Am I strange?

[carolfoy]

honest opinions please, A friend suggested I join match.com or dating direct etc, I've been single for 8 years (I'm 34) and am thinking its about time I stepped out in the dating world again. Now Callums 10 and spends every other weekend with his dad I have a bit of spare time but I couldn't yet commit to see anyone during the week times he's home. I've forgotton totally how to date and wouldn't know how to flirt if my life depended on it. Also meeting someone who may become 'special' around the town where I live is impossible, everyones either my friend or one of my friends ex's!
Also what if they didn't love Disney? yikes, too much to consider, what would you do?

 

[Minniespal]

What about doing an evening class to meet other people or asking a friend to introduce you to someone they know?

 

[carolfoy]

Evening anythings are out of the question as I have Callum at home, also unless I wanted to drive 30 miles each way it'd be full of people from my town. same old problem.
Also as for people introducing you anyone who's single will know all their 'smug marrieds' insist they know the perfect man for you and always insist they'll arrange a dinner/date/party etc but they never do!!!!
thats the same for all my single friends so its not just me.

 

[florida sun]

Carol

Im in the exact same situation as you, my friends all tell me I dont get out enough to meet anyone. Like you I have been on my own for 8 years and I have tried the dating thing a few years back and was not keen, maybe I just didnt meet the right type of guy.

Maybe we should start our dating agency up that suits our own criteria and only take clients that love Disney lol


Sue

 

[mandymouse]

Carol, you're only as strange as the rest of us

Sorry I can't help you, but I hope you have a lot of fun in your search

 

[carolfoy]

Carol

Im in the exact same situation as you, my friends all tell me I dont get out enough to meet anyone. Like you I have been on my own for 8 years and I have tried the dating thing a few years back and was not keen, maybe I just didnt meet the right type of guy.

Maybe we should start our dating agency up that suits our own cirteria and only take clients that love Disney lol


Sue

Oh sue good luck to you too in your quest but I bags the first Jack Sparrow lookalike!!

OOOH! Sorry Mandy - see above.

 

[disneyholic family]

i know 5 people who met their husbands/wives via internet dating services (all different ones)..
from what they described to me, they had to specify different likes and dislikes (like disney would be a big like for you)...

so far they're all very happily married........and they're all amazingly well matched......4 of the couples live where i do (or did at the time that they met, though one couple has moved on to another posting)...

the fifth couple is a multi-gazilionnaire i know who lives in europe, who found his soul-mate on the net, married her and brought her back to live with him in europe....i laughed when he said he was going to do it.....i mean, why would he need to go on the net to find a woman?.....in truth he didn't....he could have as many blond bimbos as his heart desired.....but finding a soulmate was harder....on the net he could be just himself, without money....she didn't find out about the money until the very end....after she'd already said yes to his proposal!!.......
and they too are perfectly suited to each other.....a match made in heaven...

on the other hand, i do know one woman who has had nothing but bad experiences with dating via an internet dating service...

 

[shellbell]

Carol you and Sue could always go on holiday to Florida together, meet two rich, disney loving Americans and marry them. Then we could all come and stay

 

[carolfoy]

Carol you and Sue could always go on holiday to Florida together, meet two rich, disney loving Americans and marry them. Then we could all come and stay

The best idea so far

 

[Tink78]

Carol you and Sue could always go on holiday to Florida together, meet two rich, disney loving Americans and marry them. Then we could all come and stay

Can I come and stay too please?
What a fab idea!

Go for it carolfoy, you deserve someone special.

 

[carolfoy]

i know 5 people who met their husbands/wives via internet dating services (all different ones)..
from what they described to me, they had to specify different likes and dislikes (like disney would be a big like for you)...

so far they're all very happily married........and they're all amazingly well matched......4 of the couples live where i do (or did at the time that they met, though one couple has moved on to another posting)...

the fifth couple is a multi-gazilionnaire i know who lives in europe, who found his soul-mate on the net, married her and brought her back to live with him in europe....i laughed when he said he was going to do it.....i mean, why would he need to go on the net to find a woman?.....in truth he didn't....he could have as many blond bimbos as his heart desired.....but finding a soulmate was harder....on the net he could be just himself, without money....she didn't find out about the money until the very end....after she'd already said yes to his proposal!!.......
and they too are perfectly suited to each other.....a match made in heaven...

on the other hand, i do know one woman who has had nothing but bad experiences with dating via an internet dating service...

I like the idea of the gazzillionnaire Beth - think how many DVC points I could buy! I don't suppose I can put that in my 'likes' though. I've known a few people too who have had good success with these sites, the friend that encouraged me in the first place is a prime example. Is it too selfish though to only want a guy on my terms? I mean as little time as I have with my son (I work 5 or 6 days a week) is very special and I won't have that interrupted for anyone.
I wish I could get some guys points of views too, is this seen as too desperate? I'm certainly not unhappy as I am just occassionally though I do yearn for the kind of love you can't get from your child.

 

[Lisash]

Go for it Carol!

It's not strange. I have a couple of work colleagues who have been on internet dates and although they haven't met the man of their dreams yet, they have had a good time looking.

Good luck & keep us posted on how you get on

Lisa

 

[Madjock]

I say go for it, life's too short

Although have to say I don't envy you, the mere thought of having to date

I read a book by Jane Moore called Dot.Homme, you should give it a read, very amusing book about internet dating.

Of course if you do we would expect a full run down of each and every date

 

[KayleeUK]

Carol & Sue Hope you find your men soon.

 

[carolfoy]

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I read a book by Jane Moore called Dot.Homme, you should give it a read, very amusing book about internet dating.

I read it too Annmarie, didn't find it very inspiring though!

Of course if you do we would expect a full run down of each and every date

Of course - watch out for a load of threads from me asking 'is HE strange?'

 

[FizzyPop]

Carol go out and have some fun It definately gets the thumbs up from me

 

[disneyholic family]

I like the idea of the gazzillionnaire Beth - think how many DVC points I could buy! I don't suppose I can put that in my 'likes' though. I've known a few people too who have had good success with these sites, the friend that encouraged me in the first place is a prime example. Is it too selfish though to only want a guy on my terms? I mean as little time as I have with my son (I work 5 or 6 days a week) is very special and I won't have that interrupted for anyone.
I wish I could get some guys points of views too, is this seen as too desperate? I'm certainly not unhappy as I am just occassionally though I do yearn for the kind of love you can't get from your child.

it doesn't seem desperate to me at all........
as for being on your terms, i don't think that's selfish...that's being realistic...it's good you know what you can't compromise on up front....prevents hurt feelings or worse (broken hearts) later on...

 

[florida sun]

Carol you and Sue could always go on holiday to Florida together, meet two rich, disney loving Americans and marry them. Then we could all come and stay

Now thats an idea I like


Sue

 

[AlanUK]

Nothing you have said sounds desparate to me If anything I would say it was quite the opposite. You are clear about what you can and cannot commit to and looking for a man to fit in with your life rather than being willing to bend over backwards to fit into someone elses life.

It all sounds like a good basis for beginning a relationship to me You just need to find some eligible men now

 

[mandymouse]

Carol you and Sue could always go on holiday to Florida together, meet two rich, disney loving Americans and marry them. Then we could all come and stay

Ooh, I like that idea