Anybody who was a part of the notorious New Years Eve thread??

[sunnyday123]

I wasn't sure which one would be best!

Generally females wait till they've actually been asked before announcing their engagement to the world.

Is this some sort of new trend I wasn't aware of?

Duh. You PLAN the wedding first, THEN you get asked.

Okay, I just have to interrupt a little bit and say that I tried to join the Wall-E1/New Years Eve group on Facebook, and got denied. How rude.

Okay, back on topic. Who wants to go pool hopping?

Me! Me! Just let me get my refillable mug from 2006!!

And Pebbles, will you be riding down the aisle in an ECV??

 

[irishbosoxfan]

Duh. You PLAN the wedding first, THEN you get asked.

Me! Me! Just let me get my refillable mug from 2006!!

And Pebbles, will you be riding down the aisle in an ECV??

Ok I'll give you that. You the plan the wedding first,then you get asked but here's where my emphasis would be---THEN you announce it to the world.

Seems a lot backwards to tell everyone you're getting married to someone when all you've done is chat with them online and plan a vacation.

A proposal comes before the announcement.

And when you have kids like the OP does it's a good idea for the kids to meet the guy in person for an extended period of time before deciding if they're the one.

 

[PebblesMK]

Ok I'll give you that. You the plan the wedding first,then you get asked but here's where my emphasis would be---THEN you announce it to the world.

Seems a lot backwards to tell everyone you're getting married to someone when all you've done is chat with them online and plan a vacation.

A proposal comes before the announcement.

And when you have kids like the OP does it's a good idea for the kids to meet the guy in person for an extended period of time before deciding if they're the one.

Since when am I supposed to be worried about what my kid thinks? He isn't concerned with what his kid thinks either. That's just small details.

And there will definitely be some ECV ridin' down the aisles. Maybe with some cans dangling off the back!

 

[Hollywoodhaha]

I tried joining the group so .. erhm .. accept Holly so I can babysit


(SAT was pretty easy compared to the ACT. I am exhausted)

 

[ksumn1]

I found the Facebook group!!! Yaaaaaaayyyyy!!!!!!

Ya'll really shoud see the pics of Pebblesmk's dress. it is soo totally over the top. Walle is going to be so suprised.
He HAS to pop the question now.

 

[PebblesMK]

I found the Facebook group!!! Yaaaaaaayyyyy!!!!!!

Ya'll really shoud see the pics of Pebblesmk's dress. it is soo totally over the top. Walle is going to be so suprised.
He HAS to pop the question now.

How can he not ask me to marry him with my girls hanging out?!?!? I'm getting so excited. I told him that my ring better be big because if it isn't, I'm not going to be happy. I sent him the Tiffany links to the acceptable rings.

 

[can84]

Okay, I just have to interrupt a little bit and say that I tried to join the Wall-E1/New Years Eve group on Facebook, and got denied. How rude.

There's a FB group and I wasn't invited. That's it. I'm done with this thread and will never return.

 

[PebblesMK]

There's a FB group and I wasn't invited. That's it. I'm done with this thread and will never return.

Yeah yeah. Don't worry, I just got in trouble about that group-which I forgot existed. I'll send you a link if you wish but you must include your user name.

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=230341721509&ref=ts

Also, it's not my group so I have absolutely no control over what goes on there.

 

[can84]

(SAT was pretty easy compared to the ACT. I am exhausted)

I'm sure you did great!

 

[ksumn1]

And as for knowing someone first...people meet in many strange ways. At bars, in airports, at work, dating sites, and some even meet on the DISboards. I don't think you can say that becasue a couple hasn't met in person, they shouldn't get married. Many people in the past and even present (think the Indian cuplture) have no say in who they marry. Mail order brides, arranged marraiges. At least walle and pebbles 'know' each other.

 

[PebblesMK]

And as for knowing someone first...people meet in many strange ways. At bars, in airports, at work, dating sites, and some even meet on the DISboards. I don't think you can say that becasue a couple hasn't met in person, they shouldn't get married. Many people in the past and even present (think the Indian cuplture) have no say in who they marry. Mail order brides, arranged marraiges. At least walle and pebbles 'know' each other.

Definitely! I had a friend who met her husband on their wedding day. And then she moved across the country to live with him, but then he went on leave and left her without a car, job, friends, family...nothing. However, they've been married for 6 years so in some weird way, it works. I will say that I thought it was doomed when he convinced her that he was in the Navy working on a ship in Oklahoma. Oklahoma gained an ocean...the Oklahocean.

 

[irishbosoxfan]

Since when am I supposed to be worried about what my kid thinks? He isn't concerned with what his kid thinks either. That's just small details.

And there will definitely be some ECV ridin' down the aisles. Maybe with some cans dangling off the back!

Wow. That's so sad I don't even know where to start. Small details. Wonder if your kids know how little they mean in the grand scheme of things. You expect to have a family with someone yet the kids are the furthest thing from your mind.

And as for knowing someone first...people meet in many strange ways. At bars, in airports, at work, dating sites, and some even meet on the DISboards. I don't think you can say that becasue a couple hasn't met in person, they shouldn't get married. Many people in the past and even present (think the Indian cuplture) have no say in who they marry. Mail order brides, arranged marraiges. At least walle and pebbles 'know' each other.

I'm not saying that they shouldn't get married but I do think he should have asked for her to marry him before she came here and told everyone that they're getting married.

And I think if you have kids like the OP does then how the children feel should be a huge deciding factor on whether you marry someone or not. And you won't know how the kids feel if they haven't been able to spend any one on one time with a person.

Mail order brides and arranged marriages don't involve children from a previous relationship that need to be taken into account.

The children need to be put first not ones desire for a wedding.

 

[ksumn1]

Actually, many mail order brides in the past (back in frontier times) were brought in after a wife died. The male was to busy trying to keep the crops, going, animals fed and the farm kept up to take care of the kids. So a bride was advertised for, specifically to be a mom, take care of the house, kids, cooking cleaning etc.

And I find it hard to believe that a child should be the deciding factor in a marraige or relationship. I think you should consider their feelings, but to let them say yes or no about an adult relationship is absolutely ridiculous. Of course a child would not want to share their mom or dad with anyone else. As an adult, you have to think about it and decide for yourself AND for the children. I mean, you're willing to let a person who would eat catain crunch and pizza for every meal decide wheter you should marry?

Pebbles and walle obviously have a connection that they feel is strong enough to build upon and make a life together. As for the wedding after the proposal.....most of the men I know don't jump into an engagement. they have to be prodded, poked, and in many cases given an ultimatum before "decide" to propose. Pebbles is just thinking ahead.

She's not the only one, there was a thread on the wedding boards (I think) about planning the wedding before the engagement. Many times, you know it's coming, so why not plan ahead. Buy some decorations you see on clearance. Again, in the past, women often prepared for their weddings as children. They needlepointed, quilted blankets, prepared a trousseau as children for their future marraiges. IMHO, it just makes everything easier...like a WDw trip, a wedding prepares planning. Why not start early?

 

[PRmamiDEdos]

I'm all for a trashy WDW wedding. Who cares if he proposed yet or not? I just want a vacation!!

 

[My sister's princess]