Anyone Else's In-Laws send them less gift $$ than than your spouse?

[ekatiel]

Just wondering if I'm the only one! I've been married for 9 years now, so it's really just kind of amusing to me, but my in-laws always send me less $$ for my birthday than my hubby. DH's birthday is a only a month before mine, so it's not like we don't notice. The kicker is my parents give us both the same amount. I joked to DH today that I should tell my parents to start cutting $5 off of each of his checks . Just wondering if anyone else has in-laws that send you less gift $$ than your spouse. OH, and BTW-- I am grateful for the $$-- just wanted to start a fun thread, so no need for negative Nellies to post! --Katie

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

My parents have never given DH a gift except when I had a b-day party for him. I have never received a gift from my MIL. The only parent that gives equal gifts is my FIL. I think it is nice that they think of you. They give your DH more because he's their son.

 

[Mickey1Fan]

I give my DS and DDIL the same amount or spend the same amount on each of them for birthdays and Christmas. I don't know what DDILs parents do. Never really thought about it.

 

[canopynut66]

Just wondering if I'm the only one! I've been married for 9 years now, so it's really just kind of amusing to me, but my in-laws always send me less $$ for my birthday than my hubby. DH's birthday is a only a month before mine, so it's not like we don't notice. The kicker is my parents give us both the same amount. I joked to DH today that I should tell my parents to start cutting $5 off of each of his checks . Just wondering if anyone else has in-laws that send you less gift $$ than your spouse. OH, and BTW-- I am grateful for the $$-- just wanted to start a fun thread, so no need for negative Nellies to post! --Katie

If is DH parents is up to him to correct this situation and if was your parents be yours to correct or just take it as it is Now my ex MIL never sent me anything for birthdays or xmas and I did say ex MIL

 

[starwood]

My MIL always gives me less than DH and DS. My mother on the other hand always gives everyone the same amount. It is interesting to note that MIL has much more money than my mother.

 

[punkin]

My ILs never give gifts to either one of us. My DDs, however, are spoiled rotten. This year DD18 got an early gift from MIL - a pearl necklace. Both girls also got some new earrings just because. I fully expect DDs will get money when their actual birthdays roll around.

 

[scrapquitler]

We generally don't get gifts for our birthdays from either of our parents. I wouldn't expect to get a $$ gift from any parent or in law. Once in a while my Mom will give us gifts if she sees something that she thinks we would love, but I wouldn't ever expect a cash gift.

 

[AmandaRG]

We usually don't get anything. Our girls receive very little, either while the other grandchildren regularly receive items. It is just the way it is (will be married 20 years on Wednesday!). We just avoid most situations because I don't want our children to feel that it is because of them. It is the choices that DH and I have made that have us here, not our girls!

 

[bdcp]

Sometimes, but the really funny thing is my IL's give me more money for my birthday than my parents do. All are retired, and my parents actually have more income, but my mom has always been tight.

 

[Disneybuckeye]

It is the opposite here as my MIL gives both DH and I $20 on our birthdays. My parents also give my DH $20 for his birthday but give me anywhere from $1000 - $5000. All the Grandkids get the same; $20 in cash and $100 put in their mutual funds that my parents have set up for them. My MIL has no money and my parents have plenty, but ever since my sister got divorced my dad wants his money to only go to "blood" relatives. Keep in mind DH and I will be married 24 years this fall and we share all of our money, so it really is a moot point.

 

[DIS_MERI]

I don't remember if my (now ex) ILs gave the same or not, but I do remember that they stopped giving me gifts 2 year before we split up....and that my parents always gave us the same and even continued giving him birthday and christmas gifts after I had filed for divorce (they did stop when it was finalized).

 

[runwad]

Well my inlaws always gave us our ages in cash and since DH is 3 years older then me he always got $3 more

 

[LoveBWVVBR]

No, but my own mother thought that it would be funny to send my DH more than she sent me, LOL!! Our birthdays aren't even a month apart, so obviously I'd notice DH always jokes that my parents like him better, so I guess that my mom wanted to confirm that

 

[ekatiel]

It is the opposite here as my MIL gives both DH and I $20 on our birthdays. My parents also give my DH $20 for his birthday but give me anywhere from $1000 - $5000. All the Grandkids get the same; $20 in cash and $100 put in their mutual funds that my parents have set up for them. My MIL has no money and my parents have plenty, but ever since my sister got divorced my dad wants his money to only go to "blood" relatives. Keep in mind DH and I will be married 24 years this fall and we share all of our money, so it really is a moot point.

Wow! That's a difference!!! It's nice of you to share with your DH . My ILs only send me $5 less than DH (DH gets $25 and I get $20). The same thing happens at Christmas. I've learned to just laugh it off. DH has offered to say something, but to me, it's just not worth stirring the pot. I can come on here and vent every once in a while and be fine !! Glad to know I'm not the only one who gets less ! --Katie

 

[mrsstats]

We have been married for 42 years. My inlaws give us both the same $$ amount and it has not changed in the 42 years we have been married. We give them the same back. Same at Christmas. All seems silly to me.

My parents are gone but my mother never gave money, it was always a gift.

 

[ekatiel]

No, but my own mother thought that it would be funny to send my DH more than she sent me, LOL!! Our birthdays aren't even a month apart, so obviously I'd notice DH always jokes that my parents like him better, so I guess that my mom wanted to confirm that

Now that's hilarious!!! I might do that for my daughter in-laws once my sons grow up!! Of course, their only 5 and 7 right now, so I've got a while to go!! --Katie

 

[RooRach0906]

Sound like my family! My parents keep all the birthday gifts the same amount but Christmas she spends a lil more on her daughters (I only have sisters) but it isnt a lot different like ($20 more at christmas then the SIL). My Inlaws however always spend a good bit more on DH at his birthday and christmas, its quite noticably on my end.

 

[torinsmom]

When I was married, my mom sent my ex the same as she sent me. I know she does the same for my BIL as well. When her MIL was alive, she sent $$$ to my dad and gave my mom DISHTOWELS every year! My mom said she will never do that to her kids' spouses. At Christmas, my dad gives each of his children and their spouses(if applicable) $500. It is understood that it is for the family.

 

[CdnCarrie]

Yup. And think that's normal. I''m not their child. Plus I get way more from Mom my then my DH gets from either my mom or his parents.

 

[npcougar]

My wife always got more but I never expected anything from my MIL. I'm surprised that people expect the same.