn't even have a receipt proving that she had bought it there! I worked retail! Those are the rules you idiot!). She reamed out corporate for it.

She outright said she's a "snob" and that people from Seattle are known for being "fake nice" (I'd love to hear what this B has to say behind my back!). I told her that I had never even heard of Trader Joes or Nordstrom before I moved to VA and she was like "oh so you're telling me I'm lucky?" I said "definitely- things could be much worse for you."

My DBF grew up in this area and she knows that and she still takes every opportunity to talk down about it. If I hear another comment about Seattle I'm going to LOSE IT. I mean I've met snobs before- but this girl is over the top. And I've got 3+ more years of this crap to deal with because I know how important her BF is to my DBF. What am I going to do???

She says that's just how people are in Seattle. Is this really true???

(and thanks if you read this whole thing )

 

[princess pooh]

I've met a lot of people from Seattle and they all seemed very nice. She probably resents having to move to a city that she doesn't like very much. GF may be a snob but that doesn't mean that everyone in Seattle is just like her.

 

[beckmrk04]

SOunds like she's trying to rationalize her "I'm better than you" behaviour by insisting that all people in Seattle are like that, which is total BS, I'm sure, because ALL people ANYWHERE are not all alike. Maybe all the people she knows are snotty and elitist, but that doesn't mean all people from Seattle are.

ETA- I would HAVE to cut her off at some point and say, very sweetly, of course, "If it's sooo terrible here, why don't you just go back to SEATTLE?"

 

[Wishing on a star]

I do think that there is such a thing as regional snobbery...

When some of my DH's family moved down here from up north, I can remember spending the whole Holiday eating terrible, northern cooked food... (His aunt had just completely ruined a wonderful Virginia Baked Ham by boiling it!!!!) and listening to them completely trash this area.

Talking about having to bite my tongue!!

 

[ilovepcot]

Believe it or not, this girl is insecure in some way.

 

[salmoneous]

I've met so many great people from Seattle, and almost nobody who acted snobby. However, I have noticed that the people from Seattle really, really think Seattle is the best city in the world. Best.Food.Anywhere. Best.Music.Anywhere. And, of course, Best.Coffee.Anywhere.

Nothing wrong with thinking your city is great, especially when done as pro-Seattle, rather than anti-other places. Heck, city pride is probably a good thing. And yet, there is anyways somebody who takes it too far. Here is one of my all time favorite quotes - and I am not making this up:

Other than the fact that it rains every day 9 months out of the year Seattle has the best weather of any city.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I do think that there is such a thing as regional snobbery...

I agree 100%.

 

[AdventurerKat]

She says that's just how people are in Seattle. Is this really true???

(and thanks if you read this whole thing )

Yes. That's how we all really are.

It sounds like GF might be having troubles adjusting to a new town (been there, done that) and doesn't know how to articulate them very well. But more likely, it sounds like GF might just be a word I can't say here.

Being from Seattle, I can tell you I have never heard ANYONE say that people from Seattle are known for being "fake nice".

Next time GF starts to complain about your city, just tell her to shut up and go back to Seattle if she hates it so much. Otherwise, you'd appreciate it if she'd quit trashing your town.

 

[olena]

I think she sounds like a Seattle + money snob.

My cousin, who's from Alabama, married and moved to that area to work for Microsoft. He said the snobbery was terrible. When his marriage failed, he had a garage sale to sell off things as he planned to move back to Montgomery. Everyone was stunned at why he would "do such a thing".

I don't know. I guess maybe we are all hometown snobs in our ways, but getting out in the world and experiencing other places and ways of life is what makes one worldly. I did grad school in Conecticut and encountered my fair share of genuine folks and also genuine snobs who didn't know what to make of a Georgia Girl. I just held my head high and tried to be a walking advertisement for what I loved about being Southern, a friendly nature and good manners.

 

[KarenAylwood]

Yes. That's how we all really are.

It sounds like GF might be having troubles adjusting to a new town (been there, done that) and doesn't know how to articulate them very well. But more likely, it sounds like GF might just be a word I can't say here.

Being from Seattle, I can tell you I have never heard ANYONE say that people from Seattle are known for being "fake nice".

Next time GF starts to complain about your city, just tell her to shut up and go back to Seattle if she hates it so much. Otherwise, you'd appreciate it if she'd quit trashing your town.

Well, obviously not all people from a city are all exactly the same!

It was more of the "people from Seattle are snobs" and "studies have been done that they are fake nice" that irked me. I had never heard this of people from Seattle. I also didn't mention that her brother and his GF were there too visiting. Bro didn't say a word all night, bro's GF was all about the "yeah, this is how people from Seattle are" too. I think last night it was even worse than usual because they were feeding off of eachother. I definitely know they aren't all like that because I know that her BF is the nicest guy ever and there's another girl from there who I like too. Seeing GF and her brother's GF together just really got to me and both of them blaming it on "this is how Seattle people are". It was a little much.

I would love to say something to her and I have no problem with calling people out when they are being unreasonable, but I know how important it is to DBF that we all hang out and at least get along on the surface. He's much more easy going than I am and lets things like this roll off his back (well, last night he even had a little trouble and had to excuse himself twice). I'm not as much like that.

*sigh* I guess thanks for listening to me vent and reinforcing the probable fact that this girl is just a rich snob/you-know-what and it has little to do with her being from Seattle.

I really hope she moves back as much as that would kill her BF. Although two of MY close friends move to THIS GREAT CITY this summer , so I'll have more outlets than just hanging out w/ DBF's friends- I think that may help ease some of the tension.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Next time GF starts to complain about your city, just tell her to shut up and go back to Seattle if she hates it so much. Otherwise, you'd appreciate it if she'd quit trashing your town.

See this would be tempting to me.

My two best friends (my cousins, they are sisters) have traveled a lot to England the past couple of years. You can't hardly have a conversation with them with them ga-ga-ing about England and how better of a place it is than the USA. It gets old. One day I finally said, nicely, "Why don't you just move over there since you love it so much?" Their response, "Oh we'd love to!!"

 

[binny]

no it isnt how all people from Seattle are.

there are snobs anywhere, even in a trashy area. There will always be someone who thinks they are better than the rest of the population.



Ive never seen or heard of a study that says people in Seattle are "fake nice". Ive lived all over the US and Canada including several years in Seattle and I would never think that people in Seattle were snobby as a general rule. Its a friendly city, really. Yes they do have people who are nasty and snobby and think the world revolves around them but no more than any other place Ive ever lived.



The girl has issues. I agree tell her if she misses it so much she should move back. But the truth is she'd be as big of a PITA there as she is where you live! And people wouldnt like her in Seattle any more than you do.

 

[AdventurerKat]

Well, obviously not all people from a city are all exactly the same!

It was more of the "people from Seattle are snobs" and "studies have been done that they are fake nice" that irked me.

Well, she's not pulling off the fake nice part very well. If she was, she wouldn't be slamming your city. (not to your face anyway...)

 

[cardaway]

However, I have noticed that the people from Seattle really, really think Seattle is the best city in the world.

Here is one of my all time favorite quotes - and I am not making this up:

Other than the fact that it rains every day 9 months out of the year Seattle has the best weather of any city.

Yes we do because it's true.

BTW: Anybody who complains about the rain is a fool. It's the only reason this region is so lush and colorful vs. dryer places.

 

[pearlieq]

Yes, every single man, woman, and child in the greater Seattle-Tacoma metro area is a huge honkin' snob.

That must be the answer. It couldn't possibly be that this girl is a twit.

 

[MsLeFever]

(His aunt had just completely ruined a wonderful Virginia Baked Ham by boiling it!!!!) QUOTE]


YUCK!!!!

 

[Disney Doll]

My questions is when is your DBF's friend gonna grow a set and tell this broad where to get off?

Sounds like she's an a#1 PIA. Tell him I said "lose her".

BTW, everyone from Seattle is not a snob. I have an aunt from Seattle who's very nice.

 

[RUDisney]

My questions is when is your DBF's friend gonna grow a set and tell this broad where to get off?

Sounds like she's an a#1 PIA. Tell him I said "lose her".

BTW, everyone from Seattle is not a snob. I have an aunt from Seattle who's very nice.

Wow! This is basically what I was going to type before I got to page 2.

She sounds a lot like my exSIL. She moved to RI with my BIL after they were married and 6 months later didn't have a job, had spent all of their money and put them into debt. When he told her to get a job so they could keep supporting that type of lifestyle, she moved home to mommy and daddy.

She really never gave RI a chance. The entire time she was there, she bad-mounthed the place, the people, just everything. Basically, she wanted him to find a job back in PA so she could be closer to her family. When he wouldn't... because there weren't many good jobs around here in his profession, she left him.

He's SO much better off without her. Your friend sounds like he'd be better off without GF, too.

 

[Dakota_Lynn]

Yes we do because it's true.

BTW: Anybody who complains about the rain is a fool. It's the only reason this region is so lush and colorful vs. dryer places.

I agree. Besides, we DO have three wonderful, sunny months in the summer!

As far as Seattle being full of snobs...that is just nuts!

 

[Shugardrawers]

I was born in Seattle and lived many years there. I still have a lot of family there. In her defense, she's right. Seattle is a beautiful place with a lot to brag about. I think she's homesick. Nothing is ever quite as good as it is "back home". I moved first to MS and then to Newport News ( hey neighbor) and it's taken a lot of getting used to.

Which isn't to say I agree with her. I'm pretty sure I'm not "fake nice" and fairly certain my family are genuinely good people. Sounds to me like she's a spoiled daddy's girl who's out of her element and very uncomfortable there. If your friend doesn't get the matter in hand soon he's in for a loooong miserable time. It's time for her to make an effort or go home and I agree, it's time for her BF to grow a pair.