Been through several with our two kids (one boy, one girl).
Started with ritalin with higher doses for DD. She took 10 mg in the am, 5 mg at noon, and 5 mg if needed after school (for special activities, difficult homework, etc.) DS maintained on 10 mg in the morning, and 5 if needed after school. We tried adderal briefly, but it didn't seem to help the symptoms as much. Overall, they were on ritalin from 98- the end of 01?
With ritalin, we saw improved concentration and impulse control. Neither of our kids were "zombie" like, but I do know that others see that effect. It just seemed to give them the ability to do that mental count to 10 before they acted. Marked improvement in school performance. DD still had some problems with peers (social behaviour), but it was better than no med.
Negative side effects for DD included nausea and a burning stomach sensation. She also wasn't gaining much wait. She had only gained about 4 pounds over the 4 years on the medicine. She was getting taller, but at 9 years old, she weighed 55 pounds.
At the end of the 00-01 school year, we switched to concerta, which is basically a time delayed ritalin. Both kids were on 18 mg once a day. We also gave a 5 mg dose of regular ritalin in the evening for the activities listed above, particularly as they got older (they were probably just outgrowing the 18 mg dose). They were on it until August of this year. The nausea side effect from regular ritalin wasn't present with the concerta, and DD finally started to put on some weight. She's now up to 75 pounds at 11 1/2 years old. She's still wearing slim sized pants, but at least those stay on now! DS is still small for his age, but he has stayed at the same location on the growth curve, so it doesn't seem to affect him as much.
We switched to strattera for both kids in August because ritalin in any form is a controlled substance, while strattera is not. You can't have a prescription or refill called in for ritalin, and must pick up a hard copy each time. Our dr is about 25 miles out of our way, so picking up prescriptions once a month is an annoyance. We had also heard that strattera was much better for adolescent girls.
DD has adjusted pretty well to the strattera. They worked her up to a 40 mg dose, which seemed too much (she was really tired in the afternoon, and was nauseous in the mornings), and we dropped her back down to 25 mg. At that dosage, she's doing well. Her social skills have greatly improved (maybe maturity, but I'm sure the meds help too).
DS is on 25 mg, and is still having some nausea in the mornings. We're still in the wait and see mode, but if the nausea doesn't improve, he may be going back to concerta.
We had a psych assess both kids, and make the initial recommendation on meds, but our family doctor has been prescribing the meds for them. He's been good about changes in dosages, etc. He was hesitant to switch to the strattera until a psych had recommended it, but after we saw a really bad psych (thanks to our insurance and the really small amount of physchiatrists in our area!), who really knew nothing about it, the family practice doctor did his own research and concurred with the switch.
Hope this helps! Lisa