Anyone else feel like this?

[dtuleya]

My DH, whom I love dearly, just left until Thursday night on a fishing trip to upstate New York. His company is paying him to take some of their good customers. He's not much of a fisherman, but loves nature.

The thing is, I'm glad he's gone. Not in a bad way, but we're together all the time. I've been trying to get him to get a hobby, but he hasn't done so yet. Being together ALL the time is wearing thin on my nerves. He has ADHD and even on meds he is restless at times. I'm loving the fact that for the next three nights it will be me, my two DSs and the dog. It's just nice to have some alone time so that you can appreciate everything more when you're finally together again.

Anybody else feel this way or am I a selfish wife?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Dh is going to NYC for a few days this month and I can't wait.

Yes I do love alone time and he does as well. Although he may not get it enough.

In fact most of the women around here are smiling when the hubby leaves. Not that we don't love them or miss them but a break is good.

 

[Otimon]

No, you are not a selfish wife so banish that thought from your mind. We all need some time to ourselves now and then.

Pamper yourself and enjoy.

Best wishes.

 

[Mishetta]

Oh...I'd miss my DH too much! His family lives in California & he's gone for a 4 day weekend once in a while & we miss each other so much, we call each other about 6 - 8 times per day!! We're just glued together at home too. We do everything together, even run errands, grocery shop, (clip coupons, fold laundry) etc....silly things that I could do on my own, or he could do on his own. We just prefer to be together. Of course, we're still newlyweds, only been married 9 years.

Now my 8 y/o DS has ADHD & he's the one I'd like to send on a fishing trip for a week!

 

[UrsulasDaBomb]

{{{Huggies}}}

You're not selfish! Not at all. DH is going to be going on a week-long training session in Minnesota for his new job in a couple of weeks and while I WILL miss him a lot, I will also be glad he's gone. I'm pretty darn antisocial and independant and having him around all the time would make me nuts. Makes me glad we're both in retail so that we're SOMETIMES home together but more often than not, we're like passing ships in the night. It makes me appreciate the time we do get to spend together more.


Gayle(UDB)

 

[Rajah]

*hugs* I don't think you're selfish at all. I think it's perfectly natural. I, too, love my DH, but usually by the time one of his conferences comes around, I'm ready for a little break. The breaks are perfect for me -- by the time DH's conference is over, I'm very ready for him to be back home. I think short separations for non-hostile reasons are usually probably a good thing.

 

[Michelle]

Heavens no, you're not selfish.

My DH travels on business quite a bit and I always relish having a quieter and cleaner household when he's gone. On the flip side, it's hard doing the single parent thing when he's gone.

What is REALLY blissful is when he takes our DD on a weekend camping trip and I have the whole quiet house to myself for two days. That's just the right amount of solitude to recharge the batteries, and everyone is happy to see each other again when they return.

Enjoy your time away from each other!

 

[browneyes]

Maybe he can take my SO with him.

 

[pygmymom]

Today is the first day of school here in Minnesota, and what's even more exciting for me than my kids going back to school is my DH went back to work after almost two weeks off!

You aren't selfish at all. Different relationships need different space. You need to take care of yourself, too. Just think of how happy you'll be when he comes home.

Enjoy your time!

 

[dtuleya]

Thanks for the support. I know so many women whose husbands travel constantly that I felt guilty wanting a little time away. Our 15th anniversary trip to NYC is coming up next weekend and it will be nice to spend some quality "adult" time together.

 

[tkyes]

No, you aren't selfish at all!

I felt the same way when DH would leave for a couple days. Now he has a new position and he does travel frequently. I still like a couple days to myself now and then though, it's just the long trips I don't like.

I like having my own schedule and not feeling guilty about sleeping in or being lazy when he's not home

Perfectly normal my dear!

Tamie