Adam and Katie's wedding PJ -10/2/2010 SBP/SCP need floral advice!!

[figment fan21]

You aren't being Bridezilla at all! Its your wedding day and you should spend as much as you want on it. However I don't think getting into debt over it is a good way to start a marriage. To pay for ours we have cut way back on extra spendings day to day so no eating out, no new clothes, etc etc and put the money away each pay day so that I can't spend it. Are you taking your dress off at Boma, why not keep it on. Ignore your family, do what you want to do, don't forget parents often play children off each other so you probably don't know the whole story there either, just concentrate on yourselves and make yourselves happy, its no good second guessing what other do or don't want/like.

We've been cutting back... BIG time. And i've also opened up a savings account and every week it automatically takes 75$ from my checking account. I started that in June but i wish i had started it sooner. DF and I will have about 8000$ for the wedding saved up but we included meal plan, flights, ect. But the way i see it if we have to put anoher thousand or so on a credit card i'll just keep doing the 75$ a week until i can pay it all off.

I may keep my dress on at BOMA. My only concern is that its a buffet and i dont want to be inconveniencing other people with my large dress lol... can you just see it.. "excuse me, pardon me, bride coming through!" I mean i could always make DF go get my food

Definately keep the costs to a minimum at your at home party.

I absolutly will be keeping it to a minimum at this point.

I know exactly how you feel! I know I upset a few people but they really aren't too concerned with the wedding...it was more like even though they didn't plan on going, just because they couldn't they got offended. Do what makes you guys happy!!

Exactly! And no matter how many times we tell them not to be offended they are.

 

[malibustacey]

we are saving up big time and have cut out soooo much, i used to spend most of my wages on nothing - apart from my insurance on my car and little bits like food shopping and phones, i used to go shopping and spend a lot on anything - and treated people all the time. I have cut back big time, i managed to save up for my dress in 3 months (but then that money is now saved because Waynes ma paid for it) but still, its crazy, and i dont even have a good wage! Im on such a crappy wage but im saving so so much its crazy. Its not like you are putting $10k on the credit card, you are putting a reasonable amount that you will be able to pay back. Its not a big deal. I agree, if you want your DP, then you can make it happen.

And i totally think you should wear your dress to Boma- then everyone has to help the bride and bring you all your food! hehe!

 

[shippedtosea]

you are NOT being bridezilla! (have you SEEN that show? terrible..) anyway. I think you are doing great with your budget and you are totally right at thinking that its your wedding and you can go a little beyond the norm! you are doing a good job at saving. I think if it comes down to it and you have to use a credit card then thats what has to happen. You don't want regrets on your wedding day! hope your feeling better

 

[malibustacey]

ohhh Jeeeeze that Bridezilla show is awful! I once saw an episode where the woman talked so nasty*infact SCREAMED all the time to her husband to-be and she called him all the names under the sun and she was HORRID to him- if i was that man i would be so put off marrying her- the way she treated him it was terrible!!! i felt so sorry for the guy! I would have dug a grave and put her in there to shut her up! haha!! oh gosh that show gives me the chills! YOU ARE NOT A BRIDEZILLA!!

 

[figment fan21]

I understand as well about family members not being involved or giving you a hard time...this is your day YOUR DAY...if slurging on a DP is what you want...then do it...If wearing your dress longer than just the ceremony is what you want...find a way...it will all work out...

Thanks hun!
I just wish people were more involved. Not in the financial way but in the planning aspect. The things my mom said to me still haunt me and it just makes me feel aweful. And Df's mother isn't being that wonderful either... even when we were planning our home wedding before this she was concerned that my half the guest list would be too big.. umm... helllloooo, you're an only child, my mother is one of 4 and my dad is one of three. I have a large italian family i'm sorry!

But like you said its our day and i'm going to figure out a way to make both of us happy.

you are NOT being bridezilla! (have you SEEN that show? terrible..) anyway. I think you are doing great with your budget and you are totally right at thinking that its your wedding and you can go a little beyond the norm! you are doing a good job at saving. I think if it comes down to it and you have to use a credit card then thats what has to happen. You don't want regrets on your wedding day! hope your feeling better

Thank you SOOOO much for the kind words of encouragement!
And i agree that i just dont want any regrets after the wedding. I dont want to go home and think... i wish i did this... or i wish i did that... But then again i dont want to think it was a waste either. Its so confusing. We'll see.... we definatly want to do things on the honeymoon so after the ceremony costs we'll see how much extra a DP is... i dont want to cut out fun things on the honeymoon. Ugh so many different things i need to think about.

ohhh Jeeeeze that Bridezilla show is awful! I once saw an episode where the woman talked so nasty*infact SCREAMED all the time to her husband to-be and she called him all the names under the sun and she was HORRID to him- if i was that man i would be so put off marrying her- the way she treated him it was terrible!!! i felt so sorry for the guy! I would have dug a grave and put her in there to shut her up! haha!! oh gosh that show gives me the chills! YOU ARE NOT A BRIDEZILLA!!

OMG i always watch that show when i'm feeling down about my wedding situation. lol it makes me laugh so hard. Its amazing what people do on that show.

 

[Tale as old as Time]

Okay, so remember how I told you I found wishes picks by Randy? I re-found the link, and the pics are much better than I remembered.

They are amazing! I love them!

 

[figment fan21]

They are amazing! I love them!

i know... they're making me want to do it more and more and more!

 

[figment fan21]

Ok so the only way i'm going to feel better is to number crunch. I showed DF the pictures of SCP and DP's there and inbetween killing people on call of duty he told me that he thinks it'll be cool and a good way to have a DP without spending alot at EPCOT. Good boy! Talking to him about wedding stuff while he plays CoD is the best way to get what i want!

so number crunching....

Escape package = 4750$
my bouquet upgrade = ? a few escape brides upgraded with not cost so heres hoping i'm a lucky one too!
two gerbera daisy wands = $35 each for a 70$ total for my two sisters
two extra bouts = 12.50$ each so $25 total for both DF's brothers
Cake upgrade = 150$ i'm going by what karen was quoted on her old cake of choice, but will cut if needed
rose petals down the aisle at SBP = $65 per my sales consultant
Sand Ceremony = $35 per my sales consultant
rose petal staged exit = 3$ per person x 16 people is 48$

Ceremony Total = $5143 so lets round up and make it $5200

Dinner at BOMA = $650 roughly between tax gratuity and drinks. We may use the TIW card or our own DDP so it could be alittle less but lets aim high to avoid sticker shock shall we?


SCP DP
$500 F&B minimum (per lurkyloo who is all knowing) We are going to try and stick VERY close to this! I'm sure if i explain that to my planner she'll work with me on it... i hope
$75 set up fee
12$ per glowing gel thing so we'll need no more than 5 so $60 total
Photography = ? I just emailed randy to see if he is available and how much it would be to have him come back for the DP

So without photography DP = $635 but round up to $675... again avoiding sticker shock!

so everything so far is..... $6525 If we put the DP on the credit card and pay it off $5850 Not Bad! Between DF and I we should have enough to pay for everything with wiggle room and we'll still be able to do the things we want to do on the honeymoon!

I feel MUCH better about everything now that i've crunched the numbers. If my numbers are wrong PLEASE let me know... dont let me be nieve!

 

[shippedtosea]

I "sensed" there was a post coming

I think you are doing very well with your budget! Seems like you just may get everything you want!

 

[figment fan21]

Hahahaha!!! I thought you'd sense it!

Anyway yes it looks like everything is a go! It feels good to know that everything will be paid for. And this is assuming we dont get any help. My dad had expressed awhile ago that although he doesn't have the money right now he'll wants to be able to help eventually... i have a feeling he might grab the bill from us at BOMA Or give us a big gift. I'm not counting on it obviously (havent talked to him in a month or two) but its a possibility. We could always sell or return gifts from the bridal shower to help pay for things HAHAHAHAHA!!!! I kid i kid!

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

It looks like you have a good sense of your budget! I hope you can have a DP, since you seem to really want it! Either way, your wedding will be FAB!!! I really wanted pictures in AKL in my dress, I think it would be so gorgeous!

Oh, and for the bridal shower, you can register for the disney honeymoon card (I cant remember what it is called) and you could always use some of that to help pay for Boma. Than extra money could be spent at the DP or your vacay!

 

[teddygurl28]

oh katie, number crunching is never fun...its your day..its awesome that you and adam are putting so much aside and you will be able to pay so much of it up front, but honestly if some of it has to be on a card, then so be it...i never suggest going crazy on a card ( then again like i should ever talk lol) but you should be happy with what you have!

SC will still be amazing...but i love GF and wishes and its what you make it, you can have your dress on, it will still be a fireworks show, and it will be lovely.

lastly, i know this was a million pages back, buttttt
Deluxe dining-Mike and I did this last year, and we will do it again next year, its a bunch of food. a whole bunch. But we did signature a couple of times, and both him and i like to have soups or salads with our dinners so that was covered. Generally for bfast and lunch we did quick service, i thnk mayb next year we will do some sit down lunches...who knows...but i think when time comes you should seriously look into it

 

[hollybearsmom]

As soon as I saw your comment about the large Italian family I started laughing. It took me right back to it all, nasty comments and making suggestions about wedding plans. My dh is from one of those, with something near 75 1st cousins...it was insane, but we are still together!

Don't go overbord on cc because you can, only because you want too. I agree not to go into debt entering marriage. It is b-a-d. And a small home party is all you need if that is what the two of you decide on. Fun and casual and intimate, always better than two long rows of tables where you can't see everyone. imo, of course.

 

[PrincessShea]

Awww I went through the same thing with all the number crunching headaches.

For me, personally, I felt like this was the last big "event" of my life and I didn't want to look back at it with regret. We didn't put anything on the credit card, paid for it by ourselves, and are by no stretch of the imagination rich.

Basically, we just lived like peasants in order to have the wedding. Just off the top of my head; do you have cable? Cancel it. You'll have $500 in 5-6 months. Turn the heat down really really low this winter. Don't go out to eat. Make pasta frequently. Don't buy any new clothes. Don't buy any wedding related trinkets unless you are 100% positive they will be used. Get movies from the library. Cancel your cell phone and get a prepaid for right now; only use when 100% necessary. Talk with people over skype or AIM or something. My life for the 4-5 months leading up to the wedding was pretty boring. All I did was go to work and workout. We did nothing, went nowhere, and bought nothing. Would I do it again to pay for the wedding I wanted; yes.

Don't upgrade the cake. Wait for 40% coupons from Michael's in the paper and buy the sand ceremony yourself. The glow gel things at the DP aren't that necessary. Sure they were cool in that moment, but they are in none of the pictures and the tables will be cluttered with purses, food, etc, and they lose their pizazz quickly.

And I'll be bold and throw this thought out there...if you are really stressing about regretting not doing certain things at the wedding...cut some stuff from the honeymoon. The Deluxe Villas are going to be there the next time you go. Now I know you've said the honeymoon is really important and you want a lot of quality time with DH; but just a thought.

Now granted, I don't have a house and probably won't anytime in the foreseeable future, but I think saving $500 in the next 11 months should be doable. Maybe you'll be able to return some Christmas gifts for money

 

[Chilly]

I don't have a $75 set up fee on my BEO but I do have a $50 small party fee.

I think Randy is charging me $250 for the DP.

 

[figment fan21]

It looks like you have a good sense of your budget! I hope you can have a DP, since you seem to really want it! Either way, your wedding will be FAB!!! I really wanted pictures in AKL in my dress, I think it would be so gorgeous!

Oh, and for the bridal shower, you can register for the disney honeymoon card (I cant remember what it is called) and you could always use some of that to help pay for Boma. Than extra money could be spent at the DP or your vacay!

You're so sweet! I try not to have wedding envy but i see all these amazing pictures of disney weddings and i start to get like a two year old... I WANT IT!!!!

I thought about registering on the disney website... i think we may do that since DF doesn't want to register because we have alot of things since we've already lived together for 3 years.

And i cant WAIT to have some pre ceremony pitcures done at the AKL. I was actually imagining it on the car ride to work this morning

oh katie, number crunching is never fun...its your day..its awesome that you and adam are putting so much aside and you will be able to pay so much of it up front, but honestly if some of it has to be on a card, then so be it...i never suggest going crazy on a card ( then again like i should ever talk lol) but you should be happy with what you have!

SC will still be amazing...but i love GF and wishes and its what you make it, you can have your dress on, it will still be a fireworks show, and it will be lovely.

lastly, i know this was a million pages back, buttttt
Deluxe dining-Mike and I did this last year, and we will do it again next year, its a bunch of food. a whole bunch. But we did signature a couple of times, and both him and i like to have soups or salads with our dinners so that was covered. Generally for bfast and lunch we did quick service, i thnk mayb next year we will do some sit down lunches...who knows...but i think when time comes you should seriously look into it

Thanks Meghan! When i started saving in June i did out the math and i'll have 4500$ saved up by the time of the wedding if i continue doing 75$ a week. Once in a while we get bonuses at work so thats going right in there! And if i have any extra money that i can spare, that'll go in there too. And thats just me, DF can make good money doing a side job here and there plus his job. So we were hoping to have somewhere aroung 10,000$ saved up. We figured still be cost efficient and hope that we dont use that much so we have something when we get home.

As soon as I saw your comment about the large Italian family I started laughing. It took me right back to it all, nasty comments and making suggestions about wedding plans. My dh is from one of those, with something near 75 1st cousins...it was insane, but we are still together!

Don't go overbord on cc because you can, only because you want too. I agree not to go into debt entering marriage. It is b-a-d. And a small home party is all you need if that is what the two of you decide on. Fun and casual and intimate, always better than two long rows of tables where you can't see everyone. imo, of course.

Yes we have a LARGE family. My communion party have a guest list of 250 people. I dont remember much of it but i do remember it was a big deal and being shy around all the people. But even with the at home wedding we were cutting back ALOT on my side to try and keep things equal... but DF's mother didn't understand that there is only so many people we can cut out. Not my fault they dont come from a large family. ugh... anyway

Not its definatly NOT a good thing to start a marriage off in debt and DF wouldn't allow it. I will definatly NOT be putting anything more than the DP on the CC, and thats if we even end up doing the DP. I'm definatly going to keep the party at the house super casual. I'm not wasting money on that... sorry.

Awww I went through the same thing with all the number crunching headaches.

For me, personally, I felt like this was the last big "event" of my life and I didn't want to look back at it with regret. We didn't put anything on the credit card, paid for it by ourselves, and are by no stretch of the imagination rich.

Basically, we just lived like peasants in order to have the wedding. Just off the top of my head; do you have cable? Cancel it. You'll have $500 in 5-6 months. Turn the heat down really really low this winter. Don't go out to eat. Make pasta frequently. Don't buy any new clothes. Don't buy any wedding related trinkets unless you are 100% positive they will be used. Get movies from the library. Cancel your cell phone and get a prepaid for right now; only use when 100% necessary. Talk with people over skype or AIM or something. My life for the 4-5 months leading up to the wedding was pretty boring. All I did was go to work and workout. We did nothing, went nowhere, and bought nothing. Would I do it again to pay for the wedding I wanted; yes.

Don't upgrade the cake. Wait for 40% coupons from Michael's in the paper and buy the sand ceremony yourself. The glow gel things at the DP aren't that necessary. Sure they were cool in that moment, but they are in none of the pictures and the tables will be cluttered with purses, food, etc, and they lose their pizazz quickly.

And I'll be bold and throw this thought out there...if you are really stressing about regretting not doing certain things at the wedding...cut some stuff from the honeymoon. The Deluxe Villas are going to be there the next time you go. Now I know you've said the honeymoon is really important and you want a lot of quality time with DH; but just a thought.

Now granted, I don't have a house and probably won't anytime in the foreseeable future, but I think saving $500 in the next 11 months should be doable. Maybe you'll be able to return some Christmas gifts for money

You're so sweet to help me out with this. Its been rough because we really haven't been spending. I think we've gone out once in the last two months. I think we may cut out upgrading the cake ( ) and I'm glad you told me that the gel glow things aren't really necessary. I kind of wanted them for the atmosphere because i feel like where we aren't in EPCOT atmosphere might be lacking at SCP... but its good to know i can cut them if i want to.

With the villas we kind of lucked out, my aunt is a DVC member and is giving us our honeymoon stay on her. And we rented points for the AKV's and its only going to cost us 500$ so i think that we can keep. We also may end up cutting out some things we want to do on the honeymoon. One thing we wont give up is the dolphin swim! I REALLY want to do it and so does DF... But with the disney visa i get a discount on all tours... We'll see how much the discount is for but heres hoping its enough to help squeeze some funds!

I don't have a $75 set up fee on my BEO but I do have a $50 small party fee.

I think Randy is charging me $250 for the DP.

Oh well thats great info! thanks Chilly! 250$ is cheaper than the quote i got from DPS!

 

[figment fan21]

Oh Katie... i meant to ask you... Did they charge you to upgrade your bridal bouquet?

 

[Chilly]

Oh well thats great info! thanks Chilly! 250$ is cheaper than the quote i got from DPS!

Randy is the man!

 

[figment fan21]

He really is! Do you know if he has more samples of his DP photography? I'd love to see more!

 

[sillykaren]

So call me a creeper, but I wanted to find the story of how you and Adam met but I couldn't find it anywhere. I just like reading stories! But that being said I just thought of how I didn't check your TR from your engagement!! Going to find that now...