Hey--I was rear-ended by a State Farm insured person in April----must be a pre-requsite to get on with them.
Anyway--they told me the same thing--will not discuss, look at, etc any medical until I am THROUGH treatment (which I am still in). My insurance company paid the first $10,000. using my medpay but now I am out there "on my own". I hired a lawyer--I had medical bills going to collection agencies. Most provders realize it's third party but I have one that won't even acknowledge it's an auto accident--hence, they sent my account to collections. I hated hiring them but I want someone to run interference between State Farm, the collection agencies and me.
You may also want to try your state insurance commissioner's office to ask questions. My insurance didn't want to pay my time missed from the work--they insisted I had to use any vacation or sick time my employer provides. I didn't think that was fair--I have to use MY time for an accident that wasn't my fault and then have no time left for my personal use? Anyway, after I let them know I had called the insurance commissioner and the caseworker assigned to me wanted them to fax her the EXACT page and section in my policy which states that--they relented and agreed to 'just this time" pay me.