Am I Unreasonable?

[Kath2003]

My housemate has recently acquired a drum kit

Now I live in a house of 6. Four of my housemates work full time, I'm a student and he..well he has two jobs but even between them it's not full time.

He lives in the room above me and last week played his drums with his door open at 10am. Now I'm a student, so I live a funny lifestyle. Some nights I have to be at events until midnight, some nights I live the 9-5.

That day, I'd gotten home at 2am and went to bed at 4pm. I had a presentation that afternoon at 3pm so I planned to get up at midday. Obviously I had to get up at 10am.

Today, he's just come home, no idea that I'm in/sleeping/working etc. and just started playing his drums. He never closes his door, despite me asking. He never checks if anyone's in, despite me asking.

Is it unreasonable to expect him to check with the rest of the house (i.e. me because I'm the only one home in the day) before he starts playing? If I ask him not to play them he says I should be up/go to the library!

 

[poohandwendy]

No, I don't think you are being unreasonable. He is being extremely inconsiderate. I think you really need to find a way to disrupt his sleep...so he has an idea of why you are upset about it, LOL.

 

[Kath2003]

Well this is my point: he shouldn't get to decide when I sleep/study, I should. I realise I don't live the 9-5 lifestyle but I don't wake up him and my other 4 housemates when I arrive home, or when I'm awake all night.

As it was, I was trying to work my way through some study before I go to work in 15 minutes. If he'd have come and asked me, "Do you mind?" I'd have said, "I'm studying right now but I'm leaving for work in half an hour, please could you wait until then?". As it is, I now have to do that work another time.

 

[poohandwendy]

Well this is my point: he shouldn't get to decide when I sleep/study, I should. I realise I don't live the 9-5 lifestyle but I don't wake up him and my other 4 housemates when I arrive home, or when I'm awake all night.

I think you are right. I think any time you live with other people and share rent, it's imperative to be considerate of the others. A drum set is loud, everyone knows that. I think he should be willing to work out a schedule with you, because it is causing problems.

 

[Kath2003]

Thanks. I just feel like I'm stopping him doing something he enjoys Although that said, he disrupts things I enjoy (like my daily soap opera) (but of course I don't feel I can say anything about that because it's not something I need to do - studying and sleeping are!).

 

[geffric]

there are pads that go on each drum that muffles the sound .. they aren't expenseive but help make peace in house.. let me see if i can find them>>>

This is the set that DS has.. http://www.musiciansfriend.com/product/Drum-One-SilentOne-2-Practice-Pads-Expansion-Kit?sku=447581

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

Nope, you are not being unreasonable. Living together is all about compromise. I would be LIVID if I had such an inconsiderate housemate.

 

[dis-me]

i can sympathise - my housemate in his first year used to bring his girlfriend round all the time! so annoying!

Hi Kath!
Sorry your housemates are being a pain

.....(Kath WAS my housemates girlfriend )

 

[Cool-Beans]

Next time he's sleeping, put on "It's a Small World" as loud as your loudest boom box will play, and set it to repeat.

I don't think it is unreasonable to ask people not to play drums when you're sleeping.

You all need to work out a schedule.