Anyone else NOT spend Thanksgiving with spouse?

[disneycrazed139]

My spouse wants to go to his father's and then his friend's house. I need to go to my grandparent's house because one of them is facing his own mortality right now.

Anyone else spend Thanksgiving apart from their spouse? Just how weird do you think this is? Anyone else face similar situations at the holidays?

 

[KimRaye]

As of this moment, I have no clue what dh is doing tomorrow. His mother called him and he told her he doesn't know yet what he's doing. I asked him later and, he told me the same thing. Me? I'm going to my parents with or without him, with the kids. It may only be Thanksgiving but, BAH HUMBUG on dh!!

Sorry about your grandparent.

Enjoy your time, no matter who you're with, or without.

 

[HauntedMansionGeek]

The holidays are so stressful for some people that they choose not to celebrate or recognize the event in the traditional manner. I don't see that as a problem at all unless YOU see it as one.

Being where you feel you're needed, each at different locations is just fine I think.

Enjoy Thanksgiving but enjoy the rest of the days of the year as well. TG is only ONE day out of many to be together.

Best wishes on your holiday however or wherever you spend it.

 

[goodstarr]

When my hubby and I first lived together, my mom decided to do Thanksgiving dinner one year. Once my hubby's mom found out, she decided to as well (even though she had never done it before). I know she was doing it to cause a riff in our relationship, so I didn't take the bait. As the previous writer wrote, there are so many other days to be together. why be stressed about one. I calmly mentioned to him to go to his mom's and I'd go to my family's and I'll see him at home. That's what we did, until I saw him driving up to my mom's house a few hours later-had left early to be with me anyway

 

[powellrj]

when we were first married I think that many people didn't believe that I had a dh. He was a grocery store manager and I was a nursery school teacher so he worked all the holidays and most weekends where I had those days off. I would take off with my family and he would stay home and work. I use to really bug me that I had to go without him, but after 25 years I am use to it. Now the kids and I just take off without him. If he can join us great, if not we just go with out him. I really hate it and resent it, but you just go on, you can't sit around and stew about it or it makes everyone crazy.

 

[Beast fan]

DW is taking DS3 to the Lions-Packers football game today! I, on the other hand, am taking DS5 to my parents for Thanksgiving Day dinner. (DW and DS3 will only miss dinner by about 90 minutes.) DW likes football and DS3 absolutely LOVES football, and we only have 2 season tickets so.......why not?

Dave

 

[wdwnutze]

I was originally suppose to leave for WDW on the 25th with the kids so my husband made arrangements to cook dinner for some friends at the club. My plans changed so that we are leaving tonight but my dh's plans can't change since people are counting on him. He left about 1/2hr ago and we won't see him til we get back from vaca.

 

[BedKnobbery2]

My now EX-husband usually left for a hunting trip on Thanksgiving. Those holidays when he decided to stay for the meal and then leave were miserable because he was constantly hounding his mom or mine to get dinner on the table so he could leave.

 

[Dopey Sharon]

My DH left early this morning to work in Maryland until Saturday night. He has had to work in the past, and our kids are older, so it's really no big deal to us. We had our big dinner Sunday. Besides...his pay check will be really nice next week! and we leave Sunday morning for WDW!!!

 

[Serena]

Don't stress over the day. Enjoy your families, whether every single one of them can be there or not.


My MIL invited me to dinner at her sister's home. She did it in the car when I couldn't think of a good reason why not. I didn't know if my h would be there or not. They've been inviting me to family gatherings and not him.
I found out yesterday that he will be.

 

[amid chaos]

My husband will work today and feed 1100 thanksgiving dinners.

 

[sap1227]

DH is a firefighter and is working today (he gets off tomorrow at 8 AM), so DS and I are on our own. We are going to DH family first and then we will go to my family. This year was a bad year for holidays. He worked or works:
New Years Day
Easter
Halloween
Thanksgiving
Christmas Eve
His Birthday
DS's Birthday
and my Birthday

It comes with the job,
Christy

 

[Fire14]

A lot of us accept working Holidays go with the job we choose. I personally knew that becoming a nurse meant working holidays. My family and I had come to a nice solution years ago. Since I usually work Christmas out of kindness of my heart so other nurses with young kids can be home and my now DH couldn't get off work to drive up to my parents house we all decided to celebrate Christmas between Christmas and New Years usually around 28th. This way I get Holiday pay, DH doesn't feel gulity, rest of family can celebrate with other sides family if they choose.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Geeez! If someone in my family was facing their own mortality, I would expect my husband to be there with me. That's just me.

 

[LadyAurora]

My husband had to go to court in IL yesterday, to decide visitation issues. So he stayed there and had Thanksgiving with his sons, and his siblings.
I had dinner here with my Grandma and Uncle.
It's kind of a bummer, but with his ex being tricky about visitation, we have to make do until we get all the details settled in court.

 

[fireplug]

DW is working a 12 hr shift in an ICU and I am 25 miles away on a 24 hr shift. We are celebrating Saturday with our family.

Steve

 

[disneycrazed139]

Well, thanks for all the responses to this. It did turn out to be an okay day being separated. I guess I was just thinking of all the great times I had when I was younger at the holidays--big family gatherings, and the separation issue was really getting to me. Just being grateful for what I have today is important--whatever that might be.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

 

[browneyes]

I spend about 1/2 the day with my SO. When we break out the Scrabble board, he leaves to go to go to his dad's. We've had many Thanksgivings where we didn't spend that much time together.